Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I cant stop thinking about my ex and what i might have done wong or what he did wrong...i been NC six weeks now and he text me 4 times nothing important though.. but i had a dream about him last night and ruined my whole day, why does this happen? i couldnt even work out today cause my mind was going so crazy it zapped my energy..i felt miserable all day.. past few days have been hard i felt like i was getting better but now i cant stop thinking about if he ever gonna come back, if hes not, i keep reading relationsihp books... i think about this non stop and we broke up at the end of august! how do i stop this?
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'm in sort of a downward spiral myself...broke up back in mid-July...two days before the bar exam...that was fun... Been NC since mid-Sept, and I've had my better days and not so good days, like today...but I guess the only hope is that what goes down must come back up...you've had your good days since the break, so look forward to having those good days again... I'd step away from those relationship books...they aren't going to help you right now, because all they will do is remind you of your past relationship and make you analyze every little detail of it...you really do need to keep your mind away from the ex and the relationship as best you can...i know, easier said than done...
nobleguy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I split in the beginning of August and I'm still not sleeping. Spent ages again last night get worked up thinking about her with her new man. It just kills me and my mood when I think about it. I had a good morning this morning but during lunch I just hit another low. Thought about the ex again... I'm literally sick of feeling so bad all the time...
Thebob Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I split in the beginning of August and I'm still not sleeping. Spent ages again last night get worked up thinking about her with her new man. It just kills me and my mood when I think about it. I had a good morning this morning but during lunch I just hit another low. Thought about the ex again... I'm literally sick of feeling so bad all the time... Tell me about it, Its been like 60-70 days now of feelings pretty sh*tty. All my friends tell me to get over it and you'll find someone better cause your handsome enough to do it, same with all my family members. I always wonder why wasn't I good enough for this girl? that she would lie and go find a new man within 2 months? I really want questions answered but I know they never wont. Like i don't know if it's depression cause I never been that way, but it's like a feeling of lonely, crappy, wondering if you'll ever find someone like that again. Then you scared of giving your heart to someone so you never have to go through this crap again. Life is a b*tch, and time is the only cure obviously, I know it sucks. Thebob
rp123 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'm the same as you guys, in the same time bracket of around 60-70 days, like Bob and NOble. The hardest thing I've ever had to overcome. There are periods throughout the day when I think, I'm feeling not too bad. But every day has at least one very bad period of around an hour or so. The other thing that is really annoying is that it is the only thing that really occupies my thinking. My thoughts are always about my ex, even when I'm feeling good, its because I think can carry on with life without them. Its difficult to gauge our own progress, but my family and friends say that I seem to be improving all the time.... Can't wait til its all better.
HeavenOrHell Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Mine left me me in july, I was doing better and felt hopeful I would come through it the last couple of weeks, but the last few days I've felt as bad as I did at the beginning, although everyone says I am doing really well, I'm not sure. The constant thoughts about it have calmed down a bit, well they calmed down a lot not long ago but have comeback.
sean1970 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I'm the same as you guys, in the same time bracket of around 60-70 days, like Bob and NOble. The hardest thing I've ever had to overcome. There are periods throughout the day when I think, I'm feeling not too bad. But every day has at least one very bad period of around an hour or so. The other thing that is really annoying is that it is the only thing that really occupies my thinking. My thoughts are always about my ex, even when I'm feeling good, its because I think can carry on with life without them. Its difficult to gauge our own progress, but my family and friends say that I seem to be improving all the time.... Can't wait til its all better. Same with my family, however, I dont talk about it with my sister (best friend) much anymore... I really believe she would pull out a Chinese star and hurdle it into my skull if I mentioned her name again.... Its been since July with NC for 36 days and I still think about her all the time. The only thing that keeps me going is that I know that I have to...
Thebob Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I know how that goes, my friends want to beat my skull in and kick my nuts as hard as they possibly can cause there tired of me bringing this girls name up. They tell me, you just had beautiful girls on you at the bar, and you look like a nine outta 10 that night. The girls that were on you are way hotter than your ex. For some reason I don't feel good when they say that, because even though my ex might not be as hot, in my eyes she was beautiful and those other girls couldn't compare to her personality and that glitter in her eye. They say your not goin to have any issues, and you'll find someone else. I just don't want to be that guy who is 30 and single, that is my biggest fear. My family constantly tells me that you'll be fine and you'll find someone better, and I just brush it off my sleeve and say, " ok ya right " because family members will say anything to make you feel better. But with all these people saying that I am startin to believe them, but idk if they are saying it because they want to get my hopes up or they actually mean it. Thebob
sean1970 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 The girls that were on you are way hotter than your ex. For some reason I don't feel good when they say that, because even though my ex might not be as hot, in my eyes she was beautiful and those other girls couldn't compare to her personality and that glitter in her eye. So know what you mean here and heard it from my family as well... They don't, and cant, understand what you saw in them and I really don't care. They don't get all the jokes and funny things that the other would do. I missed being called 'chicken' by my 'chic'. You don't understand that, they don't either, but we did... They say your not goin to have any issues, and you'll find someone else. I just don't want to be that guy who is 30 and single, that is my biggest fear. Try 38... 39 in December... My family constantly tells me that you'll be fine and you'll find someone better, and I just brush it off my sleeve and say, " ok ya right " because family members will say anything to make you feel better. But with all these people saying that I am startin to believe them, but idk if they are saying it because they want to get my hopes up or they actually mean it. Thebob Both... I think we here all know that we will find someone else... We just don't exactly want to... We fear the unknown and we have no idea what our next love will look like, act like, or how they will treat us. Couple this (at least for me) with the feeling that our relationship with our ex feels so unfinished and its no wonder we are here...
angelface78 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Been broken up since July and im hitting another relapse. I feel down. I guess because he is still w his little rebound and im starting to think its not a rebound anymore. I feel horrible. I hope i get over this someday:(
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Been broken up since July and im hitting another relapse. I feel down. I guess because he is still w his little rebound and im starting to think its not a rebound anymore. I feel horrible. I hope i get over this someday:( ^ exactly this for me...except change the he's into she's...
Thebob Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 ^ exactly this for me...except change the he's into she's... I think my ex is in a rebound, I mean 1.5 months after we broke up she is in a new relationship with a guy that is pretty ugly. She obviously just wants to bone and she'll prolly dump him within a few months before summer comes around. We'll see. Thebob
USMCHokie Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 I think my ex is in a rebound, I mean 1.5 months after we broke up she is in a new relationship with a guy that is pretty ugly. She obviously just wants to bone and she'll prolly dump him within a few months before summer comes around. We'll see. Thebob Funny how that seems to happen...they'll jump at the first sign of attention...and then get trapped in it without giving themselves an opportunity to fix whatever was wrong with them from the last relationship...doomed to repeat the same mistakes with the new guy until she finds someone new...lather, rinse, repeat...
Thebob Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 she just wanted dick, if you saw the guy you'd laugh at how ugly he is. she will dump him before summer comes around and will probably call me. We'll see haha Thebob
skydiveaddict Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 Cant Stop thinking HOW DO I STOP Idk. i cant stop thinking about mine either. Just hang in there you will be ok
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