floods88 Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 i feel that as long as theres that hope in my mind that he will realize what hes done and want me back, i cant get past this. the thing is, i cant do it. i cant stop myself from thinking that we will get back together. it seems as though his actions are keeping me from knowing that its totally over, even though im probably reading too much into everything urgh how do i stop myself thinking this way?
Lamak Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 it seems as though his actions are keeping me from knowing that its totally over, even though im probably reading too much into everything But they aren't. Although you may want to break his head open with your shoe for what he has done, that wouldn't change the fact that it happened. You have to realize that closure comes from within and the best way to get revenge on him is to let it go. Moving on and accepting that it is over (once and for all) will put those feelings of reconciliation to the side.
USMCHokie Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 If there was a definitive answer to your question, I don't think we'd even need this forum...it really depends on the person...a lot of people will probably suggest that you distract your mind with other things...going out with friends, working out, outdoor activities, etc...but i'm sure you're like me and your mind can "multi-task"...so even if you're staying active and doing things, your mind will still find a way to focus on that hope even while you're doing those things... For me personally, I've just let that hope linger in my mind and allow time to do its magic...the hope is slowly fading away as I've accepted that she won't come back... But different strokes for different folks...you may find that you can tune out those thoughts by keeping yourself busy with other things...
nobleguy Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 For me personally, I've just let that hope linger in my mind and allow time to do its magic...the hope is slowly fading away as I've accepted that she won't come back... I think that is the answer. I find that I'm (almost) happy doing something to keep my mind off it, then a feeling just randomly comes over me to remind me of her and my mood suddenly dives off a cliff....
teanoranges Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Same here with the hope. I'm a daydreamer, so I'll find myself daydreaming about him thinking about me right now, missing me, and loving me. Then I realize he probably does miss me, but like a sister, and that won't last too long. He'll forget me faster than I forget him. And I also realize, he's holding someone else, kissing her, she's making his days so awesome. He can't wait to be around her. I get sad but I'm pushing on.. cutting off the thoughts as they arise (which means I'm cutting off a thought every 20 mins, lol) This forum has really helped. I really don't even want to be friends with him.
Author floods88 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 thanks for your comments guys... i guess i'll just have to wait it out. he made contact last night and, stupidly, i took it upon myself to ask him why he was doing it. he was drunk, and he kept saying that he was happy and this is what he wanted. i asked him why hes displaying destructive behaviour and how can he be happy that way... and he didnt have an answer he just said "dunno" i asked him wether he missed me and he just said "im going to bed" and that was it. why is he doing this to me? after 3 years? if this was really what he wanted, dont i deserve more than to be treated like this after everything that we built together? why cant he do it in a nice way, where hes not treating me like i was a girl that was in his life for a week?
caramel c Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 thanks for your comments guys... i guess i'll just have to wait it out. he made contact last night and, stupidly, i took it upon myself to ask him why he was doing it. he was drunk, and he kept saying that he was happy and this is what he wanted. i asked him why hes displaying destructive behaviour and how can he be happy that way... and he didnt have an answer he just said "dunno" i asked him wether he missed me and he just said "im going to bed" and that was it. why is he doing this to me? after 3 years? if this was really what he wanted, dont i deserve more than to be treated like this after everything that we built together? why cant he do it in a nice way, where hes not treating me like i was a girl that was in his life for a week? Stop answering the phone.
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