Fluffsticle Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Hi I'm in love with a workmate :-) I've realised that I love the Guy I work with that said he liked me about a year ago. The last few dreams I can remember are about him. I look forward to seeing him every day, to see him smile at me, and to brush off his hand by passing him paper etc. When I met him first I was engaged to a guy I'd been with for 7 years. when I was with my ex I used to wonder why i found him more funny that my ex etc. that relationship ended much to my shock 2 years ago! But in the back of my mind I was excited to see who I would meet. I met a guy and have been his girlfriend for a year. I love him. But... there has always been something nside me niggling saying that I don't love him fully in that way. I feel terrible saying this. But he's such a good Guy, and we get on so well together, I wanted to give it my all before giving up. But.... I think about my workmate in a different way. My workmate is exactly like my Dad. And I've mentioned on numerous times how Dad would like my workmate. He's like him in every way I think. He admitted a year ago that he liked me, and he was devistated to find out that I had a boyfriend. The night he said he liked me, he had just broken up with his Girlfriend. He seemed very down in himself for a longwhile in work. I told him I had a boyfriend and he was back together with his Girlfriend the following week. I never understood why the broke up anyway. So I've noticed a lot lately that he doesn't look me in the eye very often unless I ask him a question, and then he always smiles as he answers. We think along the same wavelength. Like he knows what I mean when I say things, and vice versa. I think the other folks in work are trying to see if I think he is nice looking etc. but I can't answer truly. I feel that when we talk that People are watching us to see if they can suss out how I feel. I can't help but smile either. Don't forget that he has a Girlfriend, and I too have a boyfriend. Although it is horrible to say it, I will end it with my boyfriend because he isn't right for me, regardless of how I feel about my workmate. Just being able to feel this way about someone again has made me realise that I don't love my boyfriend like I should. My workmate is 5yrs younger than me, but it doesn't seem to matter. I don't know what's going on. I just feel all funny like I haven't felt for years. He is due to finish working with me soon, and it could be that we never see eachother again, and just let it pass us by. Maybe I am reading too much into the fact that he may like me. I'm just not sure what to do, but am excited that i feel like I can love like I did before..... Although, if he could like me while still with his Girlfriend, cold I trust him. Is he kind of being unfaithful to his girlfriend.... Any thoughts??
carhill Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Although it is horrible to say it, I will end it with my boyfriend because he isn't right for me, regardless of how I feel about my workmate. OK, sounds good. Do that and be alone for six months to a year and see how you feel about workmate at that point.
whichwayisup Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Although, if he could like me while still with his Girlfriend, cold I trust him. Is he kind of being unfaithful to his girlfriend.... Same could be reversed. You have a boyfriend. Do you feel you're being unfaithful to your boyfriend by allowing yourself to fall for this guy? Maybe the work guy is questioning why you are showing interest in him since you have a boyfriend. Could be questioning if he can trust you. I am glad to hear you are going to end things with your bf, reguardless of the coworker. It's only fair to let your bf go so he can heal and find love with someone else.
Author Fluffsticle Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 by allowing yourself to fall for this guy? Maybe the work guy is questioning why you are showing interest in him since you have a boyfriend. I have not shown any interest in him. Nor do I intend to. He is young and I would love to see him go and live his life. Feeling this way about my co worker has made me realise that I don't love my boyfriend. I was mixed up for a long time about what love is or isn't. I didn't want to give up on my boyfriend when I wasn't sure. Having started to feel how I do about a co-worker doesn't mean I want to initiate anything, it has just made me realise that what I have with my boyfriend is not the kind of love I want. thanks for advice.
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