sugahoney Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I woke up today in a slightly bad mood should have just taken that as a sign to go back to bed and sleep the entire day. He emailed me from work asking how I was doing(I have been out sick from work for the past 2 weeks). I didnt really feel like talking so I kept my answers short, somehow we got to talking about us, he told me that when I get into a relationship it is going to be very hard for him because he thinks about me way too much. I told him if he and his ex are back together and moving in together and he is thinking about me so much that should tell him that something isnt right. Now I know I should have left what he told me alone but this was the second time in 2 days that he told me something like this. yesterday it was that I am constantly on his mind. I told him that he is doing what is best for him so he should just forget about it. From there somehow it went to him telling me how he wasnt sure that we could be a couple and compatible and how if he knew things with us would work out he wouldnt have second thoughts. That was the end for me I couldnt take anymore of the crap from him, I told him how he never gave us a proper chance and that he doesnt really know me how I stopped opening up to him after I realised I didnt stand a chance. I pour all of that out and all i get from him is I am sorry. Told him you dont have to be sorry and you dont have to worry about me. He responds back with he cant deal with this right now and he will talk to me later. Deal with what?????? there is nothing to deal with, he made his decision and keeps coming back to me telling me crap like he misses me and he thinks about me all the time. What am I supposed to do with that????? I know i should have stayed asleep this morning. What does he want me to do?
jlr Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 If he was thinking about you so much, why isn't he doing anything about it. If he's got someone who he's moving in with, he's probably just keeping you around in case it fails. My ex does this. He doesn't want you enough to have you, but enough so if this fails, you're there. Be strong.
stace79 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'm so sorry. I went through this with an ex once, too. He only dated me about four months and then his stupid ex came crawling back. Since he'd been with her off/on for four years almost, he broke things off with me saying he needed to "figure out once and for all" what was meant to be between them two. At the same time, he wanted to stay in touch with me and still be my friend. So we still hung out some, still talked a lot. It ripped my heart out. I finally went NC with him for five days, twice, and he always broke down and called me or IMed me. Once he said "I really miss my best friend". I'm like well instead of calling or IMing me why don't you call this chick you supposedly love so much? He said it was different; I'm like no it isn't. If you miss me so much, then wtf are you doing??? You just have to get mad enough at the way he's treating you, and then block all forms of communication so he can't keep doing this to you. It's totally wrong what he's doing. He's trying to have his cake and eat it, too.
Author sugahoney Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 A little while ago he left me a message saying he hopes that I am doing ok and that he hopes that things with us are good and that he never wanted a conversation like we had today. I will not call him back, I will not respond. I dont know what he wants from me. Stace79- that is exactly what it is for me, his ex came back and tried for a year to get back with him but he kept saying he wanted us to be friends so we still talked alot and it hurt me like hell. I have tried NC several time but he always calls me or something and I break it. I would like to ask him if you miss me so much and you are always thinking about me why dont you do something about it. I finally thought that I was to a point where I was ok with everything and I was ready to move on but then he drops that crap about me constantly being on his mind and I am back to square one. I cant do this anymore, it hurts too much.
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