RangersFC Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 So yes, I would have to agree. I am one of the guys that does not date a lot, but I am always more attracted to a girl whom is taken. I never know this at first but its always happened. I do think that after I find out and see the dude she is with that she can do better. I am that step up from the chump she is dating. Too damn bad it never works out as you can tell from my first post on the site. "dated for a year, need her back" its always a crappy situation to be in. All in all, taken girls just have nothing to prove and act as themselves all the time and that's what attracts me. And I think I can say for both male and females, we all enjoy a little bit of a chase! Its too easy when both parties are single. Just throwing themselves at you. Just makes you out for effort into trying to get them out and see if you can develop a connection, which I always have! That's my thoughts!
jaymack Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 There's one guy who is infatuated with my wife and wants to have sex with her. He say's the thought of having a married woman is extremely exciting for him, not to mention that the wife is beautiful :-) I also think it has something to do about having sex without having any commitment. It can also be much cheaper than dealing with a single girl. JMO
Kamille Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) The filter probably filters out fat girls, psychotic ones, mean ones, gold-digging ones and etc. Yes, obviously, a ring on a finger is the best way to certify a woman isn't fat. Else you just have to rely on your own judgement. Who wants to do that? Hmmm. I guess the same rhetoric goes for the rest of that post: why make up your own mind when you can let some other dude decide for you wheter a partner has value or not? I think, Cutieh, that what you can infer from this thread is that some men do go for taken women, but not all men. There's no general rule. The only golden rule I live by: don't waste your time -any of it- on someone who isn't into you. Best to just be yourself and make the most of what you've got, without stressing yourself over stuff you can't control. Edited November 12, 2009 by Kamille
sally4sara Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I think this theory hinges on something I do hear guys say. "I didn't see a ring on her finger so she must not be all THAT taken! Hurrrr!" These same guys will turn around and tell their long term partners that marriage is just a piece of paper and doesn't mean anything...... I think it just boils down to folk just being attracted to who they find attractive. Some have enough integrity to respect the relationship that person might be in when they find they have a SO. Others do not and likely don't respect their own relationship when they have them. If you think its a guy thing - just take a peek in the OW/OM threads.
dreamergrl Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 Some people like what they can't have. OP you are doing the same thing. You are hung up because this guy doesn't like you. I haven't heard you mention anything that makes it so you are really into the guy, more so it sounds like you are hung up over the fact that he isn't into you.
datingsucks Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I'm still wondering 1. Mechanic Guy 2. Chicken Use Your Computer Guy 3. Tenant Meeting Guy 4. Help me Move Guy Sounds like at least 3 different guys under the same exact scenario...are they?
samspade Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 If anything, we men find it difficult to find single women because it seems like every woman who is average-normal or good looking with a good personality, is rarely ever single. Speak for yourself.... You sound like a woman complaining that "all the good men are taken." These are convenient excuses for lack of initiative. There are plenty of beautiful, single women out there. In fact, many are single because there are so many timid men who assume they are spoken for.
carhill Posted November 12, 2009 Posted November 12, 2009 I generally gauge 'spoken for' by wedding bands and/or talk about husbands or boyfriends, assuming the lady is straight. Batted 1000 on my trip to Asia with those I interacted with. Nice to see so many attached happy people
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