rickigal Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) I was married for 5 years. I was separated last July and have been officially divorced since May. R came into my life in June and I thought he was the real love of my life. We talked about being serious and having a future together. I was a regular at his family events and we even met each other's children. He always told me how he bragged about me to his friends. We saw each other every day we were free. Anyway, I lost a lot of my friends that I had during the marriage. My sister and brother moved to NC, my best friends live in another state... I put all of my eggs into my boyfriend's basket and didn't make any new friends that weren't men who were interested in me romantically. Then he shattered my world. I felt like I had no support. I didn't have friends to hang out with and no one to talk to. I am an alcoholic and I stopped going to AA (not because of R, but for another reason. So I decided to go back. Since then I have made so many friends, we go to lunch, our kids do things together, we hang out at night, we talk on the phone. They get me like no non-alcoholic could ever. R is an alcoholic too and I relied on him a lot to talk with about what was going on in my sick alcoholic mind. I feel free, like I have a purpose and I am healing much more quickly than if I moped around at home. I go to a meeting every day and I feel great! So I guess what I'm trying to say is get out of the house, meet your friends, do things, keep yourself busy. Join a club, volunteer, do whatever you like to do. You WILL start feeling better. It will help you heal, you will feel like a person besides relying on someone else to make you happy. Edited November 12, 2009 by rickigal
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