am I a pig if I don't want a woman who has ever been

[betamanlet]

promiscuous? Other than the one religious woman I know, absolutely every female I know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Somtes 5-6 different guys in a week. I've been with 5 women in my entire life. They've done more guys in a single week. Is there something wrong with me for long thinking this is okay? I just don't believe they'll ever be able to be faithful.

[JustLooking123]

Sounds like you hang out with women who sleep around far more than average. Why is that?

[sally4sara]

promiscuous? Other than the one religious woman I know, absolutely every female I know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Somtes 5-6 different guys in a week. I've been with 5 women in my entire life. They've done more guys in a single week. Is there something wrong with me for long thinking this is okay? I just don't believe they'll ever be able to be faithful.

 

Did you grow up in a whore house or something?

 

If not, your statement is not credible. That might be a good place to begin your self examination.

[betamanlet]

Did you grow up in a whore house or something?

 

If not, your statement is not credible. That might be a good place to begin your self examination.

 

 

Have you been to college?

[b52s]

Have you been to college?

 

 

LOL....touche'...he makes a point "Have you ever been to college?"

 

Whore house...college, what's the difference, right? ROFL!

[justforfun]

LOL...I totally missed that one!

 

LOL....touche'...he makes a point "Have you ever been to college?"

 

Whore house...college, what's the difference, right? ROFL!

[Template]

5-6 in a week. Good lord man, you need make friends out of the bunny ranch.

[sally4sara]

Have you been to college?

 

And even lived a further 10 years in that same Big 10 college town. I still don't know what you're talking about to be common practice for most women.

 

I think when no women will sleep with you, it must make a guy assume EVERYONE else is having tons and tons of sex all the time. This has lead you to create a defense tactic:

 

Girl rejects you, you assume she is uber trashy and to busy screwing 5-6 other guys a week so it doesn't hurt your ego as much.

 

But it doesn't reflect reality.

5.5 x 52weeks in year x 4 years college (usually more ) = at least 286 guys a year and 1144 guys over the span of 4 years, screwed by every woman you've known? Do you get paid to exaggerate much this much?

[betamanlet]

And even lived a further 10 years in that same Big 10 college town. I still don't know what you're talking about to be common practice for most women.

 

I think when no women will sleep with you, it must make a guy assume EVERYONE else is having tons and tons of sex all the time. This has lead you to create a defense tactic:

 

Girl rejects you, you assume she is uber trashy and to busy screwing 5-6 other guys a week so it doesn't hurt your ego as much.

 

But it doesn't reflect reality.

5.5 x 52weeks in year x 4 years college (usually more ) = at least 286 guys a year and 1144 guys over the span of 4 years, screwed by every woman you've known? Do you get paid to exaggerate much this much?

 

 

you're the only person making assumptions

[sally4sara]

you're the only person making assumptions

 

As you wish to believe, but I used the stats you provided. Perhaps a lack of sex effects cognitive reasoning too?

 

Relax buddy! It will get you better results I promise.....

[carhill]

To answer the OP, wanting a non-promiscuous woman is your path. Promiscuous women are not on your path, rather on their own, perfectly valid path. Many paths on the highway of life. Seek out a compatible woman. She's looking for you right now

[thatguy85]

Does it make you a pig? No way...

 

I don't want a guy who's banged 1000 guys either.

[Els]

5-6 in a WEEK?????? :eek:

 

Geez, these college women must have lots of time, to get ONS every night. What's going to happen when they run out of eligible men around the area? (which'll happen in a month or so, most likely) Run a second round??

[betamanlet]

As you wish to believe, but I used the stats you provided. Perhaps a lack of sex effects cognitive reasoning too?

 

Relax buddy! It will get you better results I promise.....

 

 

"affects"

 

can you stop with the ad hominem attacks please?

[betamanlet]

5-6 in a WEEK?????? :eek:

 

Geez, these college women must have lots of time, to get ONS every night. What's going to happen when they run out of eligible men around the area? (which'll happen in a month or so, most likely) Run a second round??

 

 

not that it's common. but promiscuity is.. a friend of mine is dating some chick, and he told her he doesn't recycle, so in her mind she decided she wanted to break up with him, still had sex with him, then has sex with another guy the next day, then changes her mind and doesn't want to break up with him. he's supposed to be fine that she had sex with someone else. she had sex with two guys in 24 hours.

[stillafool]

promiscuous? Other than the one religious woman I know, absolutely every female I know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Somtes 5-6 different guys in a week. I've been with 5 women in my entire life. They've done more guys in a single week. Is there something wrong with me for long thinking this is okay? I just don't believe they'll ever be able to be faithful.

 

 

There is nothing wrong with you wanting a woman who is not promiscuous. You just seem to pick girls who like to date lots and lots of guys. Why don't you try looking to date girls who are involved in church instead of girls who like to hang out at bars and clubs. Don't worry about why and what they are doing with their life. If they want to sleep with 10 guys in one night it is not your problem or business. Just know that there are girls out there who are still "virgins". If you want one start looking in the right places.

[Krytie TV]

No, there's nothing wrong with wanting someone who hasn't been around the block 2 or 3 times. You just need to keep in mind that that limits your options a fair deal. If you can accept that and hold out for the right one, then by all means.

[Lizzie60]

promiscuous? Other than the one religious woman I know, absolutely every female I know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Somtes 5-6 different guys in a week. I've been with 5 women in my entire life. They've done more guys in a single week. Is there something wrong with me for long thinking this is okay? I just don't believe they'll ever be able to be faithful.

 

 

5-6 in a week.. I've had that in a day..

[thatguy85]

:eek::eek::eek::eek:

 

:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

[samspade]

Betamanlet (interesting name)...all women are wh0res on the inside. Your job as a man is to tap into that inner promiscuity and release it. Some women act on their sexuality more than others. I suggest you stop worrying about their bedpost notches and start worrying about your game, inner and outer.

 

Incidentally, if a woman tells you she's had ten partners, she's probably had 20 or 30. They don't count BJs. You will never know the whole truth, nor do you want to, so quit fretting and get yours. Oh and wear a rubber.

[betamanlet]

Betamanlet (interesting name)...all women are wh0res on the inside. Your job as a man is to tap into that inner promiscuity and release it. Some women act on their sexuality more than others. I suggest you stop worrying about their bedpost notches and start worrying about your game, inner and outer.

 

Incidentally, if a woman tells you she's had ten partners, she's probably had 20 or 30. They don't count BJs. You will never know the whole truth, nor do you want to, so quit fretting and get yours. Oh and wear a rubber.

But but, Lifetime TV told me that men are all pigs and women don't sleep around and are innocent angels. Have I been lied to?

[mem11363]

It is impressive that you correctly differentiate between effect and affect. And yet you state that with one exception every single woman you know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Which is the definition of a promiscuous woman, or if you are really concise a slut.

 

There is nothing wrong with wanting to mate with women who place a higher value on their bodies then those in your current social network.

 

There are many types of women who are very selective about who they sleep with. You simply need to figure out their activity patterns - attending church or church events - maybe certain types of clubs - book clubs etc.

 

I also think you need to accept that if you choose to marry someone who believes they have to wait until marriage, you may find yourself with someone you are sexually not compatible with.

 

 

 

 

promiscuous? Other than the one religious woman I know, absolutely every female I know has had LOTS and LOTS of sex partners. Somtes 5-6 different guys in a week. I've been with 5 women in my entire life. They've done more guys in a single week. Is there something wrong with me for long thinking this is okay? I just don't believe they'll ever be able to be faithful.

[Ruby Slippers]

I am not surprised that 20-something women are having more casual sex these days. Sex has been made common -- even dinner table talk -- by porn and the media. It's a natural consequence of the glut of sexual and sexualized media available to everyone these days.

 

Even I, who used to feel that sex is sacred and only did it with a partner I loved, am moving away from that point of view. I just had fairly casual sex that I very much enjoyed with the last guy I was dating, and this is a first in my life. Everyone's pickier, choice is abundant, and we're all less likely to settle down than we used to be. But a girl's got needs.

 

I think it's a major cultural shift, and it's not going back to the way it used to be. So, I suggest you get over yourself and your madonna-whore complex and get used to it. Really, it's about time Americans lightened the hell up about sex. To Europeans, for instance, we seem absolutely Puritanical in some of our views on the topic.

Edited November 12, 2009 by Ruby Slippers

[JohnP82]

Nah, you're not a pig. I don't see anything wrong with having standards as long as you too adhere to those standards. Too many people are willing to jump down your throat for not wanting someone with a past. It's your life! If having a promiscuous past disqualifies someone from being in a relationship with you...so be it.

 

I think it's a major cultural shift, and it's not going back to the way it used to be. So, I suggest you get over yourself and your madonna-whore complex and get used to it. Really, it's about time Americans lightened the hell up about sex. To Europeans, for instance, we seem absolutely Puritanical in some of our views on the topic.

 

I agree that there seems to be a shift in the way people view sex. However that doesn't take away an individuals right to decide what type of person they want to share themselves with. The OP doesn't have to get over anything. If he attaches meaning to sex then he has every right not to want someone that doesn't.

 

Also after going to college and grad. school I really don't find it that hard to believe that a woman could have slept with 5-6 guys in a week. It's not that difficult.

[sally4sara]

I think it's a major cultural shift, and it's not going back to the way it used to be. So, I suggest you get over yourself and your madonna-whore complex and get used to it. Really, it's about time Americans lightened the hell up about sex. To Europeans, for instance, we seem absolutely Puritanical in some of our views on the topic.

 

I see your point Ruby, but he is sorta a madonna in his own right as far as a lack of experience. Not knowing how old he is, he could be a practical virgin compared to your average, well adjusted person. I completely understand why someone with little experience would be intimidated by a partner with a good bit more experience, let alone these odd girls he knows who've been with over 1000 men in such a short span. It must be a sex club located near his home for these to be the only women he knows. Who knows? He isn't ready to examine the possibility that they might not really be so overtly promiscuous, so that topic seems shut down for the moment.

 

His complaints do speak to what we are familiar with and what we believe to be normal. Peppered throughout this thread by not just betamanlet (thats sooo cute ), but other posters too, it is pretty obvious their opinion of women is a low one. To the point where the only humor they seem to be able to enjoy is at the expense of the female gender. It just breaks my heart for them really. Though with these kind of threads, I'm starting to wonder if their attitude is biological in that it serves as a gene pool culling method for the male of our species. They just won't get to breed and infect their offspring with these views. So while it may suck for them - it could benefit us all in the long run? Perhaps a bright side to their misery?

 

If this speaks to the kind of women (assumed or real) he is comfortable with or are use to being around. Any woman who is not like this will come off as an oddity and disruptive to his views (assumed or real); so while he says he wants this kind of woman, he might not be initially attracted. Much like an abuse victim might be drawn to abusers. As well, his attitude would send this kind of woman he claims to want quickly fleeing from him and his pool of options, further feeding into his notion that woman like her don't exist.

 

I do wonder though, if this level of inexperience he has and claims is the reason he wishes to find a similar partner comes from a true believe in chastity as a human virtue, or a simple reflection of his inability to sully himself into promiscuity too.....