am I a pig if I don't want a woman who has ever been

[TheLoneSock]

I have. And not from having multiple partners. I was in a committed relationship. He purported to be too.

 

Funny how things work out. If had only ever had three sexual partners, my first love, the father of my child and my ex-husband in my nearly 25 year sex life I would still have caught a disease.

 

Eww does that mean you've spread that to the dozens of other guys you've been with by now?

[betamanlet]

Good point. Could make the same argument for not using public transport, elevators, doctor's waiting rooms, libraries. That's some scary *****...time to retreat into my sterile bubble...are you still coming over to share a chlorinated water later?

 

 

Sitting on a bus or in an elevator is a little bit different than sharing bodily fluids and being physically inside of another person, or having another person being physically inside of you. YOu cannot be this naive, are you?

[betamanlet]

Than I am doing pretty well considering I have NEVER had a disease.

 

 

 

Exactly. You know nothing about me nor about the women about whom you are making generalizations. For some people, having five sexual partners is a lot. For others, a hundred or so is no big deal. Every person is different in their reasons. You are making assumptions about the "promiscuous women" that you know without really knowing what is going on in their head.

 

Come to terms with that fact and other people's sexuality won't bother you so much.

 

 

All I DO know is that you've had sex with over 100 guys.

 

Sure you'd never had an STD. I think there's a 99% chance you have HPV at least. You don't have to show symptoms to have it.

 

Are you even going to deny you're promiscuous? Youve had sex with over 100 men.

[BG1985]

Luckily for you, betamanlet, guys can't get HPV, they can only spread it.

[betamanlet]

Luckily for you, betamanlet, guys can't get HPV, they can only spread it.

 

 

:facepalm:

 

Wow, and this is with the liberal sex education we have these days. Wow...

 

$1000 says you are Gen Y and your name is probably Connor or Madison.

[CarrieT]

Are you even going to deny you're promiscuous? You've had sex with over 100 men.

 

And not just men...

 

I'm not denying it at all. I'm reveling in my sexuality and countering that it does NOT preclude me from being a loyal and faithful partner in a relationship, which you seem to believe does.

 

I am trying to break through some preconceived that you have developed which automatically equates sexually active women with ones incapable of being faithful. Now it is okay if you want a woman who is sexually inexperienced, but I wonder if you will be one of those guys who come here a few years into your marriage, complaining that your wife no longer enjoys sex.

 

I am trying to introduce you to the fact that women like me exist; sexually active WHEN SINGLE, responsible, faithful, and intelligent. I have three college degrees, own two businesses, am a published author, and have been 100% faithful every single time I have entered into a committed, exclusive relationship.

[TheLoneSock]

Luckily for you, betamanlet, guys can't get HPV, they can only spread it.

 

Having it to spread in the first place, IS getting it. And in extremely rare instances it can effect men in the genitalia regions - most of the time this happens to men in the late stages of AIDS, or in any other instance where a man's immune system is not strong enough to keep the virus subdued.

 

A man %99 of the time isn't effected by it, but to carry the virus IS having it.

 

I hope you knew this...

[BG1985]

Yeah sorry for my poor choice of wording, I meant that men really don't get infections from HPV. If you're in the late stages of AIDS, HPV is not one of your greater problems.

[betamanlet]

And not just men...

 

I'm not denying it at all. I'm reveling in my sexuality and countering that it does NOT preclude me from being a loyal and faithful partner in a relationship, which you seem to believe does.

 

I am trying to break through some preconceived that you have developed which automatically equates sexually active women with ones incapable of being faithful. Now it is okay if you want a woman who is sexually inexperienced, but I wonder if you will be one of those guys who come here a few years into your marriage, complaining that your wife no longer enjoys sex.

 

I am trying to introduce you to the fact that women like me exist; sexually active WHEN SINGLE, responsible, faithful, and intelligent. I have three college degrees, own two businesses, am a published author, and have been 100% faithful every single time I have entered into a committed, exclusive relationship.

 

 

How is your education and your businesses relevant to anything here? Are you that insecure you have to prove your worthiness? Should I be insecure and say I graduated in the top 5% of my law school class, was on law review, have been published and cited in casebooks and treatises? You're obviously insecure about what you've done, hence why you try to justify it. The real test is, would you be ashamed to tell your children or your parents how many people you've had sex with? Would you want your daughter or son to have sex with 100+ as well?

[betamanlet]

Yeah sorry for my poor choice of wording, I meant that men really don't get infections from HPV. If you're in the late stages of AIDS, HPV is not one of your greater problems.

 

It's not just your wording, you are simply wrong. Google HPV genital warts and penises and there are plenty of pictures of them. You are wrong and are spreading misinformation.

[TheLoneSock]

Yeah sorry for my poor choice of wording, I meant that men really don't get infections from HPV. If you're in the late stages of AIDS, HPV is not one of your greater problems.

 

HPV it'self IS the infection. The side effect, if you are unucky enough to succumb to it, is cancer.

 

If you're in the late stages of AIDS, ANYTHING you get is one of your greater problems. AIDS isn't the actual killer, it's the diseases you get secondary to AIDS that kills a person. Getting penile cancer is a pretty big problem, AIDS or not.

 

You should read up on the virus, really. Considering something like %80 of all sexually active adults will get it in their lifetime.

[betamanlet]

And not just men...

 

I'm not denying it at all. I'm reveling in my sexuality and countering that it does NOT preclude me from being a loyal and faithful partner in a relationship, which you seem to believe does.

 

I am trying to break through some preconceived that you have developed which automatically equates sexually active women with ones incapable of being faithful. Now it is okay if you want a woman who is sexually inexperienced, but I wonder if you will be one of those guys who come here a few years into your marriage, complaining that your wife no longer enjoys sex.

 

I am trying to introduce you to the fact that women like me exist; sexually active WHEN SINGLE, responsible, faithful, and intelligent. I have three college degrees, own two businesses, am a published author, and have been 100% faithful every single time I have entered into a committed, exclusive relationship.

 

 

Ah, another red flag, Bisexual. Even more inherently unfaithul because ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE ON EARTH IS A POTENTIAL SEX PARTNER..

[justforfun]

Eww does that mean you've spread that to the dozens of other guys you've been with by now?

 

I'll assume you are joking. Because if you're not then you're an idiot.

[justforfun]

Ah, another red flag, Bisexual. Even more inherently unfaithul because ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE ON EARTH IS A POTENTIAL SEX PARTNER..

 

Oh boy. This has become ridiculous. Why don't you just go flap your red flags by yourself in the corner and not worry about those that are out playing and having fun.

[TheLoneSock]

I'll assume you are joking. Because if you're not then you're an idiot.

 

Yes it was more of a joke to tease you with, I'd assumed you to be more responsible than that.

 

But even if I were serious, that would not make me an idiot. The proper question would be re-worded differently of course, but would still be a good question none the less.

[CarrieT]

How is your education and your businesses relevant to anything here? Are you that insecure you have to prove your worthiness? Should I be insecure and say I graduated in the top 5% of my law school class, was on law review, have been published and cited in casebooks and treatises? You're obviously insecure about what you've done, hence why you try to justify it. The real test is, would you be ashamed to tell your children or your parents how many people you've had sex with? Would you want your daughter or son to have sex with 100+ as well?

 

You are right. My education and intelligence has no relevance to this discussion. Except to illustrate that I make intelligent decisions and not reactionary ones.

 

I am not remotely insecure about what I have done and what I continue to do. Insinuating me into a guilt complex that does not exist is unbecoming and manipulative on your part. There is no "real test" as you are trying to peg people into some pre-defined category of what you feel is right and wrong. Before my parents passed away, they were very aware that I was very sexually active. And I chose to never have children for a reason.

 

The real question is, why does it bother you so much that women want to be sexually active? What is really eating away at you that you are so defensive on the subject? Maybe that you have feelings of inadequacy; sexually or emotionally? Why are you deflecting your own insecurities on others?

[betamanlet]

Oh boy. This has become ridiculous. Why don't you just go flap your red flags by yourself in the corner and not worry about those that are out playing and having fun.

 

 

Let's get this straight, you've had sex with over 100 people, you're bisexual, and you expect me to believe you're capable of being faithful to someone. I'm curious, why aren't you married right now? Possibly because of the commitment it would involve?

[betamanlet]

You are right. My education and intelligence has no relevance to this discussion. Except to illustrate that I make intelligent decisions and not reactionary ones.

 

I am not remotely insecure about what I have done and what I continue to do. Insinuating me into a guilt complex that does not exist is unbecoming and manipulative on your part. There is no "real test" as you are trying to peg people into some pre-defined category of what you feel is right and wrong. Before my parents passed away, they were very aware that I was very sexually active. And I chose to never have children for a reason.

 

The real question is, why does it bother you so much that women want to be sexually active? What is really eating away at you that you are so defensive on the subject? Maybe that you have feelings of inadequacy; sexually or emotionally? Why are you deflecting your own insecurities on others?

 

 

There's being sexually active and then there's 100+ people. I'm sexual active, I've been with 5 women. YOu're trying to expect me to think there's no difference betweeen 5 and 100+ ??? It makes me think you have poor judgment.

[justforfun]

Yes it was more of a joke to tease you with, I'd assumed you to be more responsible than that.

 

Phew...!

 

But even if I were serious, that would not make me an idiot. The proper question would be re-worded differently of course, but would still be a good question none the less.

 

It would have however made you uneducated as to the use of antibiotics and condoms. That would not make you an idiot, you are correct. It would make you a danger to me.

[justforfun]

There's being sexually active and then there's 100+ people. I'm sexual active, I've been with 5 women. YOu're trying to expect me to think there's no difference betweeen 5 and 100+ ???

 

Me me! I know the difference.

 

It's 95+

[justforfun]

There's being sexually active and then there's 100+ people.

 

I don't know the difference between these two though

[TheLoneSock]

It would have however made you uneducated as to the use of antibiotics and condoms. That would not make you an idiot, you are correct. It would make you a danger to me.

 

That's assuming I know you well enough to know that you actually USED those things. Which I don't. Hence why I would have to ask lol

[sally4sara]

http://www.thebody.com/content/art446.html

 

This thread is in sudden need of some sex ed.

 

If you follow the link I've provided, you will see:

 

-Of the 77 HIV positive male injection drug users, 22 percent transmitted the virus to their partners. Of the 163 women who had an STD, 25 percent became infected-

 

 

The study focused on HIV, but many other STDs are transmitted in the same manner. The real people most at risk during sex are women. A woman can infect a man, but it is far less likely. If anyone should be having a low number of partners, it is men.

[DanielMadr]

And not just men...

 

I'm not denying it at all. I'm reveling in my sexuality and countering that it does NOT preclude me from being a loyal and faithful partner in a relationship, which you seem to believe does.

But it MIGHT. Countering...maybe not. Complicating...more likely.

 

I am trying to break through some preconceived that you have developed which automatically equates sexually active women with ones incapable of being faithful.

Common sense. Can't blame him for having doubts.

 

Now it is okay if you want a woman who is sexually inexperienced, but I wonder if you will be one of those guys who come here a few years into your marriage, complaining that your wife no longer enjoys sex.

You flipped it on yourself here.

You wanted to write ....complaining that you don't enjoy sex, becuase she doesn't know how to please a man.

Instead you wrote that "experienced" women won't enjoy sex in marriage that much....probably because they were used to ride different penis every day.

 

I am trying to introduce you to the fact that women like me exist; sexually active WHEN SINGLE, responsible, faithful, and intelligent.

Are you more responsible than a girl who chooses more wisely her partners? Girl who mates only with guys she is OK to have baby with?

I suppose not. The less "experienced" girl is safer bet.

 

I have three college degrees, own two businesses, am a published author,

So you are not trailer trash...good for you.

and have been 100% faithful every single time I have entered into a committed, exclusive relationship.

It is sort of like saying...."I never stole anything in a supermarket...when they had a sign there saying not to steal."

 

Look. I don't say you are not sweet, faithful and loyal girl. But you can't expect a guy not to be a little suspicious.

 

When I read a biography like this, red lights start flashing in my head. And it is not because of epilepsy.

[DanielMadr]

http://www.thebody.com/content/art446.html

 

This thread is in sudden need of some sex ed.

 

If you follow the link I've provided, you will see:

 

-Of the 77 HIV positive male injection drug users, 22 percent transmitted the virus to their partners. Of the 163 women who had an STD, 25 percent became infected-

 

 

The study focused on HIV, but many other STDs are transmitted in the same manner. The real people most at risk during sex are women. A woman can infect a man, but it is far less likely. If anyone should be having a low number of partners, it is men.

 

Just buy a jar of gypsy tears. It protects you against HIV and flat feet.