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how do i get her to believe me? i am falling apart here! :'(


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i was best friends with a girl called kate. we werent really in the same clique but we were still besties as well as having other friends. we told eachother absolutely everything and we depend on eachother a lot. on a sunday night i was on my computer and she was ignoring me, at first i thought she could have been away or busy but then i started talking to another one of my friends and she told me she was talking to kate and that kates boyfriend had just broken up with her. this was reallllly wierd because kate tells me everything but she was just ignoring me...so i just let it go and thought i was over reacting but on monday morning (im in year 9 btw) and she completely ignored me, so i asked her what was wrong but she completely turned her back on me and just kept talking to some of her other friends. by recess i was over it so i confronted her about it...but once again she ignored me. so i got one of my best friends (maddy) who was also besties with kate to go up to kate and ask her why she wasnt talking to me. kate told maddy that i had started a rumour about her and that she hated me for doing it. i didnt say a thing about kate and i never would bcoz she means to much to me! there is a girl called rhianna who hates me and is jealous bcoz i am friends with kate...so i assumed that she started the rumour...so i went up to her and asked her if she did....and she said that she did start it...but when i asked her why she walked off. i went up to kate and told her that rhianna started the rumour but she doesnt believe me :( and i dont know how to convince her :( please help! i need advice! im falling to peices :'(

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Sammy, it's the wrong time to be "falling to pieces" -- you need to be thinking about doing damage control and protecting your friendship with Kate.

 

(I'm assuming you've changed all names, yes?)

 

Can you ask Maddy to try to talk with Kate on your behalf, and tell Kate what Rhianna told you? Meantime, you can try to find out where others have heard it, and if they can confirm the true source.

 

Also, you need to know what this rumour is (not to post it here) -- the more info you have, the better you will be able to defend yourself against the wrongful accusation.

 

One thing to keep in mind is that Kate just believed what she heard without getting your side of it, first. [so] It's possible that the friendship was not as strong as you had perceived it to be.

It happens, sometimes. You will feel sad, and you will grieve the loss of the friendship. But you will not actually "fall to pieces" -- there really is no need to ADD any more drama!

 

I'm sorry that you're going through this. It is one of those life lessons that really sucks to learn. I do hope it all turns out okay.

Hugs.

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