User320 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Hello all, i am very new here. This is my first post 2 days ago i broke up with my Girlfriend of 1yr( and a few months ) Things have been drastically going down hill for about 4 months...so i understand that breaking up was possibly the best way to go... The thing that hurts so bad is that i feel so emty.. she filled me with joy, and made me feel normal. Now ive had to many GF's to count. But for some reason this woman affected me the most.. i really loved her, so very much.. im not really the sensitive type, but im having so much trouble being strong, i know it was for the best.. but every second i hope for the phone to ring... an e-mail.. anything even if she told me she hated me it make me feel better ( most likely not , but its something ). Its just hurts so much...i feel so needy now, im not that kind of guy.. but i have no one to lean on and i dunno if i can stand on my own..
adamt Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 sorry to hear you are going through this. I know how you are feeling as i was there 5 months ago. first 2 weeks after break up i was a right mess, couldnt eat,sleep or stop breaking down. i couldnt focus at work. took me 3 months to get mysleep back to normal. i went NC and joined a gym and kept myself as busy as possible and put myself first. it is the only wqay. it is going to be hard but you have to stay strong and be determined to get through it. even now, 5 months on i miss her at times. i cant watch any films with a sad ending where a loved one dies. good luck and everyone on here has been where you are.
Author User320 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 Thank you for letting me know i'm not alone, i knew i really wasn't but re-assurance really counts..at least it does for me..i didn't want my post to sound like a "oh poor me".. but that's how it feels, which is really a shame because i know its not just me.. yet i feel so alone. im so happy i found this site, it almost feels like i have someone to turn to..
DustySaltus Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 You're hurting because you care. I went from being engaged to someone that I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with to broken up and her trying to get me fired from my job in a period of three days. It's been almost 5 months for me as well and I still wake up in the morning thinking about her but I know that she wasn't the one I was supposed to be with. That's the hardest part. You know that you loved them and wanted things to work and all you are thinking in your head is where do I go from here? The most important thing that you have to do is LEARN from every relationship you are in because it provides you with the tools to have a long lasting successful one down the line. There's a saying that I've read that really puts everything in perspective: "One day someone will walk through the door and make you realize why everything in the past wasn't supposed to work out". We're all here from you. D
aviation_chick Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 good luck and everyone on here has been where you are. "One day someone will walk through the door and make you realize why everything in the past wasn't supposed to work out". We're all here from you. D wow, i really like that quote im struggling greatly, my first love broke up with me again three weeks ago, and this time i know its over... i just miss him, how does the hurt end?
HLP234 Posted November 23, 2009 Posted November 23, 2009 The funny thing is, I never liked talking to anyone about girl problems..and my father made me talk to him about it. He studied overseas and met so many people. One thing he taught me was that you should never let anyone bring you down, no matter who they are. Don't let anyone break your heart. The reason you still hurt is because you are not happy with yourself, you have to put yourself first, think positive, and just forget the woman. It helps if you try and find someone else. I know its easier said than done. You will meet many people throughout life, many bitches, and others really nice girls. In order to make yourself stronger you have to learn from others, even if its hurting some people even though you may not want to. But you learn from it and take it as experience. You think people are born to be douches and bitches? No, they are not..the reason they got to that point was because someone else made them that way..we all force each other to change even though we should always be ourselves. So just put yourself into perspective here, focus on just improving yourself and not worrying about what the others are doing and you should be able to get over it soon..I hope at least.
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