kairi and sora Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Okay so for those of you who havent read my posts, my first girlfriend, of 10 months **weve known each other since first grade, 11 years ago, been best friends for 4 years prior to going out**, cheated on me and left me for the other guy. now, 3 weeks later, she says she misses me, she misses what we had, wants me back, and wants another chance. i honestly dont trust her, ive heard from other people that shes cheated on me before, but she still continues to deny those statements...and shes still with this guy.... she says no one will ever treat her as good as i have, no one can replace me in her heart, and she will love me until the day she dies0. but i cant help thinking, "then why the F@&$ did u cheat on me, and why are you with another guy saying this to me now?" insight from anyone??? do cheaters ever change? or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater....she wants to start over again as friends and work our way back into a commited relationship. but idk if i can do that or not. any help, feedback, helpful words, GREATLY appreciated everyone thanx ahead of time.
someotherguy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Not married, and no kids? Change your number and never talk to her again.
samsungxoxo Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Yeah hard to when you known her as a kid. But, nope, if you want to get back with her then she has to put an effort in the relationship and make herself redeem in your eyes. That's going to take a long while, better leave her and find a better fish...
VeveCakes Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Definitly do not take her back! She wanted to see if there was something better out there, and realized there wasn't now wants you back. Guess what, when something appetizing pops up again (and it will) she will be wondering if it's better too. If you go back to her you are telling her she can treat you any way she pleases and you will always be there. Don't be that door mat.
phineas Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I gave my wife a second chance. The only thing worse than a woman cheating on you is when you take her back after all the sobbing & apologies & promises & then you find out she never stopped cheating & played you. If she gave a ratts ass about you, she wouldn't of done what she did. Would you do that to someone? Good people wouldn't do that. Go find a good person.
A O Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 she says no one will ever treat her as good as i have It's not how you treat her, its how she treats "you" that matters. People with a history of sound relationships don't put up with this type of behavior. do cheaters ever change? or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater Cheaters can change, but it takes a long time (sometimes years) and a lot of inner reflection before that can happen. Clearly that hasn't happened in this instance. This is a simple case of "actions" speaking louder than words, henceforth, you'll do yourself a huge favour by moving on. Its not easy with the sought of history you two have, but ultimately, it'll be far easier for you than taking her back, believe you me. .
tryagaintoday Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 If a cheater changed, then it'll be the best thing ever and you'll both have a stronger relationship. But it seems like she is also cheating on her current bf with you so this tells alot about her character. Correct me if I'm wrong.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 She's discovered that the grass isn't greener on the other side. The fact that she was willing to betray you in order to find this out -- rather than work to build a stronger relationship with you -- says a lot about the actual depth of her feelings for you. "Nobody ever treated her as well as you did" = she sees you as a good, stable, forthright, safe guy who'll always be there for her and who'll always take her back every time she strays. Which she will again. I guarantee it. Because if you take her back, she won't respect you. Dude, for the sake of your long-term happiness, sanity, and self-respect... say goodbye to the selfish little tramp. There are far, far better women out there. At least you only invested ten months with that one.
Yukikazi Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 One word (Well 3 since this forum wont let me post less then 10 characters) Never
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