1plus1 Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Hello; this will be my first post on LS. I dated my ex for a year and 1/2. (We lived together and worked together also- so we saw each other 24hrs a day pretty much every day). I have been friends with him for almost six years now. We dated for a month when I was 21 until he moved back to his home state. I moved out to the same state when I was 23 and we started dating again a little after I turned 24. With the crappy economy he was one of a few people that were laid off in his department at our workplace(in April). We fought about money, etc. Super stressful time and we broke-up. He moved in July to take a job that is 3hrs away. The job will eventually transfer him back to the city I live in within 3months. He has a new girlfriend now. (We have been broke up for about 6months - they have been dating for the last three). Not that it matters, but they have only known each other since June. I, myself, have not physically seen him for four months due to him moving. Anyway, my post isn't exactly for advice. See, my ex and I have always been close. And since our break-up, the longest we have gone without talking was one, two-week stretch. I call/text/email him or he calls/texts/emails me at least once a week, if not two or three times. I do want to date him again sometime, but we both have to work on some things. My thing is, I do not want to be friends with him when he has a girlfriend. It is Bull-crap. He needs to be calling her, not me. So today I am starting my Get Him Back or Get Over Him diary. Ideally I would like to get him back, but if the side effect of this project is to get over him, then I'll take that too. So here is my initial plan: I am NOT going to call him, or answer unless he really needs me for something (so sue me, i'm just not very bitter towards him, so if it is an emergency I will be there). I just want to keep myself honest by posting updates on my progress etc. If you have any additional advice, let me know and maybe I can add that to my little experiment. Thank you all!!!
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