gamer Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 hi there..so heres the story..i went out with my ex 2 days ago(she dumped me) and everything went ok i think..watched movie,had lunch,talked..we did everything like when we were together other than holding hands and kissing..she even said "my dear" once(no idea if it just slipped out)..now im confused on whats the next step to take..your advice would be greatly appreciated.. -for my full story u can check my other thread
name witheld Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 Take it she dumped you before date and afterwards, lol. otherwise short story. I dunno mate sounds like you are pussywipped. Clinging on to words and ****. Honestly I respect you, I don't know how you can go crawling back for an emotional beating. I have the opposite problem, I just wish for one day that I was in your shoes. honestly. you should 100% do NC. so much easier if you have shown too much attention, just back off. I'm on a ****in tightrope mate. wish i was pussywipped, really narrows down the options. What i inttended to say was try and get another date. Don't be a gentleman, that will stir her up. ok so yopu might not get her back but at least you will (probably - depending on your stones) get a ride.
Author gamer Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 Take it she dumped you before date and afterwards, lol. otherwise short story. I dunno mate sounds like you are pussywipped. Clinging on to words and ****. Honestly I respect you, I don't know how you can go crawling back for an emotional beating. I have the opposite problem, I just wish for one day that I was in your shoes. honestly. you should 100% do NC. so much easier if you have shown too much attention, just back off. I'm on a ****in tightrope mate. wish i was pussywipped, really narrows down the options. What i intended to say was try and get another date. Don't be a gentleman, that will stir her up. ok so yopu might not get her back but at least you will (probably - depending on your stones) get a ride. thanks for the reply..but i think u misintepreted what i said..i meant we broke up last month and this was our first time going out together since the breakup..ive never contacted her since the date as im not sure what to do..thanks
Author gamer Posted November 15, 2009 Author Posted November 15, 2009 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t206397/ this is my other thread
HeavenOrHell Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 It's not a good idea to go out with someone else to make your ex jealous, how is it fair on the new person? Sorry if that's not what you meant and I got that wrong. Take it she dumped you before date and afterwards, lol. otherwise short story. I dunno mate sounds like you are pussywipped. Clinging on to words and ****. Honestly I respect you, I don't know how you can go crawling back for an emotional beating. I have the opposite problem, I just wish for one day that I was in your shoes. honestly. you should 100% do NC. so much easier if you have shown too much attention, just back off. I'm on a ****in tightrope mate. wish i was pussywipped, really narrows down the options. What i inttended to say was try and get another date. Don't be a gentleman, that will stir her up. ok so yopu might not get her back but at least you will (probably - depending on your stones) get a ride.
mmk1 Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I have been in your shoes and it is nowhere. As many other wiser people have said on this very site before me, unless she has indicated some desire to get back together, your date is all it will ever be. If you're fine with this, go right ahead but do not be surprised or disappointed when it does not progress back to your former relationship, because it will not. My approach now is upfront: tell her how you feel and that you would like to work on getting back together. Right there, you will get your response. Some will say this is the wrong approach but it provides you right now with the information on how she feels and whether you're wasting your time, which is likely the case. If she says no, then you have all the info you need to move on. Hope this helps.
j_cali_man Posted November 19, 2009 Posted November 19, 2009 MMK1 is right, Did the date thing and even had hand holding and some kissing too just 10 days after the split (she broke it off). 3 year relationship. Anyhow, days later it was the same cold shoulder, no email reply type stuff. I am not having it. So, after failing at NC it's in full effect. My heart can't handle pretending. You gotta be super tough to take the emotional beating of pretending and breadcrumbs. Sigh... J
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