floods88 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 this is the first time i've felt anger and hate in a big way. it feels kind of good... a nice change from depression/sadness. has anybody else been through/going through this phase? is it an improvement?
Ronni_W Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 If you use your anger to motivate you to do something improved over however you have been doing, then it is DEFINITELY an improvement, yes All (political) revolutions started when enough repressed individuals got too angry to just keep taking the crap anymore. If you're sick and tired of just feeling depressed and stuck then yeah...mount your own (internal) revolution and overpower those repressive and depressive thoughts and memories!!! Get SO pissed off that you just decide to go and do something fun and inspirational...is my suggestion
rp123 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 this is the first time i've felt anger and hate in a big way. it feels kind of good... a nice change from depression/sadness. has anybody else been through/going through this phase? is it an improvement? Of course we have... Anger is such a welcome feeling when it first shows up. Be prepared though, it'll slip away just as quick as it came. Thats the thing with heartbreak, the emotions come in waves and change all the time. Its so frustrating. At times you convince yourself that your emotions have settled on a particular feeling, only to be thrown into turmiol again. Just strap yourself in and get ready for the emotional ride of your life.......!
AliveAndKicking Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Of course we have... Anger is such a welcome feeling when it first shows up. Be prepared though, it'll slip away just as quick as it came. Thats the thing with heartbreak, the emotions come in waves and change all the time. Its so frustrating. At times you convince yourself that your emotions have settled on a particular feeling, only to be thrown into turmiol again. Just strap yourself in and get ready for the emotional ride of your life.......! Spot-on! It comes and goes. Anger can be power if it does not consume you- use it to your advantage. Take comfort in knowing that you ARE working your way through this with each change from one stage to the next. And no- they don't always go in order- they can come and go at random. Just keep your hands and feet inside the car at all times cuz as rp123 just said: It's gonna be one hell of a ride! You'll be okay. Ride the waves and before too long they will be ripples. After that it's smoooooooth sailing!
Ultiman Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Im in the same area. Sometimes i want to light her up with an AK-47 sometimes I want her to come back to me and sometimes i want her to come back and me kick her to the curb.
twinklecat Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 this is the first time i've felt anger and hate in a big way. it feels kind of good... a nice change from depression/sadness. has anybody else been through/going through this phase? is it an improvement? Hey Floods This sounds like me a few days ago, I was just SO angry! I'm still angry but not as much cycling through upset/sadness/anger atm, I must say it is one crazy ride. I've been through breakups before, but none compare to this. It is totally normal, and you can go to and fro different feelings, but it will get better
teanoranges Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Yes! Definitely comes in waves.. a longing feeling makes you want to shower them with love, anger makes you want to strangle them and swear at them, then there's the numbness where you seriously want nothing to do with them because they are too much drama!
Author floods88 Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 the anger has died and i miss him more than anything this hurts so f***ing much i cant be bothered with anything anymore. i just want to be close to him. thats it.
Thebob Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 this is the first time i've felt anger and hate in a big way. it feels kind of good... a nice change from depression/sadness. has anybody else been through/going through this phase? is it an improvement? I definitely got it when my ex started to date someone who she made fun of on a consistent basis when she was with me. I lost all dignity for her cause the guy she is fu*kin is ugly and everyone that has seen him laughs cause of how bad looking he is. Thebob
deux ex machina Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 the anger has died and i miss him more than anything this hurts so f***ing much i cant be bothered with anything anymore. i just want to be close to him. thats it. It does come and go, like others said. Just try to prepare yourself for the down times when you get fired up. You can see the cycle now, and that's a great advantage. So, use that advantage. The waves will come and go; it'll get less and less dramatic over time (with a few unexpected things in there, no doubt)...but all and all...you are healing and it will get better. It really will.
GrayClouds Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 (edited) It does come and go, like others said. Just try to prepare yourself for the down times when you get fired up. You can see the cycle now, and that's a great advantage. So, use that advantage. The waves will come and go; it'll get less and less dramatic over time (with a few unexpected things in there, no doubt)...but all and all...you are healing and it will get better. It really will. good post... Man is a credulous animal, and must believe something; in the absence of good grounds for belief, he will be satisfied with bad ones. and great signature line. Edited November 15, 2009 by GrayClouds
deux ex machina Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 good post... Why thank you. and great signature line. As much as I would love to take credit for that, I can't. It's Bertrand Russell, one insightful out-of the-box thinker. He is quote-worthy, there are lot of places to find quotes of his on the internet. ---------- floods88, please take care. When you're on top of the waves, prepare for those down times. Keep your balance on those waves!
angelface78 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I am currently in this stage of the healing process. I am so angry i have fantasies of doing something bad...like scratching his car. This is totally out of character for me. It comes and goes. I guess it means we are healing. I cant wait till we get off this rollercoaster someday!!!
sean1970 Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Keep your balance on those waves! Many of us here have become excellent surfers from the experience...
HeavenOrHell Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 I feel anger and love all rolled up in one, never hate though.
nobleguy Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I feel anger and love all rolled up in one, never hate though. Not nice is it? I have to admit I've also stopped short of hate, but sometimes I've imagined awful things like how I would feel if police came round to tell me she had died in car accident or something. I'm ashamed to say I concluded that I would be relieved...
deux ex machina Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Many of us here have become excellent surfers from the experience... I hear you. ---------- I don't think I could muster up, much less sustain hate...hate is such a strong word. Just a bit angry sometimes. I look at it as purification. Something to work through and get on the other side of.
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