Ishan Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I have been going around with a girl for almost thrice but have not yet been able to break that touch barrier between us both... I really don't know how to approach her so as not to make her feel uncomfortable with myself. She has also shown interest in have a long distance relationship with me, but still I have a shivery feeling while touching her......
BG1985 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Just do it but don't think about doing it. It's that simple.
betamanlet Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I have been going around with a girl for almost thrice but have not yet been able to break that touch barrier between us both... I really don't know how to approach her so as not to make her feel uncomfortable with myself. She has also shown interest in have a long distance relationship with me, but still I have a shivery feeling while touching her...... If you don't do it soon, she'llt hink you're a wimp and lose any and all interest in you and will go for a guy who won't hesitate.
Lakeside_runner Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 1. If you're both into sports, go play racquetball or sth. and high-five her after a game... 2. When you're walking or sitting and talking and she has something on her clothing (like a piece of dust or a leaf or sth.), pick it why looking at her and smile 3. Just hug her after a date when there's this awkward moment of silence. Just imagine that she's waiting for you to at least hug her!
Author Ishan Posted November 13, 2009 Author Posted November 13, 2009 If you don't do it soon, she'llt hink you're a wimp and lose any and all interest in you and will go for a guy who won't hesitate. Should I make this move on our Next (so called) Date???
627 Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 find excuses to do it hit her lightly on the head if she says something funny or riducoulous or something(watch it I said lightly) if you are going somewhere and you find her speaking to someone else or distracted by something grab her by the arm and push her lightly towards you and act as if you are in a hurry. I don't know you should be conident and confidence means you should nto care too much about what she thinks if you're afraid and hesitant, nothing will work out for you
Ody Posted November 13, 2009 Posted November 13, 2009 I have been going around with a girl for almost thrice but have not yet been able to break that touch barrier between us both... I really don't know how to approach her so as not to make her feel uncomfortable with myself. She has also shown interest in have a long distance relationship with me, but still I have a shivery feeling while touching her...... Improve your self confidence. Just do it. There are so many ways - lightly guide her by the lower back when you open a door for her in a crowded vestibule. Touch her arm after a funny joke. It does not matter how you do it. If she is receptive it will go over well no matter what, and visa versa. If you are 4th date material it will go over fine. Trust me. Did I mention - improve your self confidence!!
polarvoid Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 (edited) Hi-fives are a good way to start, then/or a gentle touch on the forearm or upper arm - eg laying a finger/open hand briefly on the forearm when making a point in conversation or cupping your hand against their elbow or back of the arm when you walk. Keep this very short and light to begin with, and increase slightly as you go-on. Never be heavy-handed or opressive about it. If you see her becoming uncomfortable/pulling away when you do this, stop. That also speaks volumes about how she may see you. Crooking your elbow and offering your arm when you walk is another, even taking an arm or placing your hand on the back of the arm (see above)/lower back when you enter a place/walk through a crowd is a good polite but affectionate/caring gesture. Again, do not push it if they pull away. Walking in the rain under an umbrella is a perfect opportunity to put your arm round their shoulders as you walk. When talking in a loud crowded place, simply place your hand lightly on their shoulder//upper back as you lean your ear close to them. Again brief but this can be increased slightly or the hand moved closer to the nape of the neck as you continue to talk. As things go on, offer a hug when you meet/part/they look a bit down (would suggest on parting to begin with) again keep this brief and always break-off as soon as they do, or even be the first to stop. Also think about giving a light kiss on the cheek or even the lips after a more special occasion. Once the person is used to this behaviour from you, you may well be able to take their hand/hug them more strongly if they are a bit tired/stressed or after a particularly good/special occasion and you are thanking them for being a great companion. Which might also be a good time to give them a light kiss on the lips. Edited November 16, 2009 by polarvoid
betamanlet Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 Should I make this move on our Next (so called) Date??? Yes, if you don't, you will be in the friend zone and she'll start complaining to you about the guys she dates.
polarvoid Posted November 16, 2009 Posted November 16, 2009 As you get closer to them, also think about reaching out and brushing back any bit of hair that fall out of place when you are talking and IME, most if not all women I've known have been very flattered by having their hair touched lightly - Make a complement about their current "do" and lightly stroke your hand against the hair for example - don't knock it out of place of course, you will be in trouble then!
Pizzaman81 Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 I have been going around with a girl for almost thrice but have not yet been able to break that touch barrier between us both... I really don't know how to approach her so as not to make her feel uncomfortable with myself. She has also shown interest in have a long distance relationship with me, but still I have a shivery feeling while touching her...... Just hug her for CHRIST SAKES!
Devil Inside Posted November 17, 2009 Posted November 17, 2009 OP...if you want to date this woman then you better just go ahead and get it over with. She is going to seriously question if you are into her in "that" way. Have you had problems with touching people in general in other situations?
Author Ishan Posted November 18, 2009 Author Posted November 18, 2009 OP...if you want to date this woman then you better just go ahead and get it over with. She is going to seriously question if you are into her in "that" way. Have you had problems with touching people in general in other situations? no i never had any such problem before in general... do u really believe that its gonna work out this way as u suggested above?
627 Posted November 18, 2009 Posted November 18, 2009 Yes, if you don't, you will be in the friend zone and she'll start complaining to you about the guys she dates. oh the friend zone, what cruel and unjust punishment it is. you don't want to find yourself there OP, it is better to get rejected and never talk to her again then spend an eternity in the fired zone
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