jaymack Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I bought my house before we were married in the state of Texas. My wife has recently started an affair with another man and often stays the night at his place. We have not been having sex for about 3 months now. Last night she went to a party and i called to see if she minded if I came over and her response was I could not. When she didn't come home last night I drove by his house and her car was there. Of course I was upseet and emailed her telling to get her things out of my house. Her response was is just as much hers as mine. So do I have to let her live here even though she's having an affair and does she have to sleep in the same bed as me even though we are not sexually active?
mark982 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 here in pa. if you're not on the deed,there's not really not much she could say. but in your case monday morn i'd be at lawyers office to ask him. if he gives you the go i wouldn't even give her the benifit of a heads up. just put her stuff in a garage or storage unit,change locks.
Author jaymack Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Thanks for the reply Mark, that's they way I understood Texas law but I will check with a lawyer. I forgot to mention she went out last night knowing our 5 yo was sick and it was me up with her at 4 am trying to get her comfortable enough to get back to sleep, poor little thing :-(
imagine Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I believe that in Texas there is a law that protects your physical person. If she is having sex with some one else -google Checkmate to check legally that she is having some. If she has had sex with you as well then you are compromised. Check it out! You will be rewarded in court.
Lucky_One Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Don't have sex with her again. Knowing that your spouse is unfaithful and then having conjugal relations with them is "condonation" in many states, meaning that you can't use adultery as a charge in a divorce.
2.50 a gallon Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 (edited) Jaymack In my case I caught her kissing an OM and I told her not to come home. A week later we made arrangements for her to pick up her things. At the appointed hour she showed up with the police. First thing she demanded was the keys to one of my three vehicles. Sorry, they are paid off and were in my name. This set her off, and she began screaming, name calling. Then she decided that she would stay. I was prepared for that and calmly showed the lease to the police, which only had my name on it and asked them to remove the crazy lady. The police told her by her actions it was a domestic dispute and she had to leave. They also told her that the division of our things would be decided by a judge, and for the moment, what ever I said was mine stayed Edited November 15, 2009 by 2.50 a gallon
Author jaymack Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Don't have sex with her again. I don't think having sex with her again will ever be an option and after what's she's done I don't think i could go through with it anyway.
mark982 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 but,if it was awhile before you found out about the affair,you were probable having unprotected sex. wouldn't hurt to get checked out.
seraphim mom Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 The house is yours..sole and separate property, box her stuff up and put it out fron, and tell her to pick it up within like the hour or its getting donated, and if you have the little one in your care, time now have her paying you child support....I hate a cheater...she has made her bed now make her lie in it, don't be nice she dosent deserve it.
dazedandconfused2008 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Ugh...that makes me furious. I cant believe some people!! Its bad enough thats shes doing this crap to you but to neglect her own child for her own selfishness...makes me ill . I am glad that at least your kids have one stable parent and its these times that they will remember you most for it. While she is busy playing around this is the time to do your research...consult with your legal system...gather supports...and know your rights for you and your children. You dont deserve this and your kids dont deserve this either. End this path of suffering and get started on healing. You and your kids focus on that and you guys will be way ahead of the game. She, on the other hand, will have to face reality and face the consequences of her actions down the road...as long as you allow her to. BS dont realize the power that they truly possess inside because right now our own emotions are running us at the moment. Just remember...as one door closes...a few more open. Dont be afraid to go through one or more because the other side of them may be more rewarding than you think in more ways than one...in due time.
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