Printer Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 It has been suggested to me that hypnotherapy is a useful tool to help overcome the stress and anxiety of a breakup and a good way of moving on. Has anybody had any experience of using hypnotherapy? and if so ,was it useful or just a waste of time and money. It is something I am seriously considering as I am finding things very hard at the moment, even 10 months after our breakup. I am worried for my son who lives with me, that his Dad is still showing signs of emotion, worry and stress.
soheartbroken Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Sorry, I'm not sure about Hypnotherapy. Have you been in "regular" therapy? My main reason for posting was just to tell you not to be too hard on yourself. I know that 10 months can seem like an eternity when you're going through this, but I think it's natural for things to still be hard, especially for certain people. But I understand how sucky it is and how you'd be worried about your son - this is a legitimate concern.
Ronni_W Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Yes, hypnotherapy can be an excellent tool to help overcome stress and anxiety. Would suggest you ask around for a referral. There are also CDs - hypnotherapy is basically guided visualization, with one of hypnotist's major tasks being to induce an "hypnotic state" before making the suggestions. You might want to see what CDs are available at the library -- and mix it up once you do find those that work for you. (The mind tends to get bored with the same old same-old.) If you're interested in trying a different self-help tool, check out emofree.com -- emotional freedom technique, or EFT. There's a free, downloadable manual, and it's really easy to learn. The main technique is within the first 30 pages of the manual, which is HUGE...but the rest is not necessary to start achieving results. I am worried for my son who lives with me, that his Dad is still showing signs of emotion, worry and stress. OTOH, it's a good opportunity to teach your son some EFFECTIVE ways of dealing with our so-called "negative" emotions. Working through those are also necessary life skills. In age-appropriate ways, of course, instead of trying/struggling to protect him from the 'other' side of Life, which is ultimately impossible for parents to do, however the noble the intent. Hugs, and best of luck.
threebyfate Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 OTOH, it's a good opportunity to teach your son some EFFECTIVE ways of dealing with our so-called "negative" emotions. Working through those are also necessary life skills. In age-appropriate ways, of course, instead of trying/struggling to protect him from the 'other' side of Life, which is ultimately impossible for parents to do, however the noble the intent. Hugs, and best of luck.I love this perspective. It's the perfect opportunity to work on yourself and your son, through avenues that show your son and yourself, how to cope with stress and anxiety. I'm not convinced about hynotherapy in that it makes me think of emotional blockage/repression, rather than a conscious coping tool, knowing how to and why you're addressing issues, in the way that works best for you, so it can be applied towards any future situations.
Ronni_W Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'm not convinced about hynotherapy in that it makes me think of emotional blockage/repression Excellent point, TBF! It certainly does not teach coping skills or promote self-awareness. But, it can get one over a "hump", and sometimes that is needed to be able to just start functioning well again, and achieve the mind and attitude to do the learning and, er, the becoming aware. Printer, yes...do look into both short and long-term solutions.
Author Printer Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Thanks guys for your comments. I have been in discussion with a local practitioner who also promotes moving forward with life coaching. He seems like a nice chap with plenty of qualifications and experience. I will be seeing him for our first session tomorrow and I have a good feeling about this therapy.
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