on edge Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I started posting on her to get over my last relationship. I had moved past it, and was in a new relationship. Things had been going great for the last two months. I was happy, she was fun, and I felt that there was potential for a future together. Well, all of a sudden new-girl decides that she has too much going on right now for a relationship. It was completely out of the blue. She said things like, "you're perfect," "I still want to see you," and "I don't see why we can't get back together." WTF? Her entire reason for ending it is that she is unemployed right now and needs to spend more time looking for a job. I work full-time and we hang out once or twice during the week (at night, home by 11) and once on the weekend. I cannot see how I am preventing her from sending out her resume. In fact, it pisses me off that I did nothing wrong, yet I get punished. She still has some of my stuff, and that is the only reason why I am going to break NC. 1 day of NC and counting.
lilbelle Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 It's time to look at the other side of the coin. She is telling you that right now is not a good time for her to start a relationship. She still likes you but the timing is off. Look at it this way. If she gets a job offer in another city and moves and has already fallen for you it will break her in two to leave and possibly hold her back from a great career. Think about this. Some people pull back until they are back on their feet again.
name witheld Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Possibly, but I disagree. Tangent - my Girl just text! lol Anyways, it could be that but possibly she is wanting to date other people or just doesn't see the relationship going anywhere.
Author on edge Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 I can't help but wonder if she is saying one thing but means another. She basically proposed that we still see each other exclusively, but that we are not in a "relationship." I wasn't too thrilled with that because I really like her. She was just on AIM and didn't message me, and I didn't message her. I am pretty sure it's over. Time to start another round of no-contact. Almost 2 days down.
Author on edge Posted November 17, 2009 Author Posted November 17, 2009 Update: So she called last night, and I answered. She didn't say much. I told her that since we are broken up, I don't want to talk to her or see her anymore. She was surprised, and actually started crying. She said she didn't understand, I said that I don't understand your reasoning for the break up, but that's just how things are. How do you break up with someone, and then think that they are going to be O.K. with everything? I am not really interested in waiting her out, or waiting until she is ready for a relationship. I'm a catch and I deserve better. Wow, I guess my attitude has really changed. She started saying that we were right for each other, but that the timing is just not right for her. I replied I was not sure that she was the right one for me because of this unexpected break-up. Then she hung up on me. Awesome! It was fine because I immediately went back to playing Call of Duty, watched Dexter, and went to bed. Guess this is more of just a rant than anything else.
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 Sounds like you are healed. Or at least well on your way. Thats the good thing about computer games! They may help to move the relationship towards breakup but they also help to take your mind off afterwards!
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