Bradwagner Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 ok, I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months now..and we broke up a day ago..it's a long distance relationship but, we were doing great! everything was great! but we got into a stupid fight over nothing..and poof..so anyways after we broke up I guess her bestfriend for 8 years told her he loved her..an this guy is better looking then me and probly better then me..and I really really like this one..she said she didnt say anything after he told her that..after i got off the phone with her today she said i dont know how to feel..I basicly ****ed up..i was being mean and i sounded like an ass..but, i said its him or me you choose..and yes i told her I still loved her and all that..she didnt say anything..but this guy does things i cant do cause im not there...I love this girl an it would kill me to see her fall for him..how do I get her back?
justforfun Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 You don't. It's only be 5 mnths which although seems an eternity it really is too short a time to have developed a deep and meaningful relationship. With it being a LTR there is so much angst and heartbreak. then soothing and loving. This relationship that she may be developing does indicate that she needs something more solid than a LTR. Your ultimatum makes no sense to me. She has to choose between what? Being friends with someone and possibly developing a happy relationship. Or remaining in a 'relationship' with someone miles away that cannot give her much beyond phone calls, email and online chat. This might be one to just let go and chalk up to experience.
Template Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Let's break it down. 1-you are in LTR 2-I'd gather she has constant interaction with this "best friend" Did you guys have a plan on when you'll be together. LTRs do not work in the long run. Unless she'll make the commitment to come to you, or you go to her, I don't ever see this working out. If this "best friend" of 8 years, had feelings for her, then you are SCREWED. He WILL do and say things to undermine your relationship with her, it's just human nature. Hell, if you read the posts about my ex-gf you'll understand what I mean. I think you've had every right to have her choose, ESPECIALLY, when he devoted his love for her. If was really a TRUE friend, he would understand her decision if she chose you, and be there for her when she needed. Cut this one loose pal. It'll hurt now, but not as much when you break up down the road, and chances are, you will.
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