I hate Thursdays

[rickigal]

Thursdays are the worst. They are the day I went over to his apartment, let myself in with the key he gave me a month before he broke up with me, made him dinner, greeted him at the door with a kiss, spent the whole night together, slept over and kissed him on the way out the door the next day.

 

I always get so sad and wonder if he is out on a date or what he is up to. I still love him 2 months later and I just want one day where I don't think of him. The pain is lessening and it is getting better little by little but I miss him so still.

 

I just want a relationship where my feelings are reciprocated. I deserve it! I've been on a few dates but just realized that I'm not ready because the guy doesn't even have a shot when I am thinking about and comparing him to my ex the entire date. So, I am taking a break from it for now. Maybe that is when the love of my life will show up on my doorstep.

[deux ex machina]

...but just realized that I'm not ready because the guy doesn't even have a shot when I am thinking about and comparing him to my ex the entire date. So, I am taking a break from it for now. Maybe that is when the love of my life will show up on my doorstep.

 

That shows a lot of self-awareness.

 

So great.

 

I'm so sorry things are difficult for you right now, but I have to tell you I am so impressed by the fact that you are holding off for a little while.

 

You do go out - but you made the decision you aren't going to go out and hurt someone, because you know you are not ready.

 

I made the same decision, and I don't regret it. Things are too confusing right now, and I don't want to hurt anyone.

 

Different people might have a different POV on that, but I really think you should respect what your heart is telling you right now.

 

I think it's a short term difficulty, but long term I think think you are making a wise choice.

 

Take good care of you right now.

[Enema]

Hey don't feel down.

 

It's Friday in Australia.

[deux ex machina]

Those Aussies always freak me out. They know things...they are from The Future. :cool:

[rickigal]

That shows a lot of self-awareness.

 

So great.

 

I'm so sorry things are difficult for you right now, but I have to tell you I am so impressed by the fact that you are holding off for a little while.

 

You do go out - but you made the decision you aren't going to go out and hurt someone, because you know you are not ready.

 

I made the same decision, and I don't regret it. Things are too confusing right now, and I don't want to hurt anyone.

 

Different people might have a different POV on that, but I really think you should respect what your heart is telling you right now.

 

I think it's a short term difficulty, but long term I think think you are making a wise choice.

 

Take good care of you right now.

 

Thank you so much. A little reassurance goes a long way right now.

[4givrnt4gtr]

Oh girl dont do that to yourself. If I did the same thing and stop to think about what day is it and what I would be doing with him back when we were together I would not be able to get out of bed any day of the week.

Thats what make good relationships so amazing, those little routines that gave meaning to our days. But once they end we have to try to disengage the meaning to things like Thursdays because they will always come around and its futile to have to go thru every thursday thinking "I would be doing this or that" Maybe you could try a little cognitive retraining. How about creating a new routine that you enjoy? Since thursdays seem to be the toughest, go all out and indulge in your favorite activity until you reclaim thursdays for yourself. Or put a rubberband in your wrist and when the "its thursday" thought begins smack yourself with the rubber band.

 

I know its hard, trust me, but the more we indulge in living in the past, the longer its going to take to feel better again. Many hugs to you. I know i dont wish this pain on anyone.