darkgold Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I'm at a point in my life where I know I need to change. What I don't understabd is why I have been attracting the following : 1. My first passive aggressive ex tried to lock me in the kitchen in front of his best mate. In another emotional episode he left me crying so badly while he breezed around the house like he had his headphones on until a neighbour had to stick his head thru the window and ask what the hell was going on. 2. Ok, these aren't officially exes but one guy I particularly liked told the whole workplave that I had a crush on him. Yup it showed but he didn't have to tell the whole effing place did he? I had to leave because it got so bad, I was ignoring him and that made it so obvious. Subsequently 5 years down the line the same thing happens again! Except this time I piped up the courage to talk to the fella-I was cordial with him though. He left. He talks to mutual friends but not me. 3. Both my current exes are quite similiar - they hardly ever had the time to see me. The one before was slightly better, he was either too lazy or too busy. The last one kept on painting sweet pictures of moving closer to where I lived, having a stable future and going on holidays, then would turn around and say 'well I didn't say I'd have it with you'. Both insist that there is nothing wrong with them. They know what makes me tick. Me? I'm a simple person-not your average girl. I like the clean and quiet life, nothing too much in the fast lane. I like boyish stuff like computer games, movies but girly stuff too like cultured history and reading. I can be quite reclusive, I would love to go out but never have found the right crowd to hang out with-I don't do so good in crowds, is that a bad thing? Usually with my partners, admitedly I mother them. If they're in the area I would tell them to drop by at my place and rest. I'd provide the little things they would forget like toileteries and stuff (not immedietly!) and cherish all the time I spend with them. Is this what chases people away? Just by trying to make things more convinient for them? All I really want is someone to chill out in quiet places with, I may be loud mouthed on the exterior but everyone knows that I don't ask for much-just the TIME. I am defo not high maintenance nor do I intend to be. I am no footballers wife-is this what every guy wants now? If so I may aswell stay single! Why do I keep attracting these people? I know I'm not a bad person, not perfect but I don't ask for much-why is it so difficult for men to prioritise me compared to some materialistic chick who insists he pays for her expensive dinner and Jimmy Choos? And yes, so far I am happy with my looks
hollister Posted November 15, 2009 Posted November 15, 2009 I'm at a point in my life where I know I need to change. What I don't understabd is why I have been attracting the following : 1. My first passive aggressive ex tried to lock me in the kitchen in front of his best mate. In another emotional episode he left me crying so badly while he breezed around the house like he had his headphones on until a neighbour had to stick his head thru the window and ask what the hell was going on. 2. Ok, these aren't officially exes but one guy I particularly liked told the whole workplave that I had a crush on him. Yup it showed but he didn't have to tell the whole effing place did he? I had to leave because it got so bad, I was ignoring him and that made it so obvious. Subsequently 5 years down the line the same thing happens again! Except this time I piped up the courage to talk to the fella-I was cordial with him though. He left. He talks to mutual friends but not me. 3. Both my current exes are quite similiar - they hardly ever had the time to see me. The one before was slightly better, he was either too lazy or too busy. The last one kept on painting sweet pictures of moving closer to where I lived, having a stable future and going on holidays, then would turn around and say 'well I didn't say I'd have it with you'. Both insist that there is nothing wrong with them. They know what makes me tick. Me? I'm a simple person-not your average girl. I like the clean and quiet life, nothing too much in the fast lane. I like boyish stuff like computer games, movies but girly stuff too like cultured history and reading. I can be quite reclusive, I would love to go out but never have found the right crowd to hang out with-I don't do so good in crowds, is that a bad thing? Usually with my partners, admitedly I mother them. If they're in the area I would tell them to drop by at my place and rest. I'd provide the little things they would forget like toileteries and stuff (not immedietly!) and cherish all the time I spend with them. Is this what chases people away? Just by trying to make things more convinient for them? All I really want is someone to chill out in quiet places with, I may be loud mouthed on the exterior but everyone knows that I don't ask for much-just the TIME. I am defo not high maintenance nor do I intend to be. I am no footballers wife-is this what every guy wants now? If so I may aswell stay single! Why do I keep attracting these people? I know I'm not a bad person, not perfect but I don't ask for much-why is it so difficult for men to prioritise me compared to some materialistic chick who insists he pays for her expensive dinner and Jimmy Choos? And yes, so far I am happy with my looks "Is this what chases people away? Just by trying to make things more convinient for them?" YES! guys get bored if u make things too easy for them. Trust me, i know...I've learned the hard way...
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