xoxo88 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Why would you tell somebody else you broke up with your partner a week before you tell her and why would you be so lame to break up with her online? I just don't know why anybody would do that.
kickintheaz Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 because that person is a coward and a liar (omission = lying) and does not respect OH and wants to hide behind their computer in order to avoid dealing with the reality of the situation (i.e. normal questioning, tears etc) please don't say this was a long termer? (and in this case I think 'long termer' could be categorised as more than 2 dates....)
Author xoxo88 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Long termer means more than 2 dates? hilarious classification. We were together for a month and a half and also in the period of courtship for more than a month before we were actually together. It wasn't like we just jumped into it. It still remains a mistery to me why he did that.
LovelyDaze Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 ZERO guts. none. One of my exes (about 5 years ago) tried to have his DAD call me to break up with me! And we were already over 21 so it really made no sense. This person has no courage or integrity. PLEASE do not try to contact this person again, at least first. Let them contact you and I would highly recommend staying away from such a loser.
teanoranges Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Agree with lovelydaze. A loser and a coward. Still a child, immature... the list could go on.
ADF Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Why would you tell somebody else you broke up with your partner a week before you tell her and why would you be so lame to break up with her online? I just don't know why anybody would do that. Because some people are only interested in making things easier on themselves. Breaking up with someone online is terribly hurtful for the person being dumped. However, it makes it much easier on the person doing the dumping. It sounds like whoever you are talking about is a selfish coward with no sense of common decency. Sorry.
JolliX Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 Basically what everyone else has said, to make it easier on them. My most recent ex broke up with me over text messaging. When I tried to call her over the phone, and even once tried to stop by her house to talk with her (a move you shouldn't even bother, because it just degrades you and gives them the "you are crazy" excuse even if you're civil about it), she criticized me about being immature because I couldn't accept it was over. I was a flood of emotions and needed to hear reasons, but I got none, and she flipped out on me when I wanted to talk about it and know why I was being dumped. A week later, she contacted me about getting her stuff (over text of course), and I went off on her (partly because I was very mad about how everything ended, and partly because I didn't want her contacting me at all b/c I was doing moderately ok until she did), and she went all pissy on me for being mad, as if I should had been thankful she called. So yeah, all it does it make it easier on you, because they don't have to see you face to face, or even hear your voice. They don't have to respond if they don't want to, and if they hurt you to the point where you break down, they can just leave the computer/not text back, and instantly drop you where you are. It is a coward's method, and between that and offering/insisting on being friends, they feel alright about tearing you apart, and leaving you in ruins. It's even worse when you knjow they left you for someone else. And compounds from there when they've known for a while that they were going to leave you but lead you on. It's how it works. These same cowards won't leave you until they are sure they have someone else, so you will be the last one to know they are breaking up with you. Sorry about how things went down, but the one thing to remember is that they are not a great person, and you will be better off without them, and eventually you will feel better without them around.
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