RachLIVE Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 So he's coming home for the holidays. Most likely won't see him (really hoping I dont). BUT Its too tempting to get back in contact & we'll spend new year together like we said we would a coupla months back when I was attempting friendship. It just seems like an easy idea, kinda like, im already sad, so why not just have new years then start again from there? (The most annoying thing is he would be more than happy to spend time with me) I know I shouldn't. I know its irrational. I know it will drag everything on longer. But a part of me doesn't care & I don't know how big that part of me is yet..(suppose I'll find out closer to the time). I do beleive that I will be able to keep the NC. Its more the thought of him being so close that kills me the most I think.
USMCHokie Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 You have the right idea that you shouldn't... If you have an amazing time with him, what then...? You're going to feel even worse that you're not with him anymore.
sean1970 Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 You have the right idea that you shouldn't... If you have an amazing time with him, what then...? You're going to feel even worse that you're not with him anymore. Very true... We had a great time together; however, it just pushed the pain expiration date out farther.
Taucher Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Firstly, I think most of us on here think too much! We are a certain type of person, I think. My friend's 6 year relationship broke down, he did no soul searching. He was miserable for a bit, but saw the breakup as an oppurtunity. But he is a very confident person. I do beleive that I will be able to keep the NC. Its more the thought of him being so close that kills me the most I think. You are thinking the way I think here. I have never had the problems that other people have had with NC. I have found it fairly easy. THat is because I find the distance much easier than any knowledge about her life. I dont WANT to know anything about her anymore. I guard my NC like a jelous lover. Dont see him for new year. Dont give him the power. The only power you have now is to send out a powerful message. And that message is: I deserve to be with someone who wants me, heart, soul and mind. I don't accept half assed. 100% or nothing. Ignorance is bliss. Take care. T
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