b52s Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 ...I have seen some exceptions to the rule...and figure if THAT guy can get a woman....I know I might have a chance. lol Now this might be a sensitive issue for some, and forgive me for bringing up a hot button issue, but these are some of the things that just wander into my head when I see couples like this together. Recently, I saw this REALLY slender cute woman with a seriously obese guy (like Chris Farley obese)...now this is something I do rarely see, but I wonder how a thin woman would find that attractive? I've also seen it vice-versa (skinny guy with a fat woman), but I figured the guy was rather desperate. Now I'm not talking about "chunky" or a few extra pounds, but I'm talking morbidly obese. I could figure these reason they dated them was because.... 1. The person absolutely does NOT care at all about physical appearance and personality. (You know those survey's you hear on the radio when someone was asked the 2 options, "What's more important to you in a mate, Looks or Personality", I think ever answer was "personality" and those that picked "Personality" was probably lying....but, I think these are the people who were not lying 2. They have a "thing" for obese people 3. Out of desperation. 4. Women are less visual than men as well. Often times, I wonder if the skinny person would dump the fat person in a heartbeat if someone thinner came around. I actually known some thin men to do this as well, but that's more surprising than the OTHER way around, because men tend to be more visual than women. Actually seen a skinny guy with an obese wife....and you'd figure, "Well,she probably gained weight after they married. I saw their wedding photo....not the case. Anyhow, have you known any "obese and skinny" couples and had it made you wondered what the attraction was? I mean it's great that they aren't into looks, but...I dunno, there are some I tend to wonder what the attraction is. I guess there's gotta be something there that's really off-setting the obesity? Now don't get me wrong, I've even been attracted to a woman who was quite a few pounds overweight (like 20 to 30 lbs even), probably because at that weight, nothing's been "stretched out or misshapened yet" ,and still seem relatively proportioned. I think there's a certain "threshold" of when a few extra pounds finally starts to misshapen a persons body, and that's where even I have my limits. I don't consider myself all that great looking, but when I see a couple like that, I figure (Hm, way to go dude....guess that means even I stand a chance, just need to find that kind of woman)
betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I see in shape guys with very overweight women all the time.
Author b52s Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 I see in shape guys with very overweight women all the time. Must be the geographic location then...because I hardly see ANY of that. LOL Guess my town needs to catch up.
BlueHarvest Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Must be the geographic location then...because I hardly see ANY of that. LOL Guess my town needs to catch up. There are alot of relatively "skinny" guys dating "fat" chicks in my area. Where do I live? In the south-eastern united states, along the South Carolina seaboard. *For demographic purposes*. Now, as to the reverse. "fat guys" dating "skinny chicks" ....I have to admit I don't see that much and I can pretty much answer why it is rare. Money and charisma....loads of both. Think about Gabriel Iglasias, or Kevin James. These guys have HOT wives. Granted they are both comedian stars/movie actors and have alot of money so we can't base their partner match up accurately. But they have a buttload of charisma. Think about from this angle... Try to picture either of those guys I mentioned, without their popularity, without their money, without their funny stories, without their charisma. Do you think they would still get their current wives? (No....just no). Now picture them as the funny guys they are, lots of charisma. How about now? (Quite possibly, charisma is a huge defining factor IMO). The money might be the icing on the cake to their wives. (He's funny AND rich ....JACKPOT!) I'm just saying....
grampi Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 What I see all the time are these knock-out gorgous women with dorky looking geeks and I just don't get why a woman that attractive would be attracted such men. Maybe what they say is true; he's either rich or he's got a big schlong! Who knows?
Author b52s Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 What I see all the time are these knock-out gorgous women with dorky looking geeks and I just don't get why a woman that attractive would be attracted such men. Maybe what they say is true; he's either rich or he's got a big schlong! Who knows? Yeah, but thin dorky looking geeks are probably more appealing than a severely obese one. I would have to say that this guy has to be the personality or charm, he definitely has a regular job....nothing lucrative.
FleshNBones Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I could figure these reason they dated them was because.... 1. The person absolutely does NOT care at all about physical appearance and personality. (You know those survey's you hear on the radio when someone was asked the 2 options, "What's more important to you in a mate, Looks or Personality", I think ever answer was "personality" and those that picked "Personality" was probably lying....but, I think these are the people who were not lying 2. They have a "thing" for obese people 3. Out of desperation. 4. Women are less visual than men as well.You left out 5. Insecure. They are afraid a better looking partner will cheat on or leave them.
BobSacamento Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 You also have to consider that when people get into relationships, I'd say a fair amount of the time, people tend to let themselves go.
Author b52s Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 You also have to consider that when people get into relationships, I'd say a fair amount of the time, people tend to let themselves go. Well, one of them was a skinny guy that married an overweight woman, I figured that's what happened. Then I saw their wedding photo....she was just as on the big side in the photo as well.
thegreatmoose Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 What I see all the time are these knock-out gorgous women with dorky looking geeks and I just don't get why a woman that attractive would be attracted such men. Maybe what they say is true; he's either rich or he's got a big schlong! Who knows? Or maybe they have great personalities and treat her well.
thegreatmoose Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Recently, I saw this REALLY slender cute woman with a seriously obese guy (like Chris Farley obese)...now this is something I do rarely see, but I wonder how a thin woman would find that attractive? I've also seen it vice-versa (skinny guy with a fat woman), but I figured the guy was rather desperate. It's easy to make assumptions. Different people have different standards of what attractive is to them. Just because most of America finds a person attractive or ugly, does not mean a particular person would agree.
Author b52s Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Or maybe they have great personalities and treat her well. Yeah, it's great a relationship like that turned out the way it did, to bad they can't all be that way. lol
lofi_tokyo Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I see many tall, athletics guys, dating obese women in my city. I recall one of these athletic men telling me that he liked how curvaceous bigger women are. He really does not like slender girls with "no boobs". Sadly, I had a huge crush on the guy, and I'm on the slender side. ;p
betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Must be the geographic location then...because I hardly see ANY of that. LOL Guess my town needs to catch up. Absolutely every day I see many cases of this. This morning I saw a very tall, very in shape guy with a chick woh if she were taller, could be on the offensive line of the washington redskins..
betamanlet Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 What I see all the time are these knock-out gorgous women with dorky looking geeks and I just don't get why a woman that attractive would be attracted such men. Maybe what they say is true; he's either rich or he's got a big schlong! Who knows? A friend of mine wondered that, at a club in DC, and he got drunk, went up to her and asked why she was with him and she responded "becaues he pays me $400/hr, are you interested?"
mem11363 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 A beautiful woman creates a reality distortion field. Inside that field all kinds of madness happens. And she is usually the beneficiary of the crazy behavior. Men can also have reality distortion fields. Theirs are often fueled by wealth. So when you see a female 9 with a male 2 or 3, it is either that he has an incredible personality/charisma - which I have seen - or is rich. ...I have seen some exceptions to the rule...and figure if THAT guy can get a woman....I know I might have a chance. lol Now this might be a sensitive issue for some, and forgive me for bringing up a hot button issue, but these are some of the things that just wander into my head when I see couples like this together. Recently, I saw this REALLY slender cute woman with a seriously obese guy (like Chris Farley obese)...now this is something I do rarely see, but I wonder how a thin woman would find that attractive? I've also seen it vice-versa (skinny guy with a fat woman), but I figured the guy was rather desperate. Now I'm not talking about "chunky" or a few extra pounds, but I'm talking morbidly obese. I could figure these reason they dated them was because.... 1. The person absolutely does NOT care at all about physical appearance and personality. (You know those survey's you hear on the radio when someone was asked the 2 options, "What's more important to you in a mate, Looks or Personality", I think ever answer was "personality" and those that picked "Personality" was probably lying....but, I think these are the people who were not lying 2. They have a "thing" for obese people 3. Out of desperation. 4. Women are less visual than men as well. Often times, I wonder if the skinny person would dump the fat person in a heartbeat if someone thinner came around. I actually known some thin men to do this as well, but that's more surprising than the OTHER way around, because men tend to be more visual than women. Actually seen a skinny guy with an obese wife....and you'd figure, "Well,she probably gained weight after they married. I saw their wedding photo....not the case. Anyhow, have you known any "obese and skinny" couples and had it made you wondered what the attraction was? I mean it's great that they aren't into looks, but...I dunno, there are some I tend to wonder what the attraction is. I guess there's gotta be something there that's really off-setting the obesity? Now don't get me wrong, I've even been attracted to a woman who was quite a few pounds overweight (like 20 to 30 lbs even), probably because at that weight, nothing's been "stretched out or misshapened yet" ,and still seem relatively proportioned. I think there's a certain "threshold" of when a few extra pounds finally starts to misshapen a persons body, and that's where even I have my limits. I don't consider myself all that great looking, but when I see a couple like that, I figure (Hm, way to go dude....guess that means even I stand a chance, just need to find that kind of woman)
tami-chan Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Women should never date a man who has two of the three:(not necessarily in this order) 1) less money 2) less education 3) less attractive Men who have three of three or even two of three have a way of equalizing the field, mostly by emotionally abusing the women.
Lishy Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I think what you are saying is a load of old rubbish! Why shouldnt a skinny man date a fat girl or vise versa? Just because YOU find fat repulsive it does not mean everyone else should too does it? I have a friend who is 350lb and she is the nicest girl I know she has a beautiful face and is a beautiful person on the inside ... She never has a problem getting male attention and she shouldn't have either! Her ex was 180lbs and in shape and he adored her! If I started a thread about a particular race dating a different race and saying how can people do this and how disgusting it was, would that be bad? Yes ... just like this thread is! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Oh and for the record I would rather date a fatty with a nice face and a nice person than a skinny with an ugly face and an ugly attitude! get over it!
Maggotface Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I consider myself a pretty cute, skinny girl and I prefere larger guys. It's just more attractive to me when I man is tall and has meat on him.
Author b52s Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 If you are ugly or overweight or have a physical defeat obviously finding a partner that is attractive will be more of a challenge, however its definitely possible if you have enough “game”. Attraction and emotion is something that is difficult to control and has no prejudice when it comes to being superficial. For example, if a guy is good at maintaining eye contact, knows the areas to touch to arouse her and knows what to say verbally to make her moist the girls emotions will outweigh her logic and will fall in “love” regardless of appearance. If you are interested in more this is all covered in the “superior Confidence” programme @ http://www.SuperiorConfidence.com Superiorhustleman Someone get this guys porn spam out of here.
Author b52s Posted November 16, 2009 Author Posted November 16, 2009 I think what you are saying is a load of old rubbish! Why shouldnt a skinny man date a fat girl or vise versa? Just because YOU find fat repulsive it does not mean everyone else should too does it? I have a friend who is 350lb and she is the nicest girl I know she has a beautiful face and is a beautiful person on the inside ... She never has a problem getting male attention and she shouldn't have either! Her ex was 180lbs and in shape and he adored her! If I started a thread about a particular race dating a different race and saying how can people do this and how disgusting it was, would that be bad? Yes ... just like this thread is! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Oh and for the record I would rather date a fatty with a nice face and a nice person than a skinny with an ugly face and an ugly attitude! get over it! Well, same deal, cept you switch it around with yourself. But something can be done about obesity. Your friend she gets attention, but how often does she get guys asking her out?
betamanlet Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 On a DAILY basis, I see FAR more couples where the guy is thin/in shape and the woman is overweight than I see of the reverse. I see much more of this than the reverse.
thegreatmoose Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I think what you are saying is a load of old rubbish! Why shouldnt a skinny man date a fat girl or vise versa? Just because YOU find fat repulsive it does not mean everyone else should too does it? I have a friend who is 350lb and she is the nicest girl I know she has a beautiful face and is a beautiful person on the inside ... She never has a problem getting male attention and she shouldn't have either! Her ex was 180lbs and in shape and he adored her! If I started a thread about a particular race dating a different race and saying how can people do this and how disgusting it was, would that be bad? Yes ... just like this thread is! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Oh and for the record I would rather date a fatty with a nice face and a nice person than a skinny with an ugly face and an ugly attitude! get over it! Excellent post! This whole idea of "dating up" and "dating down" is absurd. Trash to one person is treasure to another.
C-i-C-u Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Gosh so many generalizations. It all depends on the individuals involved. And many times the person is not rich, they just treat each other good. And really many good looking women are lonely women, so when you see an ugly guy with her think instead of that guy having lots of money or a big penis, he is very kind to her. And many women like that especially if they are lonely and the only guys that approach them are players or abusive males.
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