delirious Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Okay this is just cos I am curious and trying to see if I am indeed the craziest person on here but I have called him using a man's voice computer generated. I have followed him to work, and we almost got caught making out there, I have waited for him outside his street. All for love love love, it makes me crazy and I am crazy. I am not a bunny boiler, just madly deeply in love and driven to do crazy things due to not being in a normal relationship. It is funny when I think of it, but what is the craziest thing you have done in order to see him or her. Tell me I am not the madest woman on earth!! By the way my MM thinks I am funny and he has done crazy things too.
Fallen Angel Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I haven't done anything crazy. When I want to talk to him, I call him. When I want to see him, I tell him so, and he comes to me if work permits. (I can't expect him to drive from two states away for an hour visit and have to drive back getting no sleep.) I guess maybe I would do crazy things if I had to. But so far I have never had to. I don't know that I would call his house using a computer generated voice. (Thank God for cell phones.)
whichwayisup Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I am not a bunny boiler, just madly deeply in love and driven to do crazy things due to not being in a normal relationship. Is this a justification? You are with a MM, and you love him, yet doing freaky things, not having any trust in him .. What is the point? Such drama, such a waste of emotion and energy on someone who is married and keeping you on the side as the OW. Sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy love..At all. This is an obsessed "I have to have him" kind of love which is dangerous, emotional and has the potiential to turn into something very negative if he ever breaks it off with you and wants to walk away forever. Remember though, you've chosen this pathway.. I hope someday soon you choose to end it and go on another path which will lead to a healthier relationship with someone else..
lovekillsslowly Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Is this a justification? You are with a MM, and you love him, yet doing freaky things, not having any trust in him .. What is the point? Such drama, such a waste of emotion and energy on someone who is married and keeping you on the side as the OW. Sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy love..At all. This is an obsessed "I have to have him" kind of love which is dangerous, emotional and has the potiential to turn into something very negative if he ever breaks it off with you and wants to walk away forever. Remember though, you've chosen this pathway.. I hope someday soon you choose to end it and go on another path which will lead to a healthier relationship with someone else.. At no point in delirious post did she ask you what do you think of her actions and what your opinions are of them and her. Why can't you just stick to answering what the post is about???? If you can't relate to the post than don't respond to it! If you feel the need to express how you feel about MM's, MW's and OW's in affairs than why don't you just start your own post rather than trying to make delirious feel like she is resorting to "doing freaky things" and doesn't "trust" her MM. You aren't her. You don't know what her situation is like. So who are you to tell her what she is thinking and acting like??? It's her decission on how she chooses to live her life and handle her affair. Not yours.
lovekillsslowly Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Delirious ~ the craziest thing me and my xMM ever did was one Saturday afternoon last fall he wanted to see me really bad. So he left his house to go jogging. He had me pick him up in my car by the water plant in town. We then took the back-roads thru town to go park out in the country. Here I was 42 and he was 50 and we were parking out in the country like two teenagers!! And par for the course some truck came down our "secluded" country road right in the "middle" of things. Oh well....it still puts a smile on my face when I think about how crazy we were and the risks we took just to spend time together.
Lizzie60 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Never done anything out of the ordinary.. really.. but maybe the 'craziest' thing I've done.. when I was maybe 18-19.. I called his place.. his W answered.. and I pretended to be his best friend's wife.. and asking her where he was.. we actually chatted for a little while.. I've never done anything 'wild' per se.. walk in front of his home (to check if he was home)... it wasn't crazy.. it was pathetically sad.. I would never ever do anything like that. He wants to see me.. HE calls me.. period.
Fallen Angel Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Is this a justification? You are with a MM, and you love him, yet doing freaky things, not having any trust in him .. What is the point? Such drama, such a waste of emotion and energy on someone who is married and keeping you on the side as the OW. Sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy love..At all. This is an obsessed "I have to have him" kind of love which is dangerous, emotional and has the potiential to turn into something very negative if he ever breaks it off with you and wants to walk away forever. Remember though, you've chosen this pathway.. I hope someday soon you choose to end it and go on another path which will lead to a healthier relationship with someone else.. Just curious, what part of her post made you say this? I read it, and saw nothing that led me to believe she didn't trust her MM, so I am curious what part of her post you get that idea from?
Fallen Angel Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Delirious ~ the craziest thing me and my xMM ever did was one Saturday afternoon last fall he wanted to see me really bad. So he left his house to go jogging. He had me pick him up in my car by the water plant in town. We then took the back-roads thru town to go park out in the country. Here I was 42 and he was 50 and we were parking out in the country like two teenagers!! And par for the course some truck came down our "secluded" country road right in the "middle" of things. Oh well....it still puts a smile on my face when I think about how crazy we were and the risks we took just to spend time together. LOL, that sounds like fun.. maybe I need to go "parking", it has been a long time
whichwayisup Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 My mistake, I totally mis-read the original post.Sorry. *Note to self, have coffee before reading LS*..
Author delirious Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Is this a justification? You are with a MM, and you love him, yet doing freaky things, not having any trust in him .. What is the point? Such drama, such a waste of emotion and energy on someone who is married and keeping you on the side as the OW. Sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy love..At all. This is an obsessed "I have to have him" kind of love which is dangerous, emotional and has the potiential to turn into something very negative if he ever breaks it off with you and wants to walk away forever. Remember though, you've chosen this pathway.. I hope someday soon you choose to end it and go on another path which will lead to a healthier relationship with someone else.. There is always one........... when I need your opinion, I will ask you, not even going to bother answering you
whichwayisup Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I guess you didn't read my other response. I made a mistake, totally misread your opening post and I did apologize..But, I will stay off your threads from now on.
Author delirious Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Delirious ~ the craziest thing me and my xMM ever did was one Saturday afternoon last fall he wanted to see me really bad. So he left his house to go jogging. He had me pick him up in my car by the water plant in town. We then took the back-roads thru town to go park out in the country. Here I was 42 and he was 50 and we were parking out in the country like two teenagers!! And par for the course some truck came down our "secluded" country road right in the "middle" of things. Oh well....it still puts a smile on my face when I think about how crazy we were and the risks we took just to spend time together. Yes, done that haha, you feel like a teenager in every respect. But people will do crazy things whatever age when they feel strongly enough. Well I guess we are lucky to get out second youth, some never had their first, LOL .
ContemplatingTheEnd Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 My ex-mm and I (going on Day Two of NC, so hardly ex...) But anyways. Let's see. We've had sex in a hotel restaurant bar's bathroom (and got caught). We've had sex in parks while on runs. We've messed around in his car on a busy street. Luckily the rain and fogged-up windows shielded us... These weren't triggered just because he is married and we had no place to have sex. While that may be part of it, we simply couldn't keep our hands off each other so, naturally, when the opportunity arises (like on a run at 9 p.m. one random Monday night) we jump on it. He would come over to my place all the time...so that is an option. I would love to have these adventures with a single man, though. That's why he's my EX-mm. Well, of course, that's not the main reason. The main reason is obvious enough. As far as seeing him, reaching out to him and going by his place/work. I didn't do any of that. I didn't call or text him much. He always reached out to me. While I thought (and still do) about him all the time, I wouldn't put that on display. I'm afraid the amount of emotional energy I've suffocated in this twisted relationship (that lasted eight months almost to the day), will cause me to suppress all emotions in future healthy relationships. Eeek.
MizzBlue72 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 hmmm ... crazy stuff?? Flying in to another state to meet at a hotel?? Yeah, more than once .... having to lie to everyone to keep it going ... yeah.
ksana Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 At no point in delirious post did she ask you what do you think of her actions and what your opinions are of them and her. But she did! She said "I am curious and trying to see if I am indeed the craziest person on here and "Tell me I am not the madest woman on earth!!" Why can't you just stick to answering what the post is about???? If you can't relate to the post than don't respond to it! If you feel the need to express how you feel about MM's, MW's and OW's in affairs than why don't you just start your own post rather than trying to make delirious feel like she is resorting to "doing freaky things" and doesn't "trust" her MM. Delirious has called herself and her actions crazy several times in her post. How is this different to freaky. You aren't her. You don't know what her situation is like. So who are you to tell her what she is thinking and acting like??? Err because she asked for comments on her actions! It's her decision on how she chooses to live her life and handle her affair. Not yours. Well of course so why are you telling others what to do and how [not] to respond?
Author delirious Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 Well of course so why are you telling others what to do and how [not] to respond? Ksana have you just signed on (first post) to have a go, if so bog off!!!
Jacky Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Waited for her on the way home...that was when we argued and she didnt want to talk but I wanted to talk
OWoman Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I can't say I've ever done anything particularly crazy to get to see a lover, although I've been on the receiving end of some fairly extreme tactics from former lovers (hence their immediately becoming "x" lovers...). I guess it all depends on who's more invested - the less invested, the less likely to engage in "crazy" behaviour.
lovekillsslowly Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 (edited) Ksana ~ you can't be serious!!!????!!!! Delirious post specifically says "To OW what is the craziest thing you did to see your lover?" It does not say "Tell me what you think of my actions!" nor does it say "Does it appear that I don't trust my MM?" It was meant to be a fun, laughable post!! It's kind of like asking some of your friends "what's the craziest thing you've ever done when you've been drunk??? I've done this, this and this. Please tell me I'm not the madest drunk out there!" Asking that doesn't mean you want a lecture on how you have a drinking problem and you shouldn't be doing that!!!! Even whichwayisup said that she misread the post, hence the reason for her incorrect response. But hey, why don't we just ask Delirious what she meant when she posted that and see which one of us is right. You or me. And if I have completely misunderstood what Delirious was specifically asking than I will apologize to her personally! So Delirious what's the answer??? Edited November 16, 2009 by lovekillsslowly
Author delirious Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 Ksana ~ you can't be serious!!!????!!!! Delirious post specifically says "To OW what is the craziest thing you did to see your lover?" It does not say "Tell me what you think of my actions!" nor does it say "Does it appear that I don't trust my MM?" It was meant to be a fun, laughable post!! It's kind of like asking some of your friends "what's the craziest thing you've ever done when you've been drunk??? I've done this, this and this. Please tell me I'm not the madest drunk out there!" Asking that doesn't mean you want a lecture on how you have a drinking problem and you shouldn't be doing that!!!! Even whichwayisup said that she misread the post, hence the reason for her incorrect response. But hey, why don't we just ask Delirious what she meant when she posted that and see which one of us is right. You or me. And if I have completely misunderstood what Delirious was specifically asking than I will apologize to her personally! So Delirious what's the answer??? You are of course completely correct
Author delirious Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 I may be wrong, but I think if someone has not done something a bit crazy whilst in this kind of relationship, then maybe they are not completely in love. All those love chemicals whizzing about in your brain make you crazy don't they? :love: If you have never felt that, then you are not in love.
PG Love Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I have done some fun, wild and crazy stuff. When I was seeing a guy who lived 6 hours away I would drop my husband off at work at 630am and head out for the 6 hour drive, stay with him for 12 hours and drive 6 hours back to pick up my husband after his 24 hour shift. I have left in the middle of the night to drive 2 hours to see him. We were both separated by this point but he was working and living 2 hours away. We have skipped work and gotten hotel rooms 1/2 way between us just for a couple of hours. We are now together and have been living together for the last year, so no more wild and crazy meetings~Just good loving all the time .
ksana Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Is abuse of new posters acceptable on this forum? I have been a member for weeks and been reading for months.
wheelwright Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I'd just like to say that what me and xMM did to see each other was so morally reprehensible that I can't post it. It will haunt me for the rest of my days, as will the complete and utter love we felt at that terrible moment. But it was definitely in that world of anything goes because THIS IS LOVE! As for the argument here, I don't think WWIU's post was so bad. Us in love OW need pause for thought. And WWIU apologised. Let's leave off having a go at anyone who is voicing their opinion. Can we make our reminders that people are vulnerable less acidic? It goes both ways.
Impudent Oyster Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 We then took the back-roads thru town to go park out in the country. So, you drove your car to where he was jogging, picked him up and went and had sex in your car? Did you drop him back off on the road where he was jogging so he could finish his run?
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