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Gypsies?;)

Under 17, no clauses..Either parent's decision, (let's face it, if it's being considered, kid's a major pain in the ass...)

Paranoid schizophrenic(but I wouldn't tell him wen he's in the parnoid state:eek:)

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Wow. Such prejudice in this forum especially against bipolars, vegatarians, and feminists. Some people here clearly don't know what these certain things are.

 

Or how to spell them. As long as she's not a bipolar feminist vegetarian I'm OK with it.

 

Seriously, mental health issues, yes, add that to my list of deal breakers. Also, taking medication of any sort chronically. Deal broken. If they are a non militant vegetarian that's cool, but I don't want a bunch of flak if I decide the salmon looks delicious. Feminists ... well depends on what we mean by feminist, but probably we wouldn't get along. I'd be willing to try though.

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what do you define as poor, and why is that a dealbreaker?

 

Poor-no money in bank, no job, no home, can barely eat three square meals, don't have a car, etc.etc...

 

I am in my 30s and I am financially independent. I don't think I have the patience to "nurse" a man to be his own person. Nor would I have anything in common with him. I think most people wouldn't marry anyone that destitute...

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drug use

bad hygeine

unable to support himself financially

no sense of humor

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LOL..civ you're funny...:D

 

Well true, but we've established looks are not the only thing that matters. ;)

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Littering

 

Talks about exs constantly

 

checks out girls/calls other girls hot

 

has to always be right

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imperfect value system

 

ungenerous spirit

 

not sexually attracted to me

Posted

Drug use

Controlling personality

Vegetarian

Smoker

Bad hygiene

Clingy

Uses "text speak" even when texting. Please no lol, rofl, u instead of you, etc.

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Or how to spell them. As long as she's not a bipolar feminist vegetarian I'm OK with it.

 

Seriously, mental health issues, yes, add that to my list of deal breakers. Also, taking medication of any sort chronically. Deal broken. If they are a non militant vegetarian that's cool, but I don't want a bunch of flak if I decide the salmon looks delicious. Feminists ... well depends on what we mean by feminist, but probably we wouldn't get along. I'd be willing to try though.

 

I'm a bipolar feminist vegetarian, and again, I daresay I'm not some horrible creature to be avoided. My dates can eat whatever they want. It's not my business! And I don't get why all the ire towards feminists. Why does thinking women are equal to men constitute a dealbreaker? Would you really not get along with someone who believes that?

 

Also, why on earth would taking a medication regularly be a dealbreaker for you? That one especially confounds me! Does that mean you'd rather be with someone who doesn't treat a medical condition that could be easily controlled?

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drug use

bad hygeine

unable to support himself financially

no sense of humor

 

Are there actually single people out there that have no sense of humor???

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I'm a bipolar feminist vegetarian, and again, I daresay I'm not some horrible creature to be avoided. My dates can eat whatever they want. It's not my business! And I don't get why all the ire towards feminists. Why does thinking women are equal to men constitute a dealbreaker? Would you really not get along with someone who believes that?

 

As a fellow vegetarian feminist, I don't worry too much about it. They're the ones missing out. (Though I saw the word "equalist" used on LS awhile back, and I prefer that instead of feminist. Even though feminism is about being equal, the term has been given negative connotations by nutters who use "I'm a feminist" as an excuse to act like total jerks and stomp on men, because they hate them, not because they want equal treatment.)

 

When people think of vegetarians and feminists, I think they're imagining one or more of the following:

- totally butch, lumberjack looking

- smelly, unshaved, hippy

- b*tchy, nagging, emasculating loud mouths. (The kind who throw paint, smack burgers out of people's hands, and shriek, "Don't open the door for me! I'm capable of doing it myself!")

 

I doubt many of these guys listing "vegetarian" as a deal breaker would turn down Natalie Portman if she were looking for a date.

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I'm a bipolar feminist vegetarian, and again, I daresay I'm not some horrible creature to be avoided. My dates can eat whatever they want. It's not my business! And I don't get why all the ire towards feminists. Why does thinking women are equal to men constitute a dealbreaker? Would you really not get along with someone who believes that?

 

Also, why on earth would taking a medication regularly be a dealbreaker for you? That one especially confounds me! Does that mean you'd rather be with someone who doesn't treat a medical condition that could be easily controlled?

 

As I said, it depends what we mean by feminist. Will you be offended when I get the door for you, do you think that the term policewoman is demeaning? I'd try to avoid the rare steak, but I might sometimes want a little meat; is that OK? Yes, it's great you are taking appropriate meds, but that's a big sign that you have emotional issues and life is too short for me to deal with serious mental issues if I can avoid them.

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As I said, it depends what we mean by feminist. Will you be offended when I get the door for you, do you think that the term policewoman is demeaning? I'd try to avoid the rare steak, but I might sometimes want a little meat; is that OK? Yes, it's great you are taking appropriate meds, but that's a big sign that you have emotional issues and life is too short for me to deal with serious mental issues if I can avoid them.

 

If you open the door for me, I'll be flattered and think you're a gentleman. No, I don't think "policewoman" is demeaning, although I think "police officer" is better. Of course it's okay if you want meat; like I said, what you eat is your business. As such, I'd be baffled if you found what I ate to be a dealbreaker simply because it *didn't* include meat.

 

I ask you: who on earth DOESN'T have emotional issues?! We've all got SOMETHING. I'll freely admit I have mine! That's why I spent two years in intensive therapy, to try to get them sorted out. As such, I regularly hear, "You're one of the sanest people I've ever met." Are you 100% free of any emotional issues, ever, simply because you don't meet diagnostic criteria for a mental illness? Are people who aren't bipolar always completely and totally emotionally stable, and it's only those of us with the disorder whose emotions ever get the best of them?

 

If someone's not dealing with his or her "mental issues," by all means s/he should be avoided. But if s/he is, and is working hard every day to be self-actualized, kind to others, and responsible for taking care of those issues, I honestly think that's to be commended. Being bipolar has made me work even harder to figure out how to get by in the world and get along with others, and I think it would be kind of sad if someone dismissed that effort simply because I meet the diagnostic criteria for the disorder. There's a whole world out there that is anything but black and white, and a fascinating spectrum of ways in which a brain can work. You shouldn't have to "deal with [my] serious mental issues" -- that is entirely my job, and I take full responsibility for it.

 

And yeah, guys, Natalie Portman and Alicia Silverstone are vegan -- does that mean you wouldn't date them if they asked you out?

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And yeah, guys, Natalie Portman and Alicia Silverstone are vegan -- does that mean you wouldn't date them if they asked you out?

 

I'd my fair share of Natalie Portmans and Alicia Silverstones. And yeah, I wouldn't date them if I know they have issues/into something that I wouldn't like.

 

Anyway sedgwick? Do you have a crush on clv or something? Why do you insist on trying to change his mindset and accept something he doesn't like? Why can't you accept that yeah, it's his preference, such a closeminded person and move on. I'm sure there'll be some good men that likes a vegan bipor feminists out there.

 

Anyway, I better stay out of this. :p

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If you open the door for me, I'll be flattered and think you're a gentleman. No, I don't think "policewoman" is demeaning, although I think "police officer" is better. Of course it's okay if you want meat; like I said, what you eat is your business. As such, I'd be baffled if you found what I ate to be a dealbreaker simply because it *didn't* include meat.

 

I ask you: who on earth DOESN'T have emotional issues?!

 

....

 

And yeah, guys, Natalie Portman and Alicia Silverstone are vegan -- does that mean you wouldn't date them if they asked you out?

 

I'm just afraid of the problems your illness can bring, I'm sorry. As for Ms Portman, she's a hottie and while I understand and agree with the health benefits of a meat free or vastly meat reduced diet vegans are too militant for me to live around.

 

If I were single I'd go out to dinner just to chat her up but if she's one of the true hard core political activist vegans, I couldn't deal with that in the long term. Seriously, I'd have to have my own oven and pans? No butter on my popcorn?

 

Nah.

 

No one is that pretty.

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-Dumb

 

-Constant facebook/texting

 

This might be a weird one but if I really don't like the taste in their music it is a real turnoff. I got respect for all types of music but there are some I can't stand.

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-Dumb

 

-Constant facebook/texting

 

This might be a weird one but if I really don't like the taste in their music it is a real turnoff. I got respect for all types of music but there are some I can't stand.

Same. Any sign of My Chemical Romance and the love is gone.

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Ooh, sounds fun! Let's see, what sort of superficial stuff can I think of (besides the boring ol' flirts with other girls, abuser, drunkard, etc...)

 

- Snores VERY loudly, and is not remediated by any interventions except the huge PAP devices. Every single time I shared a room with my parents as a kid, I could not sleep at ALL every night. Wonder how my mum did it for 20 years.

 

- Excessive fanaticism about sports. Sorry, nothing wrong with you guys, but life's tough enough without you going into depression because your favourite football team lost.

 

-Excessively vain/concerned about physical appearances. Purely a personal thing - I'd rather be with a guy who wears his pyjamas out than one who takes thirty minutes a day to do his hair.

 

-Very fussy about food. Sorry, if the only place you'll agree to go out with me to will be an organic restaurant that only serves Kosher food... I think I'll pass.

 

Frankly, I don't get why everyone's so fussed about the responses here. One man's meat is another man's poison. Saying 'I would not go out with so and so' is NOT the same as saying 'so and so are bad, worthless people'. Geez, lighten up!

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Same. Any sign of My Chemical Romance and the love is gone.

 

My chemical romance has more to do with a nice Bourbon and nothing to do with music sweet pants.

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As a fellow vegetarian feminist, I don't worry too much about it. They're the ones missing out. (Though I saw the word "equalist" used on LS awhile back, and I prefer that instead of feminist. Even though feminism is about being equal, the term has been given negative connotations by nutters who use "I'm a feminist" as an excuse to act like total jerks and stomp on men, because they hate them, not because they want equal treatment.)

 

When people think of vegetarians and feminists, I think they're imagining one or more of the following:

- totally butch, lumberjack looking

- smelly, unshaved, hippy

- b*tchy, nagging, emasculating loud mouths. (The kind who throw paint, smack burgers out of people's hands, and shriek, "Don't open the door for me! I'm capable of doing it myself!")

 

I doubt many of these guys listing "vegetarian" as a deal breaker would turn down Natalie Portman if she were looking for a date.

 

My personal favorites are the ones who use feminism like a sorority.

 

I just pledged Kappa Kappa Feminism! I'm SUPPOSED to be slutty! /giggle giggle. Empowered women! /spreads legs. It's okay to be nasty because I read "The Ethical Slut!" I'm a feminist! Honest!

 

Someone needs to shoot them.

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I'm just afraid of the problems your illness can bring, I'm sorry. As for Ms Portman, she's a hottie and while I understand and agree with the health benefits of a meat free or vastly meat reduced diet vegans are too militant for me to live around.

 

There's an episode of the show Top Chef that Natalie Portman is on. It's about them making and eating vegetarian meal, so you can see how she addresses her views on the subject. If you watched it, you'd see that not all vegetarians or vegans are militant. Ms. Portman is very charming and classy about it and even laughs at the jokes, like when someone says one of the dishes was good except it needed meat.

 

I wasn't referring to just her looks when I used Natalie Portman as an example.

 

There are many people with all kinds of beliefs that like to rant and push those beliefs onto others (religious, political, etc). Then there are also those like myself who believe people should be able to choose for themselves and who instead prefer to lead by example. If someone wants to eat meat, I don't think that's any of my business, and screaming at them about it will hardly change their mind. It'll just make me look like a raving loony. And if someone doesn't want to date me simply because I'm vegetarian, that's fine. I figure they're probably of the same closed-minded type that are often the ones screaming and yelling and telling others what to do. Not my problem.

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Someone with extreme political views. I met a girl at a school reunion who liked me, but I just couldn't tolerate her far left-wing political views and I swear that she wanted to talk/complain about politics most of the time. Someone like that is annoying and very boring, at least to me.

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