sandra3 Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Bryan and I were together seven years. He gave me an engagement ring then proceeded to dump me six weeks later. I found out he started dating a girl he was cheating on me with. He became engaged to her. They broke up. He came back and sucked me in again. The whole time he was seeing the both of us. She found out about me and we talked on the phone for over an hour. It seems that not only was he seeing both of us the whole time and asking us to marry him, there were other women he was seeing also. He refuses to talk about feelings of any kind. He seems to show no remorse and is trying to turn this situation around like she and I are to blame. He's extremely charismatic. Almost to the point of being scary. He will not except accountability for anything he has done wrong. I'm devastated. Please help me understand why a man would do this. I told him many times he could have his freedom but he declared daily his undying love for me. All this i just found out this week. I found out he's been doing this all his life. I just wasted almost a decade of my life. What's wrong with him?
VeveCakes Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 He is a pathological Liar and a Sociopath. Now run.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 He certainly sounds like one. And whatever he may be... he's somebody best avoided. Sorry about wasting ten years with him... but it's a lot better than eleven. Or twenty. He sounds like a potentially scary son of a bitch.
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Not a psychiatrist, but yeah he does appear to demonstrate a lot of the behavior patterns. How is he in his career? With money etc? How are his work habits? Does he spunge off people
Thornton Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 He sounds more like a player than a sociopath. Women always want to believe that a man has something seriously wrong with him which makes him treat them badly, when the truth is he's just a player and a user who nails every woman he can get. Either way, you're better off without him.
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 He sounds more like a player than a sociopath. Women always want to believe that a man has something seriously wrong with him which makes him treat them badly, when the truth is he's just a player and a user who nails every woman he can get. Either way, you're better off without him. LOL Hes not a "player" Hes getting engaged to these women Hes a pathological liar. Unable to accept responibility for his actions, or apparently even acknowledge them My guess is hes also a career mess as well, prone to making grandious empty promises (in addition to the engagements), and uses these women for more than just sex
stillafool Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Yeah he's all of that. The thing is women still want to know the why's and usually take these guys back. I hope you are different. Good Luck.
Author sandra3 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Not a psychiatrist, but yeah he does appear to demonstrate a lot of the behavior patterns. How is he in his career? With money etc? How are his work habits? Does he spunge off people He makes a lot of money at every job he has ever had. But he spends every penny he makes and more. He has to have the best of everything even though he's in serious debt. He works 12 hours a day for 3 weeks then misses work a week at a time. I just found out from a family member of his that he has an addiction to porn. Not your garden variety type. It seems he like he has all these separate lives (with different women) and keeps them far enough apart that they would not cross paths. Some have children and this concerns me. Thank you guys so much. I always had a gut feeling but I never knew it was this bad. I just needed someone to talk to.
Author sandra3 Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 Yeah he's all of that. The thing is women still want to know the why's and usually take these guys back. I hope you are different. Good Luck. I'll never go back. I know what you mean. I've gone back to him several times but this time the things I'm finding out scares me. Thank's for your help
carhill Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 Please help me understand why a man would do this. He likes the sex and having women chase him. Oxytocin competition theory. Wonderful work when you can get it
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