Beebie Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 OK, I could do with some really good advice from my friends here at LS. My full story is here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t205051/ but this is a brief summary of my situation. Been married 15 years. 9 weeks ago H comes home to say he wants a divorce. He said he's not been happy for "a long time" and wants out of the marriage. Total bombshell to me - I had no idea he was unhappy because he said nothing about it to me. He denies seeing anyone else but I'm absolutely certain there is. 2 weeks after he announces he wants a divorce, I do some digging to try to find evidence of his cheating and came across some explicit photo's on his computer. These pictures were taken in 2003 in HIS car and on HIS camera and I know who the woman in the pictures is (she is the ex wife of H's business partner). I've been quietly simmering all afternoon about these photo's and although I have no evidence that the woman in these pictures is the woman he is seeing NOW, I've reached a point of absolute fury and I want to know what I should do. At the moment, H still doesn't know I've found these photo's but I've presented them to my Solicitor. Should I contact the woman in the photo's and confront her? I BELIEVE she is still married, but may be wrong. Do I confront my husband with them and make him explain himself, then expose them both for the liars and cheats they are? Or do I just keep quiet and hopefully let justice take its course. I'm not really sure what I'd be trying to achieve. What I DO know is I feel both H and this woman have taken me for a fool and I want to get back at them. Why should they be protected from others knowing the truth? Could do with some good advice. I'm not thinking straight!
JaneDoe35 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Hi Beebie, thanks for your post on my thread...I really appreciate your words and they were not too harsh at all. I honestly don't know what you should do with your evidence..... Probably don't confront your husband, confronting her 'husband' sounds better, if they are still married. I know that anger....I have been feeling it too. At times it feels overwhelming. Sorry that I cant tell you what you should do. But I want you to know that I am thinking of you.
Auroracoladybug Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Beebie check out Floridapad's thread...you will see that it is a big decision...most of all I would let him know that you know about it but don't give the evidence just act as if you have known for a while.
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