Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I want a second chance with me ex im really missing him latley. As of sunday i have been six weeks no contact, in that time he text me four times but i did not answer.. they were just good morning how u doing text nothing important..we broke up sometime in middle of august i tried being his freind for about a month it didnt work so on oct 4 i started nc. he didnt want to go nc, said he wasnt opposed to getting back together at some point, but he wasnt rushing into anthing and just wanted to be freinds, during our freindship period if i asked him to do somting like go out for dinner or somting he would go but he never initiated anything...he always would text me..during that month.. but whenever i tried to talk about getting back together he would say he didnt know what the future would hold, he wouldnt be opposed to it... then on oct 3 i asked him if i should move on, he said "i thought you knew this, i thought we agreed to this break up"wich at first we did but i changed my mind, Then he told me to move on, and he told me he loved me after i told him i loved him. then the next day he said he didnt like it when i said we woudlnt talk and said he just not going to be forced back into relationship and is not gonna rush into it.... what do i do? It seems very confusing and there is alotttttt more to the story. What do i do?
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 gah...confused, we all go through these little low periods...i certainly did...my ex and i still gave each other 'i love yous' even a month and a half after the breakup...just screwed our minds up...at least mine...she knew she was moving on, but i was still holding on... the more you try for that second chance, the further you push it away...i learned that the hard way...and i know time may feel like it's moving so slowly right now...but before you know it, months will pass...and then even a year...and you know what, a year isn't really a long time when you think about it...it will certainly feel like it, but a lot can happen in a year... just hang on...before you know it, you'll be ok again...
Author Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 i want him to text me that he misses me or somting he never has dont that the whole time we been broken up, there was one time he hinted that he did but i was so happy that he was doing it that i acted cold to him to show him a lesson mabey i should have siezed that... he would get mad when i said i didnt want to be freinds and seemed offended..i just dont understand
Author Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 oh ya he told me at first he wanted a break in the relationship i said no that it was all or nothing, so then he said he would chose to be single... i just dont know whats going on in his mind. So i changed my face book status to single and blocked him, he was mad i blocked him then a few weeks later he changed his status to single
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 of course you want him to tell you that he misses you...i would love nothing more than to hear from my ex after all this time say that she missed me...but that isn't going to help us move on...it just pushes us closer to that hope of a second chance, which doesn't seem like it's going to happen soon...and you're never going to get anywhere if you're bouncing back and forth between solid NC and hopeful consumption of breadcrumbs...
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 oh ya he told me at first he wanted a break in the relationship i said no that it was all or nothing, so then he said he would chose to be single... i just dont know whats going on in his mind. So i changed my face book status to single and blocked him, he was mad i blocked him then a few weeks later he changed his status to single This is exactly how mine went...she said that she needed a break, so I said that maybe we should just end it then, since I figured her words meant an inevitable breakup...then I spent the next 2 months regretting breaking it off and trying to get her back...only to push her further and further away...we still loved each other, but my actions just made it easier for her to leave...
Author Confused728 Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 i just dont understand how he finds this so easy, i know he wanted to do things with me even after we broke up cause he would say yes if i asked him, though i never followed threw cause i figure why should i give him attention if hes not my bf... he offred to fix my car and things like that.. did he just wanna be freinds or whats the deal.. but how does he keep his emotions so well controled there is hardly a slip..
USMCHokie Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 unfortunately, the dumper will find it easy because there may not be as strong of, if any, emotions on their end...so there's nothing for them to control...on the other hand, our emotions for the ex are still strong...which forces us to keep them under control just to 'stay cool' when we're around them... he wants to be friends because he's emotionally ready to be friends...if you're not emotionally ready to let go of the relationship, then you can't be friends with your ex...it's not fair to you to give him what he wants when you won't get what you want from him... as much as it hurts now, you'll look back and be glad you didn't go there...you just have to tough it out sometimes...even when it hurts...
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