Is this infidelity?

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So I work with this girl, and a who confesses her love to a guy a couple states over. Apparently she knew this guy when she used to live in the same state, however, when she moved away they kept in touch. I guess over the years they kept in touch online, and she developed feelings for him, and he in turns for her, although they never made any type of relationship official.

 

So because of the distance, and the fact they don't have an official relationship, she sees other guys. She'll date them, and even have intimate moments together, but she never tells this guy in another state about this. As they call each other, and chat online, they keep on telling each other that they love each other, all the while she's doing things with these guys locally (while I'm pretty sure, she didn't tell him about this other guy). I think she probably tells these local guys "i love you" too.

 

So my questions is: is this infidelity? And what would possess a person to do something like this? It just seems wrong to me.

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Unless they're "boyfriend and girlfriend", or engaged in some type of committed relationship, then IMO no.

 

But, it is inappropriate, deceitful, and disrespectful the way she's treating her long distance "friend", if he has no idea she's doing, and she's stringing him along.

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Well we hear about emotional affairs and stuff, so let me add this scenario. As this girl is going out with this dude, fsking his brains out, introducing him to her family, and friends, having a good ole time, she still goes home and tells this one guy "I love you" after confiding in him of her personal stuff (what makes her tick, likes, dislikes, etc.), of course all the while the guy locally knows nothing about the guy in the other state and vice versa. So maybe she's not cheating on the guy in another state, but cheating on the guy locally. Still not right eh?