Dashboardkat2 Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 [font=century gothic][/font]Ok, I was really looking for some advice like mine, but I decided that it just might be quicker to just ask. Well, I have a friend that I used to really like and care about, but recently it's turned into just a good friendship. It's easy for us to talk, and we trust each other quite a bit. Well, my guy friend promised me about three times now that we would watch a certain movie, right? Each time, though, he's broken his promise. He called after he blew me off, and he again promised that we would watch the movie within a week. But, I was angry, and simply said, "No, we won't, and you know we won't; just stop lying, ok?" Well, his simple reply was, "Let's make a bet." Anyway, to make a long story short, after hours of persuation and trying to find out what the bet would be, (he never would just tell me what he wanted it to be), I said, "As long as it involves both of us, I would go with the bet." And I made him pick the type of "fun" category. We have three to choose from: fun with friends, fun at a place, and fun with the opp. sex. He chose the last one. After about an hour of confusion on my part from what the heck my friend here was thinking, we left the bet kind of at a "limit": no sex. But, something that he said keeps nagging at me: "Friends can have fun." Well, basically what I want to know is: Is it alright if we do this? Do you think I will get hurt? And what if he's just using me... Can you see my situation, a tad bit? If you can, please help me. I don't know why I'm so confused--just am. I don't want to be akward around him, yet he was the one expressing all of this "fun" stuff. Write back
Arabess Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 He doesn't ever follow thru on "date" plans...but wants to mess around with you as a friend????? YES Dash....I think it's safe to assume he is only interested in eventually having sex with you. Will you get hurt.....OFCOURSE! I don't think you are confused. I think you really like this guy and don't want to admit the truth to yourself. The only thing I can say about him is that AT LEAST he isn't misleading you or lying. He is saying up front....I only want to be your friend, I'll diss you whenever I want to and I think it would be fun for us to mess around. If you want to stay his friend....that's fine. I wouldn't do anything physical with him EVER. I would go out and get a boyfriend who treated me like a lady.....
Author Dashboardkat2 Posted December 13, 2003 Author Posted December 13, 2003 Thanks, you read me pretty well without even knowing me. Well, just a follow through now: I don't ever want to talk to him again, and if I do, it'll only be because I have to. You know what? I knew he never really follows through with anything, so I feel like a complete idiot now. Found out today that he was going to blow me off and not tell me about it. Jerk... He's going to my ex's. How I found out all this was that I saw my ex-boyfiend today, and he and I talked for a minute or two (we're still good friends). And on his arm there were a few numbers. I was like, "What'd you do?" He said that they were just some of Jon's phone numbers (Jon, the guy who was coming to my house tonight) and they were supposed to go have an awesome night since Jon had nothing else to do. Funny thing happened: Jon walked in. Haha. My ex went right up and was like,"I was telling Lindsay here about our fun on the town tonight. Good thing you had no plans tonight." I gave Jon a smile and was like have fun! He knew he screwed our friendship though. As I was leaving, I made sure not to say bye to him, and he asked what I was going to do tonight. My reply was, "Oh nothing, maybe I'll watch a movie with one of my friends that I'm sure won't bail out on me." Then I left. He called, but we didn't talk for very long. It was simply, "What do you want, Jon?" I guess I really didn't give him time to say sorry or anything (oops), but I figured I had a right to be mad. I told him that actions speak louder than words, and that right now, you haven't even spoken. I told him the bet was off, and that I didn't feel like talking at the moment. So I hung up. Well, now that I'm done typing, I guess I don't need any advice. If you read this, I guess you can tell me whether or not I'm being irrational. I bet he was taken aback because I usually don't get mad. Thanks for reading!
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