NotNow Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Basically just when you completely and totally let down a friend you said you'd help. Specifically friend (bf's friend, not mine) is fighting with his wife; asks to sleep on the couch here. Says he'll be over around 2 or 3am. Bf got really hammered and forgot to leave a key outside, and neither of us woke up at 3am when his friend called him. So....what can he do to make that up?
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Nothing says Im sorry like a bj Up to you guys I suppose which one has to do it. Although I do feel it would be absolutely legitimate to point out its his friend rreally, not yours. If hes attractive though you can offer to do it this time, but make sure to point out he owes you one.
Author NotNow Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 you are sooooo funny! Thanks for the suggestion
Ronni_W Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 So....what can he do to make that up? I've been reading a book on forgiveness, both giving and receiving. It says to effect of just say that we're sorry, and affirm that how they felt/feel due to our slight/mistake/screw-up is valid and understood. My interpretation is that it would sound something like, "I'm really sorry that I let you down last night. You were feeling bad enough, and I added to that. I can understand that you'd be feeling <disappointed, abandoned, not supported, uncared for, etc.>. I'd feel the same way. I'm really sorry for that. What do you need from me to get us back on-track?" Now, I get that something like that may be more difficult for a guy to get out of his mouth . Your b/f will need to find a way to give the message in a manner that suits his own personality and style. But the biggest point (in the book) is to NOT make excuses; to fight the urge to also say, "...because I got hammered."
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