Author worldcavedin Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 hello everyone, please excuse me for my preceding ramble. I have been out on the tiles tonight(out to clubs) and i have drunk vast amounts of the merry juice! hiccup! Well it went very well as this is the first time out since my break-up, i had a great time, but as of now(6.30am) i am back in the house and i am thinking of my ex:-( but i am not going to call her. I did not think of her at alll tonight, hooray!!. You know what i am more concerned about hte recent floods in britain and i feeel sad for tho copper who lost his life whilst trying to protect the public from crossing a bridge but eventually the bridge collapsed and he was swept away to his death, a true hero. i would like to say well done to the goverment for their announcement that they are going to test every bridge in britain to ensure that they will not collapsein any future floods. its is these sort of actions that make me proud to be British. Oh i do miss my wife terribly right now. Hang in there everyone, you input and support is valuable to each and every one of us that frequent this web site. Hail Hail
Author worldcavedin Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 any way forgotto say that i need to go to bed as i am going to the footy(soccer) today and i am getting picked up in 2 hours and as you know i will need to drink again as the journey is more than 3 hours so i am pissed just nw and i am going to be extremely pissed by the time it hits 11.30am on a sunday morning. so goodnight everyone
Author worldcavedin Posted November 22, 2009 Author Posted November 22, 2009 back to sober land and starting to think that i am now accepting that she probably wont come back, so what do you do then? You think that youve accecpted the situation and yet there is still pain in your heart! I can only see two ways that you can go, 1. Dust yourself down, move on and learn from mistakes made and make yourself happy and content again. But you get the sense that you doing it to try and impress the ex. Which then makes you think: Have i really accepted that its over? because why would i want to impress her? 2. Just spirral out of control and get drunk/high, go party hard and f..k anyone and everyone. Which as being male, there is an appeal to the spirral out of control path!! but not socialbly accecptable. confusing!!! i think ill go for option 1, and try not to do it to impress her. I woud like to go for option 2, but got to stick with option 1
name witheld Posted November 22, 2009 Posted November 22, 2009 At the end of a previous relationship I went with option 2. It was the saddest, lonliest existence and I functioned just to get the next ride. What an absolute emptyness and I suppose i never got over the relationship because i never faced up to it. After about 6-12 months of this I got fed up and came out of it. Not long after i met someone else. This was my last girlfriend and now the love of my life but I suspect that the ghosts of my previous relationship influenced my behaviour towards this girl. So what I'm basically saying is, had i gone option 1 things might have been different and having had the right time to heal and grieve, may just have treated this one better. So thats the way i think you should go. Not easy as a bloke but I would say everything in moderation. No harm in meeting women and dating if you are ready and thats what you want to do. is good practise for when you meet the next special lady in your life! Have to say I salute your attitude. Wish mine was as positive when i come on here after a night out. (read some of my 3am posts - one of on this thread) Amazed your not experiencing absolute depression after two days in a row! I guess that must be down to attitude though - well done!
Author worldcavedin Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 hi everyone, just a wee update. Thought i was over the worst of it(well maybe i am). In the last few days i have been quite chirpy and not really thought ofthe ex. I am trying the nc which i think is the best way but as i have a couple of kids to the girl it is virtually impossable. So what i am doing is not contacting her but obviously she contacts me to make arrangements for when i have to get access, so when she texts me about the kids i reply and am quite pleasant in my response, but in the previous two days i feel as if she assumes that everything is ok now and she is very happy, it is doing my head in knowing that she is away with the new guy enjoying herself and all those crazy thoughts are coming back into my head. Anyway just wanted to get my thoughts out and hopefully get some advice, i could go on but hey i dont want to bore you all. Happy thanksgiving to all in the states, hope your day is not too bad
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