Perhaps Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Hey everyone, I can't make up my mind anymore... I broke up with my ex a year ago because I was in college and couldn't give her the time. I admit I broke her heart.. but it was a mix of me being a jerk and her being too clingy. 7 months ago, overnight, I realize my mistake and went back apologizing. She was with someone else so I respected that and backed off but just let her know that I'd like another chance. She kept giving me mixed signals but stayed with him. We hooked up for a month in the summer. She broke up with the other guy a month ago because he was abusive but... now she refuses to be with me now - says she has no feelings for me. I'm fed up of being that 2nd guy who's been waiting for a chance. I told her I can't be 'just friends' with her since I love her but she calls me selfish. I don't get it, though.. I have a right to act this way ebcause she told me she loved me for a whole month and all of a sudden she didn't feel the same anymore and expects me to be her friend and comfort her? I now have 2 options: 1. Go NC and try my best to move on and maybe hope she'll realize what she missed. 2. Be a friend and comfort her and earn her trust - even thought I've done this for 7 months now. But her ex is calling her and threatening her and she calls me and cries about it and how bad things are in her life but she refuses to hold my hand so that I can try to make it right. After listening to her for half an hour (this has happened more than once), when I bring up the fact that we can't talk as friends, she gets mad. I feel really guilty about cutting all contact because I'm kind of like her emotional support pillar and I feel guilty enough about leaving her the first time around. Another reason I can't leave is 'cause I care about her and I wouldn't want her friends taking care of her (they're into stupid stuff). I feel like I can make everything right for her but she's not giving me that chance (she almost did in the summer, but took it away). It's been months and I still feel guilty and I regret how I left her. I don't know if being her friend will convince her that I love her or if it will assure her that she can take me for granted. I really don't want to hurt her but I can't hurt myself either. Please Help.
jerseyboy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Bro shes over you, but still likes the ego boost you provide her with by so desperately chasing after her. I think you should continue to provide that service to her. Self respect is way over rated
Author Perhaps Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Bro shes over you, but still likes the ego boost you provide her with by so desperately chasing after her. I think you should continue to provide that service to her. Self respect is way over rated ... I love your twisted advice. But I'm having a hard time getting over my guilt =\
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