Eisenhower Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Been NC with my ex for about a month and a half. We work at the same company and it's always been painful for me having to see her car in the parking lot etc., much less the chance of running into her. This morning it happened - it was just a matter of time. I was walking down a hall and she was coming up it, totally unexpected. She half-smiled and said "hey" ... I nodded and say "hey" and that was it, I never slowed down. I realized my hands were shaking later from adrenaline. It's unbelievable to me that we could have been so intimate, so full of love for each other and her kids for more than a year ... and now this, barely more than strangers passing in the hall. That's life I guess, but boy it's sad. Eisenhower
sean1970 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Been NC with my ex for about a month and a half. We work at the same company and it's always been painful for me having to see her car in the parking lot etc., much less the chance of running into her. This morning it happened - it was just a matter of time. I was walking down a hall and she was coming up it, totally unexpected. She half-smiled and said "hey" ... I nodded and say "hey" and that was it, I never slowed down. I realized my hands were shaking later from adrenaline. It's unbelievable to me that we could have been so intimate, so full of love for each other and her kids for more than a year ... and now this, barely more than strangers passing in the hall. That's life I guess, but boy it's sad. Eisenhower Sorry to hear that... How are you now?
Author Eisenhower Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Fine I guess. Glad I finally ran into her so a precedent has been established that I'm not going to stop and chit-chat or acknowledge her any more than I have to. She's the one who said she wanted to be "friends" but then basically just kept me on a string for months. This just reinforces for her that I'm done with that crap.
sean1970 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 She's the one who said she wanted to be "friends" but then basically just kept me on a string for months. Yeah, I'm convinced that breadcrumbs are more addictive than most other drugs. Ill never look at a breaded pork chop the same...
LostLozz Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I am in the exact same boat. Sometimes I am fine with it and I sure as hell don't show that it bothers me when I do see him, but other times it tears me up that we are now just complete strangers. Does this actually get any easier? It is 3 months since we split up and 27 days of complete NC after I said I couldn't be friends with him.
sean1970 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Does this actually get any easier? It does, it just sucks that most times progress is measured in nanobits...
adamt Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 i know what you are going through. Bumped into my ex after 5 months of NC. I had been working hard on myself in that 5 months. i knew there was a chance i would bump into her that day. she clocked me across a busy bar. she was with some mutual friends. So i couldnt avoid her. she came straight over to me and we had a catch up chat for 15 minutes. i kept calm and strong. No wympathetic words like an apology for what she put me through. i wanted to ask her loads of questions but i knew i had to keep myself respect. she then left to go home. i was surprised how well i handled it. however it was the week after where she was back in my thoughts and i was goign through the relationship and catch up chat in my head. taken me a week to get back to normal. Remain in NC for as long as possible and keep and chat short as possible and dont show you are hurting and keep yourself respect
Author Eisenhower Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 Absolutely - I have no plan to ever have a chat or anything else with her. She was lucky to get a nod and "hey" out of me, and I only did that because staring and saying nothing seems childish. But I'll never break stride to talk, that's for damn sure. There's simply nothing to say as far as I'm concerned. Eisenhower
almostpassedit Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 (edited) wow, i feel it for you. my ex was throwing me bread crumbs for months upon months until i found out she had "moved on" and was having sex with another guy. that pretty much devastated me, and the thought of having to remain "civil" with someone who betrayed me was just so incomprehensible so I just went crazy and now 2 years later not a peep from her... Odd, I wanted to marry her, even told my family I was going to mary her... Even started making plans.... On the Flip Side I'm so lucky I pushed her away to the point of no return, now I can live in peace knowing that I will never have to worry about something like your situation every happening to me On another note, good luck on your healing. Edited November 18, 2009 by almostpassedit
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