karenr Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 My Narcissist broke up with me at the beginning of October after he bled me dry, we have had only 2 emails between us since and I have not seen him. I discovered that within a week I was replaced by another victim and he's taking her away with friends of ours as part of a social group gathering every weekend. I have been working so unable to attend - thank god, as I cant face him with anyone else - I am doing better, but some days it's so difficult. He doesnt have any friends of his own, but is making a big thing of being the life and soul of the party when away with these people..and making huge efforts to be going away with them. I know for a fact he's been slagging me off and saying that he didnt ask for anything...........and that I had virtually moved in and took over his life. I feel so alone and dont know how I can face these people knowing that he's such a believable, manipulative person. They must all hate me and blame me for the break up and treating him badly - cos that's what he will have told them. I feel so alone, I'm supposed to be attending a Christmas Event in a few weeks, they will all be there and him with his new victim being the life and soul. How can I face everyone?
twinklecat Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 Hey karenr, I'm sorry for your loss. My situation sounds very smimilar to yours. I was with a manipulative guy till the end of October after 5 years. He also has a new victim! I also have a Christmas event to go to in a few weeks where they will be there. What has gotten me through this is thinking that I won't be the one he manipulates now. I am working on myself and doing things I never normally would do and it feels good. It still hurts, but when I start to think about him, I force myself to think about something else, or try to keep myself busy. I'm not sure how you feel, but I am going to the Christmas event, because why should I put my life on hold for him? If you can handle it, I would suggest you go, don't stop doing things just because of him. *hugs*
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