BearMox Posted December 7, 2009 Posted December 7, 2009 an update from me. After my wife almost filed I told her I would move out to spare my children the divorce, or at least put it off. I caught her in a small lie about the OM a couple days before the weekend I was going to move out. I found out she had a full EA and kicked her out of the house friday. (She had this affair the weekend before we went to a church couples conference and had contact with the OM at the church conference) She moved back in on sunday despite me asking her to stay away for the weekend and I took my kids to my parents for a night and then moved back to the family home Sunday. I'm a Christian and despite telling her I would file, I felt that God made it clear to me to give my wife a path to reconcile. When she confessed that she had cheated on me I told her I'll give her a chance. I gave her two requests: I asked her to quit her job or change her schedule to days and meet with a mentor weekly. if she wasn't willing to do that then please stop wasting my and my children's time and file. She filed the next day (today).
Author seanocasey Posted December 8, 2009 Author Posted December 8, 2009 I am sorry to hear this bad news. My situation is getting worse as well. We are not really speaking at this point and I am pretty sure that my wife continues her affair. I rode by the house early Monday morning after dropping the kids off at school and she was not to be seen. She gave me some lame excuse and I know better. Individual therapy is helping me get my head screwed on straight. I am beginning to view a path towards peace from all the pain. I would highly recommend speaking to someone if you are not already. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths. Proverbs 3, 5-6
Chrome Barracuda Posted December 8, 2009 Posted December 8, 2009 Sorry to hear that bear mox, you'll get through it. And sean, you just need to file and get custody, wipe your hands clean of her, she cannot recommit while she's in the affair but why should you have to suffer if she's messing around? forget about her.
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