hottrotter Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Hello all, So my girlfriend of over a year broke up with me almost two weeks ago.. since then i haven't heard from her or anything. It's been hard to not contact her, but it seems that i shouldn't? I am a Firefighter Recruit going through a fire academy right now, and had weird hours and studying, but i think i did well in keeping her happy and seeing her and what not. So a few days before we broke up i got kind of jealous over something i shouldn't have, i let stress get to me, and since that we had a few arguments because she wouldn't tell me anything anymore and just wouldn't talk to me at all and left me in the dark, and that bothered me. She said "i have stuff ive been going through too" even though she never mentioned or said anything when i asked her. She told me she didn't see the relationship going any further and blah blah blah. It seemed sudden though, considering we just celebrated one year and all was good and i gave her a promise ring and she wanted to get married, kids, etc etc. I talked to her a few hours after the break up and asked how long til she would be over it, to which she said "i think i already am, i was thinking and making myself mad for the past week" Haha so not really sure if that all made sense, but i was kind of shocked, but the whole no contact thing seems to be working for me so far.. i mean i want to be friends with her, but is that even possible?
xoxo88 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 It is possible to be friends if you like her as a person, and don't love her anymore. If you only want to be friends because you still love her and want to be around her, that's not a good idea. Stay away from her untill you are sure about your feelings. Maybe there still is a chance for you to make up, but you should give yourselves time away from each other and decide what you want. Evaluate in very objective way you relationship and decide if it's worth fighting for or not.
nobleguy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 For me, no. Right now I don't think friends is an option. At all. Maybe, just maybe when the feelings have died completely. Won't be for a while though...
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