accemoidua Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Well, after deciding to dump my ex who is a text book narcissist, a liar, serial cheater, and manipulator, i blocked his texts, emails, etc. I was doing good for two weeks, and then i got weak. He still has my laptop and he still owes me some money, so i took that opportunity to unblock him via email and text. I decided to send him a text that said "Do you have any intentions on returning my laptop." He then went into this whole spiel about how i'm worried about a laptop instead of our future. Started talking about marrying me and having kids. Next thing i know hes at my house, and we're talking about taking a few days to think about our future. Next thing u know we're making a good/bad list (his idea) and meeting back at my house on Wednesday. Sooo, we meet back at my house and his lying cheating a** turns it around and says he wants to be with me, but we need work first? Says that we'll go to therapy for a while and then try?!? But he wanted us to do things as a couple, but still wanted to be single?!? I couldn't be more hurt. He insisted that we wouldn't see other people. I Told him that if i'm not good enough to commit to then i don't want anything to do with him. Then he gave me this guilt trip about not wanting to be friends after the breakup and how he needs closure? and someone to talk to? What about the ex he kept around and sleeping with the entire time? Talk to her? So now i'm back at square one and the worst part of all is that i haven't even cut him out of my life yet. I'm still replying to his text, but short answers. I just wish he'd leave me alone. He's so heartless... :-(
teanoranges Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Don't worry, it takes time! Just keep trying to stop talking and really tell yourself its over! (Get your laptop back and anything else asap, then you have no reason to talk) You can do it! Keep yourself occupied and don't think back!
Author accemoidua Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 Thanks Tea, i could really use the encouragement. Not feeling good, but not sure what i was expecting dealing with a serial cheater. He'll never change. Hurts...
teanoranges Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 They never do change! Which is fine. Its realizing that we should be with someone we don't want to change, or that changes in a good way along with us! Take it as a learning experience. just cause you slipped up doesn't mean you're doomed. You're already learning from it! All the past relationships teach us what we really want and need in the future. Or at least that's what I think.. Best of wishes go out to you!
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