curious911 Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 I have been dating this girl for over 2 months and everything is great all the time except for one thing. She tells me she can be a very jealous person, which is fine as I've made sure she's had nothing to be jealous about, however I've always agreed with the notion of "treat others the way you'd like to be treated" and from time to time she'll bring up this guy who she's had some history with in the past. They've dated in highschool and tried again as recently as last year to start dating again but it only lasted 2 weeks as she said he was too annoying. The thing is that I don't know if I should be worried when they exchange "I miss you" every now and then and every time she goes out to visit her friends in the place he's living in currently ( ~9 hours drive) he offers for her to stay at his house. He also says things like "i'm expecting 5 dates with you over christmas" and things like that. Maybe I'm being irrational or whatever.. but I'd like some insight from the outside. I know I've only been dating her for 2-3 months but I feel a lot of positive feelings for this girl, she seems to show them back, but I don't want to get myself F'ed over. I'm also hesitant to bring things like this up since we've only dated a couple of months. Any suggestions ?
serialgf Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 she was upfront with you about her jealousy and you've been considerate about that... that's a great start to a strong relationship (congrats!) so my advice is to continue that pattern and be upfront about how you feel... if she is considerate back then kudos. if she gets defensive then that might be a bad sign... good luck!
jerseyboy Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Some people are jealous out of insecurity. Most people are jealous because they think everyone is as untrustworthy as they are. Sorry bro but your gf is the latter. Dont be a putz for this chick
Author curious911 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Thanks for both of your replies. I think the guy initiates the behavior more than she initiates but she does contradict herself. What I mean is, he's "annoying", they've tried to date a couple of times, he lives 9 hours away, yet for some reason he's still in her head more than he should be by the way she talks about him. I don't think she realized I knew that she had previously dated him. I mentioned it one time and she seemed kind of stunned by it. "How'd you know that?" followed by a bit of awkwardness. Maybe she was just surprised. I don't know. Anyway, thanks again for both of your input as both make sense to me in their own way. Any more is appreciated also.
mark982 Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 if you've been dating only 2-3 months then you gotta weigh,if the agravation is worth it. she says she jealousy issues,but she can do the things she does and it's ok? i'd sit down ans have a serious talk w/ her about this,and if things don't change well you've only got a couple months invested.
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