sheithappens Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 so my ex girlfriend and i were in a 4 and a half year relationship which i broke it off over stupid reasons and i was sorry about it (read my other post) i did not hear from her for over 2 and a half months then 2 weeks ago she texts me to see how i am and that she developed feelings for another guy, i went to go see her and took it well and wished her luck although i did tell her i had already picked out the engagement ring before we broke up.... she texts me 5 days after that to tell me that i was right about the guy being a rebound and that she wants to talk once a week and take babysteps. i agreed but i think she is the love of my life..... she then texts me on tuesday to say she dreamt that i died and that she was sad about it and was checking to see if i was ok, i of course told her that i am alright and that i am trying hard to work on my issues because i love her and she said we will see.. on saturday i took her brother to the movies and she was on a date with a guy , i didnt say anything about it and she sent me back my old sweatshirt and a rosary inside the pocket.. i text her thanks and she didnt respond and today i get a text inviting me to lunch and of course i went and she told me that her life was chaotic right now because she was trying to hide her feelings she has for me and that she has been sad but that she needs time because she needs to see that i am changing for example my anger issues... i really love this girl and when i dropped her off today i asked for a kiss, she was very hesitent bout it at first but gave it to me..... what should i do next????? any advice would be great.... i really love this girl and i screwed up royally by breaking it off with her
Author sheithappens Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 any advice or opinions? im pretty confused at the moment......
Author sheithappens Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 no one wants to take a crack at this one ?!? lol
brianacarol Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 I think u should meet with her again. She also love u but not doing express and now you should invite her on dinner and ask her about another kiss if she agree then she loves u too.
selena_cat Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 okay,unless i have to reread it again,she texts you constantly,for any reason then she says she wants to take babysteps and then you se her on a date with another guy,which then she makes her self unavailable afterwards,not return text. Doesnt this sound like youre being strung along? if someone wants to be with you,they ill come knowcking at your door the least,not throw crumbs. I know all about crumbs and being strung along thats why i can see this (usually with others going thru it) she wants to put you in the backburner and run to you whenever relationships dont work. You deserve better,talk to your guy friends,they'll tell you,hey that chick is stringing you along,guys are pretty forward about stuff like that,,thats why i have male friends
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 okay,unless i have to reread it again,she texts you constantly,for any reason then she says she wants to take babysteps and then you se her on a date with another guy,which then she makes her self unavailable afterwards,not return text. Doesnt this sound like youre being strung along? if someone wants to be with you,they ill come knowcking at your door the least,not throw crumbs. I know all about crumbs and being strung along thats why i can see this (usually with others going thru it) she wants to put you in the backburner and run to you whenever relationships dont work. You deserve better,talk to your guy friends,they'll tell you,hey that chick is stringing you along,guys are pretty forward about stuff like that,,thats why i have male friends ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Dont forget the ego boost as well. Dude, she wants to have fun, enjoys the ego boost your attention gives her, makes it easier for her to have you in this position while shes recovering from the break up, and if all else fails has you on the back burner to run to
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 Id add the following WTF do you expect ? Breaking up with someone is hard. Having you there like this right now minimizes that pain for her tremendously. It allows her to be detached and prepare to reconnect with someone else without most of the hard parts of why people suffer during a break up. Does he still care for me, Is he with someone else. etc etc
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 okay,unless i have to reread it again,she texts you constantly,for any reason then she says she wants to take babysteps and then you se her on a date with another guy,which then she makes her self unavailable afterwards,not return text. Doesnt this sound like youre being strung along? if someone wants to be with you,they ill come knowcking at your door the least,not throw crumbs. I know all about crumbs and being strung along thats why i can see this (usually with others going thru it) she wants to put you in the backburner and run to you whenever relationships dont work. You deserve better,talk to your guy friends,they'll tell you,hey that chick is stringing you along,guys are pretty forward about stuff like that,,thats why i have male friends Not sure why, but there is something really hot about the pic in your avatar lol You look good
Author sheithappens Posted November 19, 2009 Author Posted November 19, 2009 thanks guys, you guys are right , i just dont understand how she disappears like a fart in the wind for a couple of months , then she pops up and is confused....... jersey boy i agree, selena cat looks very attractive in that pic
Author sheithappens Posted November 20, 2009 Author Posted November 20, 2009 also i want to add that i dont contact her , she does, its like everytime she hears my voice she gets weak or something, she hasnt contacted me after the lunch thing on monday but she also did say a week ago that she wants to do the baby steps thing and talk once a week until we get use to it again, and also that she wants to see change in me
selena_cat Posted November 20, 2009 Posted November 20, 2009 (edited) Not sure why, but there is something really hot about the pic in your avatar lol You look good Thanks S**happens, & Jersey guy, hey JS,i'm a New yorker so we should start being nice to jersey folks,you all have very nice beaches:) I say that You S**happens should really go NC but we all know how hard it is. the other option is that you should act uninterested and unavailable to her,best to really be that way,but as Cali-Guy would say,fake it till you make it..that always do the trick for the wayward ex. S.H. I'll go further into how you can do this later,have to go and actually do some work:) Edited November 20, 2009 by selena_cat
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Several years ago an ex told me that she had a dream I died. I wasn't sure what it meant, say if it meant she was worried about losing me. So I looked it up on dream dictionary. Apparently dreaming of an ex means that symbolises you have lost all feelings towards that person and have moved on - in effect the relationship is dead. Never got back together with her, but we have kept in in touch as 'friends'....
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