princess75 Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 Broke up, now boy with another gal. He claims he loves me but due to religious differences cannot marry me. He is muslim, I am a hindu. We have been together for 2 years and although the marriage issue was always there I never thought this would end like this. I least expected a break up where he ends up with another gal. He still claims he loves me but due to not goign to commit to me, is going out with that gal he jsut lkes and kows she also does not want anything serious. I still would love for it to work out, cause I dont see the differences are too big, I am even willing to convert so I dont see big point in our differences. But he is confused, how do I make him see I want to give hi his time, and make him realize the solution is not going out with another gal jsut to forget me? Basically he needs time to solve his inner conflicts but the other gal is also a distraction not to think. Also, he started drinking too muhc, not taking care of his studies, not being responsible sice our break up. HE calls me every week too and there is not a single time he says he doesnt still love me. I want to let go but then I am afraid...what if he is actualyl the one for me? His confusion ..confuses me too! Advice please..
penguinluv Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 You obviously love him. Why else would you be willing to convert for him. I think he could really love you to. Sometimes its hard dealing with breaking traddition or going against your culture. Maybe theres something there (like dealing with his parents or peers) that he's holding back on. One day he might realize that theres no reason why he shouldnt be with you. But that might take a long time and you dont deserve to wait that long. You need to make him choose once and for all. You shouldnt do this to yourself for that long. Either he can deal with it or he cant. If he cant then you must try to move on.
Arabess Posted December 12, 2003 Posted December 12, 2003 I really don't know enough about the Hindu and Moslem religion to even BEGIN suggesting any alternative plans you could take to change your situation. Maybe you could check out some related web sites to see if anyone else has been in your position and was able to work out something which made everyone happy. All I can do is tell you how sorry I am you are having to go thru this. It's so unfair for two people to love one another and then get separated due to religion or any other family culture. It sounds like your boyfriend is as miserable as you are. SURELY there has got to be an answer to your problem somewhere out there!!!!!
Author princess75 Posted December 12, 2003 Author Posted December 12, 2003 Thanks for advice. I am now more confused because he still claims he loves me but one thing which has come into picture is that other gal. Although it is nothing serious, he says he wont let her go...and still he says he loves me. What I am not sure of is if one should bare this or should I not. I know moving is a hard but for now seems a wise option. Like how can he claim he does love me, he cant go against his parents...basically that is the main issue..but still go out with another gal? It is as ok..you cant have me but instead of breaking it up properly I will hurt you by going out with someone else. Also I dont want him to go against his parents...but at least try to convince them would do...well, for now I am moving on I guess....will let you knwo if things work out at all. Thanks
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