Nikki Sahagin Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 I am seeing my ex in 2 days time. My anxiety has become so extreme that I have only managed to drag myself into school once in the past 2 weeks because I get nervous even leaving my house. The anxiety is a pain in my stomach, head and throat. I feel dizzy and sick, can't eat, can hardly breathe. I just want to collapse and throw up. I don't want to NOT go because it is a friends birthday and I don't want to let this beat me but part of me thinks is it worth this intense anxiety which feels like torture? I know if I go I will be turning a corner, i'm just SO frightened and scared. I feel like its walking into a nightmare or a trap. I don't know how to calm myself down. I was thinking of getting medication from my doctors but there isn't time now and I have no idea how to cope with this crazy anxiety. Does anyone have any tips?
brock9911 Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 i have bad anxiety and it is really hard to cope when you have a really bad attack. my best way of coping is talking to as many people as possible to get reassurance that everything is going to be ok. the more people tell me this, the more i start to believe it. its not a fun experience and i understand and feel your pain. also, get fresh air, breath, take a hot bath. run, exercise. anything to keep you mind motivated and busy. when you exercise it releases serotonine, the chemical that helps you cope with anxiety and depression. it may not make it go away, but it should calm you down. and if its that bad i would try to get a doctors appointment, its not to late. and your primary doctor can perscribe something to take the edge off. i personally like and prefer colonzepam, also know as klonopin. not addicting and it doesnt make me a zombie like xanex good luck, calm down and breath. it will pass and when it does you'll see its silly
AliveAndKicking Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 Hon- First here's a *hug*... More importantly, though, is the fact that the anxiety is causing major problems inyour life- missing, school, etc. That is serious! Don't *think* about seeing your doctor- DO IT! Don't just get a 'scrpt for some meds- get in and speak to a therapist. When our depression and/or anxiety gets to the point to where we can not function it is time to get some assistance from a pro. I never thought I'd need some help but I finally got into therapy and it is the best thing I could have done. I should have done it, in fact, a LONG time ago! Please take good care of yourself- no one should suffer as you are. I'm off to work but I'll check up on you this evening. One for the road---> *hug*
sean1970 Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 I am seeing my ex in 2 days time. Why, for what reason?
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 Why, for what reason? Its a mutual friends birthday party. Its at a venue and there's about 100 people going so it won't literally be me, him and 5 others. I know there is the option to not go but to me thats letting my ex rule my life. We haven't seen each other in 6 months approx and haven't spoken in about a month hence the anxiety. I have no idea what to expect at all.
Ilovecake Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 As I have mentioned on here before I have been dealing with severe anxiety on and off for 20 years. Unfortunately it sounds to me like you’re at a point where it is crucial that you get medication. The whole thing about treating anxiety is to go into situations that frighten you and facing them so that the anxiety diminishes every time you face that situation. Sounds though like you have yourself so worked up at this point that you need a little help to start facing those situations, the only help at this point is medication and therapy which takes time. Will you be going with someone or alone? One thing that helped me a little tiny bit was a book called the Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. It has these positive affirmations that I just wrote over and over in a note book. I had a really hard time with riding the train which I did twice a day to and from work. Long story short but right around my breakup I got trapped in a tunnel for two hours so I developed this terrible train phobia and had no way of getting out of rididng the train. When I was feeling an attack coming on I just whipped the notebook out and read the affirmations over and over or rewrote them to get my mind off the fear. That's the main thing get your mind off of the fear thoughts. Also I think if this friend who is having a birthday is as close and as important as you are describing, she/he would understand if you didn’t go to the party because you were not ready to deal with seeing your ex. They’ll be other parties. the link below has the affirmations I was talking about: http://books.google.com/books?id=Cobbd_XjZrYC&pg=PA430&lpg=PA430&dq=anxiety+and+phobia+affirmations&source=bl&ots=_SKD7dBdp9&sig=mAFMHR4_ld90Gbyghoxi98K4chU&hl=en&ei=7739Sv-ZGtWsngerwOSVCw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=1&ved=0CAgQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=anxiety%20and%20phobia%20affirmations&f=false Whatever you decide to do I wish you the best of luck and lots of strength.
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