bbasher75 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 This girl came up to me and gave me her number (HB10). Said how cute I was but flaked a couple of times when I tried to set up a date. I ignored her, she comes back and begs me to go out with her. She pays for all my drinks and tells me how much she wants to see me again. Basically after that I try to arrange a next meeting and she says "LJBF". So I said the hell with her (to myself) and said sure LJBF. Well 2 weeks went by and now she's "running into me" almost everyday at the coffee shop before work saying "hi how are you" and basically trying to make small talk. She's looking at me as if to say "why arent you calling me or chasing me?" I don't know what to do. Should I continue to just be polite to her? Or should I call/text her something saying like "I think we should go out it'll be OK"? Whats your advice? I think she must have an interest in me, because she paid for my drinks and asked me lots of questions when I met her. I would assume she was playing me if she made pay, but she's the one who paid! She says how badly she wants to see me again, then says LJBF, now shes on me again...WTF lol. I don't know what to do? I'm thinking of texting her a message and "chasing" her but I know this is usually against the pickup artist advice. Am I wrong? Would it be a mistake to "chase" her? Or does this situatuion warrant it?
boogieboy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Nah dont chase her. She has your number, if she wants to go out she will call. Think about it...if she is THIS aggressive in getting your attention just to tell you LJBF, think about how aggressive she is with guys that she wans to sleep with. Shes doing the classic attention whore behavior where she'll chase you to get you to chase her, then she backs off. She'll just keep doing it for an ego boost. When she sees you, keep flirting with her, dont suggest any outings, let her do it. She never will, but you can tease her a whole lot while youre at it. Give her more negs, do your DHV's, let her keep paying for drinks, you be the "attention" tease..(cuz shes being the "cock" tease..get it?). Let her think you will giver her attention and then you dont. taste of her own medicine. If she really wanted you she would have followed though by now, but now you have to act like you dont want/need her.
Author bbasher75 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Nah dont chase her. She has your number, if she wants to go out she will call. Think about it...if she is THIS aggressive in getting your attention just to tell you LJBF, think about how aggressive she is with guys that she wans to sleep with. Shes doing the classic attention whore behavior where she'll chase you to get you to chase her, then she backs off. She'll just keep doing it for an ego boost. When she sees you, keep flirting with her, dont suggest any outings, let her do it. She never will, but you can tease her a whole lot while youre at it. Give her more negs, do your DHV's, let her keep paying for drinks, you be the "attention" tease..(cuz shes being the "cock" tease..get it?). Let her think you will giver her attention and then you dont. taste of her own medicine. If she really wanted you she would have followed though by now, but now you have to act like you dont want/need her. Thanks for the advice. Its hard not to contact her, you know? And I bet the other sucker guys she does this to HAVE contacted her. I dont want to give her that satisfaction. Posts like yours give me strength and reminders of who/what she really is, and power to ignore her when I itch to call her. Its tough, though. Its just really hard when you think someone is into you, only to have the rug pulled. I'm so sick of women like this but unfortunately, more of them than not are bad apples and the good ones are hard to find.
Jersey Shortie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Sometimes I think girls that can be shy, guys mistake for playing hard to get. This is clearly not the case with this girl. She's playing games. Forget her.
VeveCakes Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 my vote: not interested. Move on. Clearly that's not the advice you want to hear though...so in that case: she is in love with you, keep chasing her around and bug her until she gives in. Happy?
CaliGuy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 People who really like you and want to be with you don't play the chasing game. The chasing game, IMHO, is for people who are wishy-washy about their feelings. They're not sure you're "all that" or the conversation and such would be balanced. This is how I know someone honestly likes me. They don't make me chase and they don't flake on dates and such. I'm not a big phone person, which bugs a lot of the women I talk to (I'm much more about email). But I do set up dates, I pick where we're going and what we're going to do. Essentially, I make decisions and don't act wishy washy. Men make decisions. If you've attempted to talk and hang out and she's making a chase of it, then she's really not as into you as you think. The "game" is what is fun to her. Getting YOU to chase her, YOU to call her and YOU to beg (as she initially did with you). Again, if she really thought you were "all that" she wouldn't be making you chase.
mortensorchid Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 She sounds like a teaser. Forget her and move on.
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