She tells my friend she interested in me but not interested in me.

[Yukikazi]

Nothing wrong with slips regarding tits or the possibility of..

[dreamergrl]

Nothing wrong with slips regarding tits or the possibility of..

 

The possibility of only having one tit?

[Yukikazi]

The possibility of only having one tit?

 

You know the saying.. "Half a loaf is better then no bread"

[Lost-n-confused]

Someone mentioned that its a give and take thing. I do agree and "my girl" did make the whole cancer comment telling me to learn to receive and not give so much. Maybe she was hinting maybe she just making conversation but she really seemed to go on about it. Did she mean I need to wait till she sends me an invite? Who knows.

 

We also talked about the pursuit. She made mention that its odd for the girl to initiate with a guy. Girls don't ask guys out. My friend even said she like a guy who take control and tells her what to do. So far that's how Ive acted in referring to I tell her where and when we are going.

 

My mother and Ms Joolie, and two friend are the only ones telling me to be persistent. One friend said take your time give it another month. My mom keeps telling me to call her back or text her saying hey did u get my msg? She also said there is something to be said about persistence My gut says she got the missed call and the voice mail. She knows and in a few hours it will be 24 hours. She works late so If she is going to call it will be around 8-8:30. Its 6ish now.

 

I think we should make a pro/con list of letting this girl go and moving on

 

Well hear is a pro con list not sure if its what ur looking for.

 

Pro List:

1) Every minute we have spent together has been amazing with no awkward moments and great conversation. She has told me that im very funny and is always laughing and smiling.

 

2) We had two amazing dates were we had some physical contact and a lot of great eye contact and were facing each other etc etc.

 

3) We are compatible. We both value the same things in life. Both of us are huge workout and health nutz. We enjoy the same things in terms of movies, music, dance, hobbies. We have the same core believes both of us are agnostic and believe in karma and horoscope which our signs are perfect matches for each other and we have both expressed knowledge of that.

 

4) She asked me questions like "Do you want kids", "Are you religious" and etc. That to me is questions you ask some u may want a relationship with.

 

5) It has been generally easy to get together with her. (Except this phone call she has not responded too)

 

Con List:

1) She did tell me when I first asked her out that she is "not looking for a relationship right now". That was a month ago, so she could have changed her mind.

 

2) My friend told me about a month ago she is still torn up over her ex and cries over him and had been separated for 3 months. This is now 4 months and I don't know how she is feeling as she has never made mention of him beside when I first asked her out and she said she was just getting out of a relationship.

 

3) Shes a very busy girl. Yet I'm a busy guy and she did tell me last Sunday when I invited her to go Jetski which she told me couldn't go 2 days prior that school is ending soon. So to me she is indicating that she wants me to hang tight.

 

4) She hasn't returned my phone call and its been 22+ hours. No really a con the day isn't over.

 

I know I seem to defend her in each of the cons but I really like her.

 

Its not easy it DG like you say. If it was easy then everyone would have someone. How many couples out there start off slow where one wasn't so keen as the other and now they are married and happy. Persistence

 

Its happens all the time.

 

Feel free to make your own pro con of what you see.

[dreamergrl]

Okay OP...

 

I said a pro/con list of moving on - we all know you like the girl and can't let go. But I don't think you're looking at it with open eyes.

 

No one said it was easy. Life isn't easy. Duh. But complaining and making excuses doesn't make it easier. It just prolongs doing something about it.

 

I speak from experience.. so don't whine to me about how hard it is.

[Lost-n-confused]

Pro

 

1) Meet other people

2) Stop sitting around thinking about it.

 

Con

 

1) Loose out on a possible girl that I could have a great relationship with.

2) Loose out because of missed communication, or lack of patients.

 

Really if I meet another girl I'm going to sit around in anguish over her too.

 

I'm currently talking to another girl online who I might be interested in. Just got the email back from her today. Trying to write one now.

 

Don't get me wrong I'm playing the field.

[Lost-n-confused]

She called me. I asked what she was doing Friday. She's not sure what she's doing.. Something about her firend and work and school. I said well do you want to get together? Seeing if she would show interested. She was unsure what she is doing. I said well should I call you tomarrow. She said no I'll call you.

 

It's done. Your all right. Lesson learned. You can't have your cake and eat it to.

[Yukikazi]

Sorry it didn;'t work out dude...

Time to wipe your hands move on and get someone that actually likes you.

[dreamergrl]

It's for the better. You know now. Go date. Be 24 and have fun :bunny:

[Yukikazi]

It's done. Your all right. Lesson learned. You can't have your cake and eat it to.

 

Tis why I prefer pie

[jerseyboy]

Pro

 

1) Meet other people

2) Stop sitting around thinking about it.

 

Con

 

1) Loose out on a possible girl that I could have a great relationship with.

2) Loose out because of missed communication, or lack of patients.

 

Really if I meet another girl I'm going to sit around in anguish over her too.

 

I'm currently talking to another girl online who I might be interested in. Just got the email back from her today. Trying to write one now.

 

Don't get me wrong I'm playing the field.

 

 

Dont take it too hard. This is why smart guys avoid women just out of a relationship. Your friends warned you.

 

And whatever they say , dont ever listen to them. If shes only a few months out, and hasnt dated since then, count on her being a head case, her protests to the contrary.

 

And dude, stop looking for your first love and just go have some fun. Grab some guy friends, go to a club. Probably help if you move out of your parents house.

 

Used to do this with friends when it was late and we were horny. Go to a club, start dancing and messing on girls. If she kisses you int he first 5 minutes, chances are damn good you are getting laid. If not move on,l rinse and repeat. Youll almost never go home alone.

[dreamergrl]

Tis why I prefer pie

 

Really... I just like vanilla ice cream with peanut butter and chocolate syrup.

[jerbear]

I was following this thread, from post #1 to the one before mine and have to say that your view and everyone's views were correct.

 

Joolie cheering you on while you are learning life. There is nothing wrong with trying. You've just learned something new and guess what!? You are one step closer to knowing yourself. You know you want to lose virginity but not just to anyone.

 

DG, Yukikazi, Jerseyboy, and Carhill and many others; offered their points of view which came from experience. Unfortunately this experience requires you to experience it yourself.

 

I have to say many of us was/were/are in your shoes.

[Lost-n-confused]

Got a text 40 mins later "Hey sorry for being a little stand offish on the phone i'm sooo tired".

 

So she is apparenty on the fence and unsure about me. I guess she realized by the tone and words I was testing her and she obvious realized she failed. So she's now dangling a little string in front of the kiity(me) cause she either wants to keep me on the back burner or liked the attention.

 

Final thoughts, opinions, actions? Should I text her tomarrow saying call me when your interested? N just move on obviously.

[thegreatmoose]

I have to say many of us was/were/are in your shoes.

Very few people are as inexpereinced as him at 24. I think he said that he hasn't yet kissed a woman or maybe something close.

 

I don't think there are many who have a lot of experience at his age or who are naturally good at attracting the opposite sex that can fully understand what he is going through.

[dreamergrl]

Got a text 40 mins later "Hey sorry for being a little stand offish on the phone i'm sooo tired".

 

So she is apparenty on the fence and unsure about me. I guess she realized by the tone and words I was testing her and she obvious realized she failed. So she's now dangling a little string in front of the kiity(me) cause she either wants to keep me on the back burner or liked the attention.

 

Final thoughts, opinions, actions? Should I text her tomarrow saying call me when your interested? N just move on obviously.

 

Please don't. You only just now have her attention. Why? Because of all the game playing. Do you want someone real or do you want someone who wants you because of the back and forth bull crap?

[dreamergrl]

Very few people are as inexpereinced as him at 24. I think he said that he hasn't yet kissed a woman or maybe something close.

 

I don't think there are many who have a lot of experience at his age or who are naturally good at attracting the opposite sex that can fully understand what he is going through.

 

That doesn't mean we weren't any better off or worse.

 

At 24 I was coming off of a break up that made me feel like I was right where OP is now. At that point, I'd rather have been in OP's shoes. Even still, looking back.. I'd rather be where he is now - at that point.

 

And regardless of the who when where why and how... I think we all know what it is to want and crave something, but not be able to achieve it. That is life.

[jerseyboy]

Text

 

"No worries, knew you had a full plate when I first started talking to you, but was intrigued. If things lighten up, message me if you'd like to hang out."

[CeeL]

Should I text her tomarrow saying call me when your interested?

 

Nope. She said she'd call you. You gave your best shot at this point, no need to be pushy or passive-aggressive. If she does call and you want to invite her over, do that; you'll probably have a great evening (though you might want to dial back the candles and violins after all).

 

But if you're already busy (or by then prefer to be "busy"), well, too bad, can't be helped -- the folks saying "don't wait, pining away at the phone" are right, there.

[TheWooWooKid]

So she's now dangling a little string in front of the kiity(me) cause she either wants to keep me on the back burner or liked the attention.

 

Should I text her tomarrow saying call me when your interested?

 

Why would you do that? You would just be confirming in her mind that she can keep you on the back burner.

[jerseyboy]

Dude jerseyboy why are you even on the boards? lol You seem like you know what the hell you are doing. Just here to help us guys who suck at this huh?

 

 

LOL

 

My fiancee is reading the thread over my shoulder, laughing her azz off at how "smooth" I think I am.

 

Says the reason girls liked me is because I looked just like Jake from 16 Candles. They just wanted me to shut up and say "You let me keep these, Ill let you take Caroline home"

[jerbear]

Final thoughts, opinions, actions? Should I text her tomarrow saying call me when your interested? N just move on obviously.

 

Don't text her. She'll call you when you don't text or call her. Have her sweat a little.

 

If she calls, just be direct, decisive, and say you were busy and then ask her what is up? When she gets upset, just tell her that you were doing most of the leg work and realize that she has an low interest in you. There is no reason for you to waste your time.

 

You would draw a boundary and this may help you grow emotionally. You might lose her but you had an hunch anyway. She might respect you and you might even get laid in a week. Who knows?

[thegreatmoose]

That doesn't mean we weren't any better off or worse.

 

At 24 I was coming off of a break up that made me feel like I was right where OP is now. At that point, I'd rather have been in OP's shoes. Even still, looking back.. I'd rather be where he is now - at that point.

 

And regardless of the who when where why and how... I think we all know what it is to want and crave something, but not be able to achieve it. That is life.

It's not any better or any worse. It's just different experiences.

 

How do you know you would have rather been in the OPs shoes? I'm not saying you wouldn't want to be, but you've never been there. A lot of women are going to flat out reject him becuase of his inexperience, which can start a vicious cycle of even more inexperience. Also, he has to work very hard at dating, while many people can easily get into relationships. He has a lot of advantages too that he's posted about in his threads.

 

That said, sure we are all similar in many ways. We all (with almost no exceptions) crave love. We have all tried to achieve something and failed. It's just that we each have our own strengths and weaknesses. Hopefully the OP can turn some of these weaknesses into strengths.

[jerbear]

Very few people are as inexpereinced as him at 24. I think he said that he hasn't yet kissed a woman or maybe something close.

 

I don't think there are many who have a lot of experience at his age or who are naturally good at attracting the opposite sex that can fully understand what he is going through.

 

It is not the age it was the situation he was in. Some just move on quicker and figured it out while others, example is me; pinned for someone for months while losing opportunities, plural.

[Yukikazi]

do NOT respond.. her txt requires no response.. there was no question.. just her stating an explanation/excuse. The situation hasn't changed until or if she steps up and 180's.