floods88 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 for some reason i feel a lot of hope right now. Its been nearly 3 weeks since the breakup and through lying in bed trying to sleep i have somehow got myself into a state of mind where im convincing myself that he will realise soon that he wants me back. i realize that this is unhealthy but its because i cant bring myself to hate him anymore. I have so much love for him and i just cant bring myself to accept the finality of it. Am i going crazy?
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 for some reason i feel a lot of hope right now. Its been nearly 3 weeks since the breakup and through lying in bed trying to sleep i have somehow got myself into a state of mind where im convincing myself that he will realise soon that he wants me back. i realize that this is unhealthy but its because i cant bring myself to hate him anymore. I have so much love for him and i just cant bring myself to accept the finality of it. Am i going crazy? This is fine...not much time has passed, and it'll be natural to still feel so strongly about him and the relationship...just take it a day at a time, and don't worry about how you'll feel a week from now or a month from now...and don't mentally "mark your calendar" for when you think he'll come back...if he does, he does, if not, you'll already be living your life on your own and things will get better...it'll be a win-win situation...you just have to trust that time will make things better...
angelface78 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 This is normal. We have all been there ...this state will soon pass. It sucks but it will pass. You are not crazy...its just the beginning of the rollercoaster. Hold on tight!!!
Author floods88 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 yeah, i guess its just another phase. Ive already been through so many emotions since it happened, its exhausting. I dont want to be like this 3 or 4 months down the line but by reading through other peoples posts... It seems like im in this for the long haul.
teanoranges Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 I recently let myself fantasize that 'hope' of getting back together.. it didn't feel as bad now because I know its not going to happen.. I'm a daydreamer naturally, so I excuse it to that. Its easier, for me, to do the daydreaming when I know its just that, dreams. Won't really happen, ever.
angelface78 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Sorry to hear hun. You will get be ok...its going to be hard, im not going to lie. Im 4 months into this and its gotten easier but its crazy. You'll see for yourself. Just my best advice is stay strong...and keep NC. Do not contact him.. you will only hurt yourself!!
nobleguy Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 yeah, i guess its just another phase. Ive already been through so many emotions since it happened, its exhausting. I dont want to be like this 3 or 4 months down the line but by reading through other peoples posts... It seems like im in this for the long haul. Yes. I went through this about fifteen years ago and in some ways knowing that it's going to be a good few months before I see any improvement actually scared me. Made me wonder if I had the strength to bother getting through it. But you do. I don't know where the last 3 1/2 months has gone. I can barely remember it, and what I do remember I don't want to. And yes, it is exhausting... You would think the body would have a mechanism to just shut this kind of mental torture off when the constant worry and stress begin to affect your physical state. not nice when you have no control over feeling like that, essentially because of someone else. It actually makes me angry now that she has been able to have such an awful effect on me. I still have hope too. I imagine what it would be like - I know it would be all wrong after all this, and I actually hold hope only to be in the position to turn her down. That's something that has changed in me over the last week or two (and for me is a definite improvement). That's what I hope for. It's petty and hollow in some ways, but it helps to know that maybe one day I'll be able to truly show her when she least expects it that I don't need or want her anymore. Keep strong. As we say in the UK, don't let the bugger get you down .
ADF Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 for some reason i feel a lot of hope right now. Its been nearly 3 weeks since the breakup and through lying in bed trying to sleep i have somehow got myself into a state of mind where im convincing myself that he will realise soon that he wants me back. i realize that this is unhealthy but its because i cant bring myself to hate him anymore. I have so much love for him and i just cant bring myself to accept the finality of it. Am i going crazy? I'm sorry, but I have to ask. I have never before in my life seen so many people so eager to get back with an ex as I have on LS. What is that all about? I've almost NEVER seen that happen in my life.
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