cas114 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 hey im kinda new in this forum btw... anyway , i was just lookin around and the infidelity sub/forum got my attention. my story > had a Gf for 2 years and one night i met a friends cousin and well , we kissed next day came clean with my gf and she cried ( actually i did too a little .. ) and after about 2 hours of talking we decided the relationship was over and to keep contact with each other.... turns out that 2 months later she was my best friend again ( should have said that before being a couple we were friend for 3 years ) and we still are ... now here is the thing .. why ? why i did it ?......... she asked me the day i told her and my answer was > i dont know i just happened....... she asked me 2 months later and i said > i guess i was not meant to be , you are my best friend ( well, best girl_friend ) but you were not the one.... is so simple look.... if you cheat it doesnt mean that you dont love your gf/bg/wife or h.. it just means that she or he is not the one simple as that , if you have kids sure it may be dificult but just like your kids dont deserve to be collateral damge of your relationship you dont deserve it either and if you get cheated on .. snap out of it look back ion your life with your couple and there will allways be bad moments , something or things that you overlooked ( or didnt want to look at for fear of getting hurt ) the thruth is that fi that person is the one , your soul mate or whatever the hell you wanna call it there wont be bad times ( of course you cant count stupid things like bad times for example my ex gave me the silent treatment a phew times , but is that bad ? .. no! because she was there .. the silent treatment is when your gf just doesnt talk to you or pretends you dont exist but she is there > to cut a long story short the silent treatmen is way for you to see just how miserable your life is without that person ( friend , gf/bf , husband)but she or he is there because she/he cares ...... but this thing i read about > he/she left to his/her mothers to figure things out ... what the hell is that ? the moment your wife or husband decides to go away the bond or whatever that was formed the day that they got married is cut and only the papers are left ... there is no working things out because you cant do anything with something that doesnt exist... can a new relationship be born ? yes of course but thats another thing ..... another thing is , dont thing of anything of the sort as lost years... there is not such a thing. experience is experience it gives you good memories , bad memories , good things and bad things just as every other day /month/year of any singles person life , truth is you can can the only thing you can count as wasted years or time si the time it took you to find your soulmate and even all that is an illusion because that time, those years is what was needed to met her/him
ADF Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 OP, nothing "just happens." I am so sick of young adult who are so passive, who act like they have no control over their actions, who act like nothing is their fault. You chose to do something that any reasonable GF would be offended by. Own up to it. You should regard anything she gives you now as a gift. You're lucky she talks to you at all.
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