Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 Well in my opinion she is being extremely irrational. I am almost sure I didn't say anything that bad to her for her to react this way. Maybe she is on her period? I told her what I can do to get her back and she said "You have to WIN BACK MY TRUST". I asked how and she said "you're a man, you figure it out". What does that mean? Why must women be so cryptic and expect us to be clairvoyant. Maybe she's just being a drama queen. Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Everyone makes mistakes and I promised it wouldn't happen again (and my word is my bond). I don't think it warrants this kind of reaction from her. I dated someone that sounds just like you. He said this exact thing in regards to doing the same thing (exactly) that you did to this girl. Stupidly, I gave him another chance. Guess what, it never changed. Good for her for not putting up with disrespect from you. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Wow, you seriously think she's the one being irrational and maybe she's on her period?! Sheesh. You need a big attitude adjustment...I can only imagine how you must have upset her. Move on and stop bothering the poor girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 I dated someone that sounds just like you. He said this exact thing in regards to doing the same thing (exactly) that you did to this girl. Stupidly, I gave him another chance. Guess what, it never changed. Good for her for not putting up with disrespect from you. Thanks for this little "grrrlll power" Lifetime moment. Now please, if you have no advice for me, get out of my thread. Imagine if we men blew up in hysteria every time you women do something slightly disrespectful to us. I have done and received far worse treatment from my male friends, and never once did we react beyond maybe throwing something at them or laughing it off , it was never a 2 week (or forever) grudge. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 Hmmm I'm tempted to text her now, or should I wait? Link to post Share on other sites
mushmush Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Well in my opinion she is being extremely irrational. I am almost sure I didn't say anything that bad to her for her to react this way. Maybe she is on her period? I told her what I can do to get her back and she said "You have to WIN BACK MY TRUST". I asked how and she said "you're a man, you figure it out". What does that mean? Why must women be so cryptic and expect us to be clairvoyant. Maybe she's just being a drama queen. wow, you really do need to grow up.. saying something like "maybe she is on her period" shows your maturity level... Now back to some advice. Win back her trust?? GROVEL!! if you love her this is the perfect time. Buy her flowers, chocolates, send her gifts anything to make her feel like she is the most amazing and beautiful girl in the world. Texting is just a piss poor effort, you can do better then that. Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Well her step-father who was really close with her passed a few weeks ago, and she's been acting this way since then. That's great timing to say something you regret to her. Brilliant. Forget it, you've got no chance of reconciliation. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Well in my opinion she is being extremely irrational. I am almost sure I didn't say anything that bad to her for her to react this way. Maybe she is on her period? I told her what I can do to get her back and she said "You have to WIN BACK MY TRUST". I asked how and she said "you're a man, you figure it out". What does that mean? Why must women be so cryptic and expect us to be clairvoyant. Maybe she's just being a drama queen. :lmao: LMFAO - Gee. I can't imagine what in the world you could have possibly said to have pissed her off. Link to post Share on other sites
mushmush Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 It does make me wonder why im still single Link to post Share on other sites
Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 wow, you really do need to grow up.. saying something like "maybe she is on her period" shows your maturity level... Now back to some advice. Win back her trust?? GROVEL!! if you love her this is the perfect time. Buy her flowers, chocolates, send her gifts anything to make her feel like she is the most amazing and beautiful girl in the world. Texting is just a piss poor effort, you can do better then that. Is this how you win a woman's trust back? By buying them things? I was thinking more along the lines of taking her some place romantic and just talking about it. I could be wrong though. :lmao: LMFAO - Gee. I can't imagine what in the world you could have possibly said to have pissed her off.[/Quote] Neither can I. I was thinking she was just bored with me and didn't like me anymore and was using this as an excuse to break it off, but she told me she did still like me just was angry about that one thing. I find it hard to believe someone can be so hung up on a little thing like a drunken voicemail Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 I said some things I didn't mean to this girl I'm kind of seeing and she has been angry ever since. Tried apologizing but was being a bit of a smartass about it. She refused to stay and talk and said "call me when you grow up". This calls for a witty retort. Something like "oh yeah, well it'll be a long time before THAT happens!!!" Link to post Share on other sites
mushmush Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Is this how you win a woman's trust back? By buying them things? I was thinking more along the lines of taking her some place romantic and just talking about it. I could be wrong though. Missed the point I was making. She want's to trust how you feel about her. You obviously said something that makes her think that your really dont care about her. Neither can I. I was thinking she was just bored with me and didn't like me anymore and was using this as an excuse to break it off, but she told me she did still like me just was angry about that one thing. I find it hard to believe someone can be so hung up on a little thing like a drunken voicemail If you dont get why, what SoulSearch quoted was offensive then I cant help you and probably no one else here can as well. The way you are comming across on this thread just makes you sound like you dont really give a **** about this girl and it's all about you. Link to post Share on other sites
mushmush Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 This calls for a witty retort. Something like "oh yeah, well it'll be a long time before THAT happens!!!" lol brilliant Link to post Share on other sites
Rudderless Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 The way you are comming across on this thread just makes you sound like you dont really give a **** about this girl and it's all about you. Agreed, and I suspect that's how she feels about him too... Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 I was thinking she was just bored with me and didn't like me anymore and was using this as an excuse to break it off, but she told me she did still like me just was angry about that one thing. I find it hard to believe someone can be so hung up on a little thing like a drunken voicemail Depending on what you said, I wonder if this her way of not breaking it off, but testing to see if she will have you wrapped around her finger. If she wont say what you did wrong, I say dont grovel until she tells you what it is. I smell a rat. I have a feeling it really isnt that bad, but she is seeing how far you will go for her. ANd youreally need to stop drinking until you black out, really. Link to post Share on other sites
Ody Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 You answered your own thread in the initial subject line. That line of hers about not being your mother is hilarious, she sounds like a funny girl. Too bad you f'ed it up and aren't mature enough to be honest with yourself. Take her advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 Depending on what you said, I wonder if this her way of not breaking it off, but testing to see if she will have you wrapped around her finger. If she wont say what you did wrong, I say dont grovel until she tells you what it is. I smell a rat. I have a feeling it really isnt that bad, but she is seeing how far you will go for her. ANd youreally need to stop drinking until you black out, really. This is what I was thinking all along, at first I demanded to listen to it and said "if it really is as bad as you say, you will have my sincerest apology", since I could've sworn (but am not sure) that it wasn't that bad probably just immature. She refused and got ANGRIER! "U DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT U SAID , DONT LIE TO ME". If she wants to wrap me around her finger or manipulate me, it will never work. Link to post Share on other sites
CLC2008 Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 OP, you like her a lot, huh? You insult her, then mock her for "running away" because you mocked her. Would you have preferred she thank you instead? Try learning how be a little more compassionate mixed with a splash of authenticity. Otherwise, date a man. (no offense men ) Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 She refused to stay and talk and said "call me when you grow up". I already tried that. She just said "I don't give a f*** if you drink I'm not your mom". I asked how and she said "you're a man, you figure it out". What does that mean? Why must women be so cryptic and expect us to be clairvoyant. Maybe she's just being a drama queen. See the pattern? She's not being cryptic at all. She's sending you very clear messages. This thread is full of more of the same. People giving you advice, and you arguing with them. You remind me of my little brother. Everything is a debate with him, he can't just listen. Neither can you. You're going to come to your own conclusion anyway regardless of what anyone says. Link to post Share on other sites
torranceshipman Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Hmmm I'm tempted to text her now, or should I wait? Yea, text her, because a crappy text'll sort everything out won't it..seriously, make an effort. But she can probably see you for who you are -someone who (based on your posts, anyway) seems to be either a) a misogynist or b) needs to grow up, or c) just has no freaking clue about women. You also need to face up to the fact that you've said something really horrible to her, that she's told you and that she doesn't want to talk about it. So why would you want to take her somewhere to talk? Why don't you respect her for a change...send her a lovely gift to say a real big apology then really keep your distance a while. Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Why don't you respect her for a change...send her a lovely gift to say a real big apology then really keep your distance a while. I agree with this, You told her you were sorry already, back off and let her come to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 This thread is full of more of the same. People giving you advice, and you arguing with them. You remind me of my little brother. Everything is a debate with him, he can't just listen. Neither can you. You're going to come to your own conclusion anyway regardless of what anyone says. I think OP is very stubborn and knows exactly what he said to her. Stubborn people have to be able to withstand the consequences of their choices. Unfortunate really. Link to post Share on other sites
thegreatmoose Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Well in my opinion she is being extremely irrational. I am almost sure I didn't say anything that bad to her for her to react this way. Maybe she is on her period? I told her what I can do to get her back and she said "You have to WIN BACK MY TRUST". I asked how and she said "you're a man, you figure it out". What does that mean? Why must women be so cryptic and expect us to be clairvoyant. Maybe she's just being a drama queen. You owe her an apology to start and then you will have to win back her trust. You are lucky she hasn't dumped you already. Have you learned anything from this? You can't just get drunk and say whatever dumb thing you said to her and expect her to be ok with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Maybe she is on her period? I see that you have decided to take the route of not growing up.. hahaha Good Luck with that !! Link to post Share on other sites
Author cognac Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 I asked her YET AGAIN, VERY NICELY what I said that was so bad and offensive, after an intense investigation with my friends who were there came up that I didn't say anything bad AT ALL! Her response? "Keep my personal life out of your ****ing mouth". At this point I lost it and told her how childish and stupid she was acting. I said if she told me what I said or would let me listen to the voicemail that was so offensive, I would apologize, but that I was not going to grovel for no good reason. After this silence and I just said "I really hate it when youre mad at me, i don't like to fight" and left it at that. If she wants to kiss and makeup, great. If not, screw her I'll just find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
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