Lamak Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 It's been nearly 6 months since the break, and I've been NC for 4 months. I was checking my email for some college information and I see an email from "Rokiluvshim". I got slightly nauseous, because I hadn't seen that nickname in months. The main thing that was baffling me was that I blocked her email account. After debating or not whether to read it, I gave up and dove in. "Don't hate me , but .....I love you and ........I miss you ." This is what was on my screen. She went through the process of creating a new email account just to send me that? She's not even really saying anything. It's just something to bait me in. Of course I won't reply, but at the same time I don't get it. I don't get why she even bothered to contact me after all this time. She's the one that broke up with me! /end rant
NopeNah Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Sounds like my ex whenever her "new" guy dumps her. They get lonely and think you'll still be there for them. The best part is when we realize they did us a favor by bailing...haha!
almostpassedit Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 out of all my girlfriends, all of them contacted me sooner or later. out of all my girlfriends, i did not want any of them. the one girlfriend that i wanted to be with, cheated on me and left. out of all my girlfriends, the only one to never contact me was the one that cheated on me. your ex is baiting you.
getbackwithex Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Agree with almostpassedit. Don't respond, don't do anything. She's feeling lonely for whatever reason and only wants you to comfort her and once you've done that...SEE YA LATER!
trueblue72ny Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 that's a Sick Game she is playing with you.
Author Lamak Posted November 12, 2009 Author Posted November 12, 2009 Thanks for the advice everyone. Although I'm pretty sure that this is just a cry for some sympathy I still am slightly intrigued. It's extremely out of character for her to show weakness and when we were in low contact after the break, she stopped saying she loved me. But why now? I hate games.
Confused728 Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 i hope i get somthign like that from my ex someday just so i can reject him!
getbackwithex Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Listen, I was in her shoes (I broke up with my ex, wanted her back) and I still am in a way so here is what I think. First, if she REALLY loves you and wants to be with you, she will say "I want you back". She hasn't so don't even think about responding until you know FOR SURE what her intentions are. Second, ask yourself if you REALLY want her back. What caused the break up? Have you worked on what went wrong causing her to break up with you? if you haven't then even if a second chance were to happen the cause of the first break up will come back. Finally, if you decide that you DON'T want her back, then just delete the email and forget it. I went through hell for months thinking that by being friends with my ex that she might still be interested in me when she wasn't. It was only a way for her to feel better about herself for rejecting me. I know it might sound weird, but don't put her through that. Revenge is not fair to anyone no matter how you feel about them.
Author Lamak Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 (edited) And you guys were right, she was doing it out of guilt. Turns out she's been flirting with this new guy and must feel bad. The way she is acting is totally out of character and I have lost any desire for a reconciliation. She's acting fake as hell and I don't want to be a part of it. Sadly, it feels like I'm on day 1 of NC again. Edited November 14, 2009 by Lamak
Author Lamak Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 F it. I finally gave in and broke my 4 month long NC. Ended up sending a long as hell email regarding how she's changed. Gotta get back on the NC horse...
McGrupp Posted November 14, 2009 Posted November 14, 2009 that sucks. i mean that you broke NC. i expect a similar email at some point. maybe, actually, no. but maybe. who cares...
Author Lamak Posted November 14, 2009 Author Posted November 14, 2009 that sucks. i mean that you broke NC. i expect a similar email at some point. maybe, actually, no. but maybe. who cares...You should hope you don't get an email like that. Also, I'm actually pretty neutral about breaking NC. Sometimes you have to say what you need to say and be done with it.
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