Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 i feel like i wanna contact my ex its been six weeks of NC i dont know what to do, i feel like i wanna talk to him and have sex with him lol im kind of missing him... i dont know what to do, if at some point i want to try a reconciliation how would i go about it?
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 ....this is where I would pull out my virtual boat paddle...I know how badly you want to talk to him, but it will do you no good and just push you two further apart...if a second chance is going to happen, it HAS to start from his end...not yours...
Author Confused728 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 what do i do in the mean time then nothing? what if he text me whats up or how are you should i answer that or just keep NC?
jv032889 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 I would suggest remaining NC. Tryin to be friends won't work. It may set you back. Ignore texts,calls, emails. It really does help the healing process.
Author Confused728 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 i know it helps the healling process but what would help most in trying to get back together at some point?
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 i know it helps the healling process but what would help most in trying to get back together at some point? It may seem counterintuitive and cliche, but the best way to get someone back is to let them go...
Author Confused728 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 you think that is really true? how will i know if he wanted to come back what if he is afraid to reach out to me...
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 you think that is really true? how will i know if he wanted to come back what if he is afraid to reach out to me... If someone wants to come back badly enough, they will overcome that fear and take the leap...if they truly feel that you're worth fighting for...otherwise they don't think you're worth it, and you deserve much better than that... The heart wants what the heart wants, and he'll find a way...but if he's not busting down your door to get you back, it's pretty safe to say that you're not what he wants...I'm sorry...
Thebob Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Some people are scared tho man, a lot of people pussy out when hurdles come there way. But I understand where your coming from and NC is most likely the best situation when your deeply hurt over someone. Thebob
adamt Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 keep in NC, any contact will set you back and it will give you false hope. Keep climbing up that mountain. keep off the ice as you dont want to slip and fall back to the bottom and have to start all over again
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 (edited) Some people are scared tho man, a lot of people pussy out when hurdles come there way. Then they might have some personal stuff to figure out before they can be in a meaningful relationship...or maybe they just don't have the character to be worth it... I really don't mean to sound all negative and incompassionate when it comes to NC, but I've come to realize that these feelings of longing for the ex to come back and trying to force things to happen come and pass...and in the end, it's best to just let things happen as they may... Edited November 18, 2009 by USMCHokie
Author Confused728 Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 Alot of men are prideful and they dont like to admit when they make mistakes....I dont see why he wanted to be my freind and talk on a regular basis if he didnt have some kind of feelings left..i am prob goign to stick with nc i been on it for six weeks now
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Alot of men are prideful and they dont like to admit when they make mistakes.... Then they probably feel that they are more important than you are...that they have to protect their ego rather than be with you...
GrayClouds Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Alot of men are prideful and they dont like to admit when they make mistakes....I dont see why he wanted to be my freind and talk on a regular basis if he didnt have some kind of feelings left..i am prob goign to stick with nc i been on it for six weeks now He does...he wants to feelgood about himself. He hurt you by breaking up if he can befriend that makes him feel like a not so bad quy. This way he does not have to feel guilty. Also he want to feel that he has a back up in case things don't work out. I more realistic question how could he be just friends with you if he still has feeling for you? Answer he no longer has those feeling for you. Your doing the right thing keep up NC. good luck, it will get better.
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